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June 1, 2012 By Castimonia

Castimonia Saturday Morning Meeting Topic 05-26-2012

This morning’s topic is a “Musical Topic” where I hand out the lyrics to a “recovery-related” song and we all share. This also relates to our work in Step 5. Below are the lyrics and my discussion on the subject:

Born Again
Third Day

Today I found myself
After searching all these years
And the man that I saw, he wasn’t at all who I thought he’d be
I was lost when you found me here
And I was broken beyond repair
Then you came along and you sang your song over me

(Chorus)
It feels like I’m born again
It feels like I’m living
For the very first time
For the very first time
In my life

Make a promise to me now
Reassure my heart somehow
That the love that I feel is so much more real than anything
I’ve a feeling in my soul
And I pray that I’m not wrong
That the life I have now, it is only the beginning

(Chorus)
It feels like I’m breathing
It feels like I’m moving
For the very first time
For the very first time

I wasn’t looking for something that was more
Than what I had yesterday
Then you came to me and you gave to me
Life and a love that I’ve never known
That I’ve never felt before

(Chorus)
It feels like I’m breathing
It feels like I’m moving
For the very first time
I’m living for the first time
In my life

Topic:

The topic for this meeting is to listen to, read, and share about the lyrics to this song.  To me, this song has special meaning.  This album was released in July 2008 and the music from this album became widely popular in late 2008 and early 2009.  Until 2009, I rarely listened to Christian music, as a matter of fact, I had resentment against the genre thinking all these “Christian” artists were just singing to make money and not for God’s glory, but their own.  Funny how things change when one hits rock bottom.  As I entered recovery early in 2009, I recall listening to various songs from Third Day.  I had heard some music from Third Day during my years of addiction, but never paid much attention to the music or the lyrics until Jesus opened my eyes, my heart, and my mind.

After entering recovery, all of a sudden, all these Christian songs made sense!  We all had one thing in common, we all needed God at the center of our lives, I needed God, not my addiction, at the center of my life.  When I heard the song “Born Again” I recall the tears coming from deep within.  The lyrics spoke to me.  After searching all these years, I finally saw the man who I was, in my addiction, and I wasn’t at all who I thought I was.  When I hit rock bottom, that is when Jesus found me, completely and totally broken beyond repair, or so I thought!  And after entering recovery, and trying to live a life of honesty, my life was beginning to feel like I was really living it for the very first time.  Such a huge burden was lifted off of me when I entered recovery.

Then, as the female vocalist sings, the meaning for me was twofold.  First, it is me asking God to help me believe that this feeling of love I have is real and true and that it is only the beginning.  Secondly, as the female sings, I can picture my wife saying these same words, that I promise her that this new love she feels from me and for me is real and true, and that it is just the beginning of something wonderful.

Living a life of recovery, especially after doing a disclosure, is truly liberating and basically a “do-over” in life, not only with our spouses but with all of our loved ones regardless if the marriage, family, or friendship stays intact.  God gives us second (and third, and fourth, and fifth, etc…) chances, so let’s make the best of it.  When we enter a life of recovery, we truly are Born Again!

Take what you like and leave the rest.

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May 30, 2012 By Castimonia

The Disconnect

Another great video by pureHOPE.

The Disconnect.

pureHOPE’s Noel Bouché shares a brief thought about opposing sex trafficking, and why understanding the “seamless fabric” of sexual exploitation is so important to an effective, just response to this evil.

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May 29, 2012 By Castimonia

Castimonia Thursday Night Meeting

Just a reminder to everyone that we are starting a third weekly Castimonia meeting on Thursday nights!  The meeting will be held “off campus” at another church who was gracious enough to donate one of their rooms for this Men’s Sexual Purity Support & Recovery group!

I look forward to seeing you this Thursday night!

Castimonia Men’s Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
Time: Thursday Nights, 7:00PM – 8:30PM
Location: Grace Fellowship United Methodist Church – Epicentre Youth Building, Room 213
2655 South Mason Road
Katy, TX  77450
281.646.1903

  
Map to Church                            Campus Map

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May 28, 2012 By Castimonia

Memorial Day

Today I am grateful for those that gave their lives so that I could enjoy the freedoms I have living in this country which iniclude the freedom to seek help for my addiction and the freedom to choose the recovery program that is best for me and my sobriety.

All Gave Some, Some Gave All….

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May 27, 2012 By Castimonia

How to Pray for Purity

I read this post from Pure Hope and was in awe of the prayer at the end.  Please visit Pure Hope’s Blog, it has great information on Sexual Purity, some of which, I will repost here.

How to Pray for Purity.

How to Pray for Purity

Posted on May 2, 2012 by pureHOPE

by David Schrock, M.Div.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17, Paul says that we are to be constantly in prayer: “Pray without ceasing . . . for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” Earlier in his same letter to the faithful Thessalonian church, he states, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification” (4:3). In those two statements, you have a clear declaration of God’s will for our lives: that we prayerfully strive for the holiness of Jesus.

There can be no mistaking the will of God about prayer and purity, but perhaps we forget these basic truths, or perhaps we in our sinfulness do not know how to approach a holy God about our sexual purity. And it is probably the case that few of us have heard such prayers in our churches. So how do we learn to pray for purity?

Recently, I was reading through Scotty Smith’s prayer book, Everyday Prayers, and I came across a model prayer by Pastor Smith based on 1 Corinthians 6:14-18. It is a prayer that meditates on the “brokenness and beauty of human sexuality.” Take a listen:

Holy and loving Jesus, so many thoughts are swirling through my head this morning. I’ve never been more aware of the pervasiveness of sexual brokenness—everywhere I go, everywhere I look, including in the mirror. It’s like we’re living in the Corinth of Paul’s day. So many of us bear the wounds, feel the shame, know the disconnect of our sexual brokenness and sin. And yet the gospel dares us to hope.

Indeed, hope—that’s the greater impulse of my heart this morning. In fact, as I ponder what Paul was saying to the Corinthians, I am left speechless—overwhelmed at the beauty, Jesus, of belonging to you, being desired by you, being “known” by you in the most intimate of all ways.

Dare I say it, Lord Jesus? Whatever the “best sex” is between a husband and wife, it’s only a hint and a whisper of the intimacy you intend for yourself and your bride. Jesus, give me a greater capacity to understand, believe, and enjoy the wonders of the relationship you’ve established with us.

Why should I flee all forms of sexual immorality? Simply because it’s what I’m supposed to do as a Christian? Only because it’s “the rules”? That would never be enough to keep me from acting out in selfish and destructive ways. I’ll flee sexual immorality because you flee to us in the gospel.

You’ve died for us; you’ve been raised for us; you’ve married yourself to us; you’ve united everything that we are to yourself. We’re already one with you “in spirit,” and we await your return and our resurrection. Whatever the future and fulfillment of sexuality is, it belongs to you.

Until then, Lord Jesus, help us flee all forms of sexual immorality by fleeing to you, our great and gracious bridegroom. In our marriages, in our singleness, in our brokenness, in our need for repentance and healing, be glorified. I pray in your peerless name. Amen.

Smith’s prayer is the kind of prayer we must pray if we are to strive towards purity and holiness. It both recognizes our sin and shamelessly confesses it to our Lord, and simultaneously, it rests in the matchless beauty of the gospel.

May God use this prayer to spur you on in your prayers for purity, for indeed you have this promise from God that he gladly answers the prayers that are in his will (1 John 5:14). And knowing that purity is God’s will for your life (1 Thessalonians 4:3), you can pray with bold faith that God will give you wisdom to walk purely as you daily turn to him in prayer (James 1:5-7). In this way, you and I must pray continually to be pure and holy in a Corinthian age.

To find more daily prayers from Scotty Smith, click here to view his blog Heavenward.

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