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by Ali Burckhartt

For most of my life, I’ve been a naïve consumer, only concerned with how entertaining, useful, or satisfying a product or source of entertainment was to me. In my mind, the celebrities I listened to and viewed on television, movies, radio, etc. were inanimate objects, existing only for my entertainment. For example, the main character of The Big Bang Theory is Sheldon Cooper the genius, not Jim Parsons the actor. However deeply wrong this may be, these people were stuck in my brain as such.

In the past year, I have acknowledged that it is nearly impossible (if not impossible), to strive for a life of purity if I am constantly exposing myself to media that either subtly suggests or directly refers to things not edifying or building up my relationship with God (Luke 11:34, Psalm 101:3-4). I combed through my media outlets and collection of music and movies, deleting and cutting out obvious guilty parties. Easy offenders, like vulgarity, violence, and references to sexual impurity were obvious “goners”. I made some exceptions though for my favorite shows, and continued listening to some songs because “I just listen to the beat, not the words”.

However, spiritual conviction has changed my heart and outlook on this issue.

Just as I had always had a very selfish perspective in my consumerism, I had a very self-centered attitude about filtering my media exposure. I had only been concerned with helping myself and my immediate circle avoid stumbling into sin by cutting the “most negative” media from my life. I had never felt convicted to avoid a certain source or artist simply out of concern for the celebrity’s salvation or relationship with God.

As Eric Vaughn of PC4M explains through his spoken word, Oh Really? (below),  many celebrities earn fame and fortune through depicting or promoting reckless behavior and beliefs. Our culture glorifies sexual impurity and sinful indulgence in worldly pleasures. It is simple supply and demand. If society demands it, these celebrities will continue their current actions and lifestyles to maintain celebrity status. By consuming some celebrity’s products and buying their songs or viewing their movies/televisions shows, I am contributing to the demand, thus encouraging their lifestyle.

One might think, if I am striving for purity in myself, the blame of a sin doesn’t rest on my shoulders because I’m not the one actually committing it, right? Actually, our Father tells us not to lead others to stumble (1 Corinthians 8:13, Romans 13:14). In fact, Jesus says it is worse to be the one “through whom [temptation] come[s]!” (Luke 17:1-4). By contributing to the demand for raunchy sit-coms and explicit music (among other things), I am a part of tempting celebrities, marketers, and producers to continue to produce them.

Excluding these things from my life is not to be done in condemnation. As God declares, I am called to love these celebrities just as I love the friends and family members I know personally (1 Corinthians 16:14) I am choosing not to support specific products or decisions with the prayer they will grow in the Lord.

By purchasing products or watching shows that display sinful thoughts or actions, I am paying for entertainment at the celebrity’s expense, and supporting their ultimate downfall (Proverbs 24:17). Next time you’re buying a product or engaging in the media, join me in stopping first to ask,

“Am I receiving entertainment at the expense of sin from another human being made in the image of God, or am I encouraging them to pursue Christ?”

image (1)Ali is a 2013 pureJUSTICE intern and Senior at Oklahoma State.


Another pastor falls to this problem of sexual purity!  This issue has no boundaries and those that think they are immune are in denial of the problem.  What is much worse is the church’s stance on “moral failures” by their pastors.  Bob should have been in the safest place possible to admit his problem without fear of condemnation or losing his position, instead he has to “resign” from his duties because he is disqualified from leading the church.  It is no wonder these pastors hide their sexual purity issues until it blows up in everyone’s face.  Perhaps if he had a safe place to go for this issue (and the Church SHOULD be the safest place) he could have done something about this years ago.  If anything, he should have stepped to the side, received the help he needed, and when healthy enough, come back to his position.  It almost seems like he was “thrown out on the street” by the church that should be there to support him.  Take what you like and leave the rest.

from: http://www.religionnews.com/2014/04/06/pastor-one-nations-largest-megachurches-resigns-moral-failure/

Sarah Pulliam Bailey

(RNS) Florida megachurch pastor Bob Coy has resigned from his 20,000-member Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale congregation over a “moral failing.”

A statement on the church’s website reported the news: ”On April 3, 2014, Bob Coy resigned as Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale, effective immediately, after confessing to a moral failing in his life which disqualifies him from continuing his leadership role at the church he has led since its founding in 1985.”

A call to Coy on Sunday (April 6) was not returned. But it appears extramarital affairs may have been one reason.

Coy’s church is listed by Outreach magazine as the 14th largest church in the U.S., and one of the fastest growing. The church’s assets are around $135 million, according to the Evangelical Council for Financial Accountability. It is the second-largest megachurch in Florida, according to the Hartford Institute for Religion Research.

Active Word, a media ministry that distributed Coy’s Bible teachings on radio, television and digital media outlets, has also been suspended, according to a statement from the church’s board. His programs were included on Trinity Broadcasting Network, a network that hosts several televangelists.

“We have confirmed that Coy has admitted to at least two affairs in the past year alone and has had a long standing ‘problem with pornography,’” wrote blogger Michael Newnham. Newnham also wrote that Coy was taken off the board membership page for the Calvary Chapel Association, a ministry started by the late pastor Chuck Smith.

Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale spokesman Mike Miller said Monday the church was not commenting beyond its statement.

“We’re not going to speculate on the blogs right now,” he said.

The church has 10 campuses around Florida and has hosted numerous evangelical speakers, including evangelist Billy Graham, author and speaker Joni Eareckson Tada and actor Kirk Cameron.


July 10, 2013 — Craig T. Owens

I’m a techy guy: I love every time I can integrate a new gadget into my daily routine. I’m also a learner: I love the almost immediate access I can get to dictionaries, encyclopedias, histories, biographies, books and other study materials online.

But there is a huge danger lurking in all of this technology—PORNOGRAPHY.

Check out this infographic that Best Counseling Degrees put together…

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Click for a larger view

Here’s the important thing to remember for anyone on the web, but especially for those of us who are parents: Pornographers are hunting for your kids. Porn is not passively waiting for someone to find it. The pornographers are finding more and more aggressive ways to get your kids hooked on their intoxicating drug.

One of the most heart-wrenching statistics I’ve heard recently comes from Josh McDowell, who reports how many people who are now addicted to porn, saw it accidentally for the first time. In other words, they weren’t looking for porn, but porn was looking for them!

Parents, we must confront this atrocity head-on:

  • Talk to your kids. Now! If they know how to get on the internet, they’re old enough to hear about what porn is and why they must avoid it.
  • Check out the helpful resources that Josh McDowell offers at Just One Click Away, or the resources at uknowkids.com.
  • Install a monitoring application on all your web-enabled devices. I like to use X3 Watch.
  • Set limits on how much online time is acceptable, and establish a time each night when all electronic are turned off (this goes for you too, Mom and Dad!).

The Bible says that the devil prowls around like a lion. One of the places he stalks freely is the online digital world. Parents, watch out and keep your kids safe!


by Push4Bone

Some people in the health-related subject or philosophical world do not uncover anything at all dangerous with masturbation as it does not harm other individuals. Masturbation does give short phrase gratification, but it also causes moral decay and spiritual destruction.

If you want to free oneself of the debilitating chains of masturbation, evaluation the recommendations beneath to aid you get back again on the right path.

one)You are a special and exclusive individual. Individuals who often succumb to masturbation see them selves as weak and vulnerable. Do not fall prey to these self-defeating perceptions. Performing so would only make you give you an excuse to keep on doing it. Feel that you are strong and powerful and have control in excess of your steps.

two)You have free of charge will and can pick your route and route. Do not really feel overpowered by your sexual urges and needs to satisfy these sexual pangs. You can select not to be overtaken by fleshy needs. If you truly feel powerless, the far more you would locate justification to self-stimulation and the deeper you would drop into addiction. Exercising restraint by channeling your energies to optimistic steps and endeavors. The more you do this, the less difficult it would be to combat off temptation.

three)Realize that you are not an isolated scenario and are not the only one particular who is having difficulties with this type of dependency. Reach out to other people and confide with them your fears and anxieties. Uncover power and convenience from nicely-that means friends and colleagues. When you offload your psychological stress to caring folks, you start off to comprehend your errors. When this transpires, the road to recovery lightens up and you feel much more determined to rehabilitate and reinvent by yourself.

Addiction to masturbation can be conquered. Educate and inform oneself of the perils of self-stimulation and free of charge yourself from the suffocating chains of self-indulgence. Read relevant resource supplies and speak to sincere and experienced people who can help you realize your own correct well worth.

A personalized lookup by means of the Bible for a solitary looking through on my topic-masturbation I must say was a little bit disappointing because I identified none to my shock. To me, I believe the Bible’s silence on the subject matter is a  Masturbation – The Pros and Cons little bit odd because it goes a prolonged way to converse plainly on other sexual matters such as fornication, adultery and even sexual intercourse with animals. James McCary, creator of Human Sexuality has discovered that about 95% of men and amongst 50 and 90% of females Masturbation – A Christian’s Perspective  masturbate. Also, is the concern of the ‘singularity’ of masturbation. It is accurate that it can deliver some kind of pleasure even though orgasm, but it should nevertheless be described that this forms only a modest part of the bigger complete of sexual intercourse for that reason making it a selfish act. This could direct to extremely critical consequences of obsession, guilt, self-hatred and idolatry in the extended operate.


Posted on July 8, 2013 by maqilrahil96

Here is a FEW symptoms of addictions to pornography and masturbation addictions based on my own experiences and research which all i have experienced.

  • Losing high amounts of energy (becoming sluggish, lazy, sleepy etc.)
  • Caring less of other things that you would normally care about.
  • Spending more time alone with pornography or masturbating than doing regular activities.
  • Isolating yourself and becoming attached to the environment in which you masturbate and watch porn.
  • Having more than frequent mood swings for usually the littlest things and not bigger things.
  • Talking less with people, becoming anti-social, very quiet, scared to communicate, etc.
  • Becoming more ‘violent’
  • Experiencing decreased depression.
  • Feeling guilty or horrible after viewing porn/masturbating.
  • No ability to focus.
  • Memory loss
  • Feeling less aroused and/or interested with the opposite sex in reality.
  • Negative minded thought consisting of sex and/or unwanted thoughts.
  • Having eye troubles.
  • Body pains.
  • No desire for your past desires but instead desire things that you don’t like.
  • Unable to think, process thoughts, having a corrupted mind.

For those men who have been sexually abused as a child, I encourage you to attend our Barrayo meeting on Tuesday nights in Sugar Land.  Please contact Barrayo@merimnao.org for more details.

cut-the-stringsThe more you face the truth, the angrier you will probably become. You have a right to be angry about being sexually abused. You have a right to be angry with the perpetrator, regardless of who it was, how long ago the sexual abuse occurred, or how much he/she has changed. From “The Right to Innocence” By Beverly Engel

“I’ve tried to cut it out, to starve it out, to purge myself of this inherent evil he rubbed off on me. I’ve tried it all; pills and booze, food and lack of food, bruises, cuts and burns. My mind’s shut down, refusing to remember. My emotions have gone on leave, and despite all this, I can still feel the darkness inside me, lingering and waiting to engulf me again.” - From “Power” A poem by Caiti Le


For those men who have been sexually abused as a child, I encourage you to attend our Barrayo meeting on Tuesday nights in Sugar Land.  Please contact Barrayo@merimnao.org for more details.

abused-boy

Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may experience a range of emotions and effects that impact many aspects of their adult lives:

Anger ,Shame, Guilt, Depression, Anxiety, Denial and minimizing, Difficulty in trusting others, Sexual difficulties, Difficulties with relationships, Flashbacks, Memory disorders, Self-blame and self-doubt, Physical health problems, Eating disorders, [and] Substance abuse. Any or all of these aftereffects can combine to produce feelings of depression, isolation and hopelessness. All of these feelings and reactions are normal responses to traumatic experiences. Acknowledging the pain can be the first step in working through the abuse. You deserve support in healing from childhood sexual abuse. You have the right to be believed and listened to, and to express your feelings about the abuse.

Remember:

• You are not alone, and you can get help finding support for all of the ways that childhood abuse impacts your life.

• Local rape crisis centers have information on how to begin healing from your trauma. You can talk to someone over the phone or the center may offer individual counseling and support groups to assist you on the path to recovery. They can offer you referrals for social services or for legal help, too.

• There are many ways to heal from childhood abuse. A counselor can help you create a healing plan that meets your individual needs.

• Help is also available for the important people in your life. Your spouse or partner, friends, family members, children or others may want to seek information so that they can understand your needs and challenges.

• There are people who will listen to you, who understand, and who will help you on your recovery path. You are not alone.
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“The most important thing in defining child sexual abuse is the experience of the child. It takes very little for a child’s world to be devastated.” - Laura Hough