Another pastor falls to this problem of sexual purity!  This issue has no boundaries and those that think they are immune are in denial of the problem.  What is much worse is the church’s stance on “moral failures” by their pastors.  Bob should have been in the safest place possible to admit his problem without fear of condemnation or losing his position, instead he has to “resign” from his duties because he is disqualified from leading the church.  It is no wonder these pastors hide their sexual purity issues until it blows up in everyone’s face.  Perhaps if he had a safe place to go for this issue (and the Church SHOULD be the safest place) he could have done something about this years ago.  If anything, he should have stepped to the side, received the help he needed, and when healthy enough, come back to his position.  It almost seems like he was “thrown out on the street” by the church that should be there to support him.  Take what you like and leave the rest.

from: http://www.religionnews.com/2014/04/06/pastor-one-nations-largest-megachurches-resigns-moral-failure/

Sarah Pulliam Bailey

(RNS) Florida megachurch pastor Bob Coy has resigned from his 20,000-member Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale congregation over a “moral failing.”

A statement on the church’s website reported the news: ”On April 3, 2014, Bob Coy resigned as Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale, effective immediately, after confessing to a moral failing in his life which disqualifies him from continuing his leadership role at the church he has led since its founding in 1985.”

A call to Coy on Sunday (April 6) was not returned. But it appears extramarital affairs may have been one reason.

Coy’s church is listed by Outreach magazine as the 14th largest church in the U.S., and one of the fastest growing. The church’s assets are around $135 million, according to the Evangelical Council for Financial Accountability. It is the second-largest megachurch in Florida, according to the Hartford Institute for Religion Research.

Active Word, a media ministry that distributed Coy’s Bible teachings on radio, television and digital media outlets, has also been suspended, according to a statement from the church’s board. His programs were included on Trinity Broadcasting Network, a network that hosts several televangelists.

“We have confirmed that Coy has admitted to at least two affairs in the past year alone and has had a long standing ‘problem with pornography,’” wrote blogger Michael Newnham. Newnham also wrote that Coy was taken off the board membership page for the Calvary Chapel Association, a ministry started by the late pastor Chuck Smith.

Calvary Chapel Fort Lauderdale spokesman Mike Miller said Monday the church was not commenting beyond its statement.

“We’re not going to speculate on the blogs right now,” he said.

The church has 10 campuses around Florida and has hosted numerous evangelical speakers, including evangelist Billy Graham, author and speaker Joni Eareckson Tada and actor Kirk Cameron.


July 10, 2013 — Craig T. Owens

I’m a techy guy: I love every time I can integrate a new gadget into my daily routine. I’m also a learner: I love the almost immediate access I can get to dictionaries, encyclopedias, histories, biographies, books and other study materials online.

But there is a huge danger lurking in all of this technology—PORNOGRAPHY.

Check out this infographic that Best Counseling Degrees put together…

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Click for a larger view

Here’s the important thing to remember for anyone on the web, but especially for those of us who are parents: Pornographers are hunting for your kids. Porn is not passively waiting for someone to find it. The pornographers are finding more and more aggressive ways to get your kids hooked on their intoxicating drug.

One of the most heart-wrenching statistics I’ve heard recently comes from Josh McDowell, who reports how many people who are now addicted to porn, saw it accidentally for the first time. In other words, they weren’t looking for porn, but porn was looking for them!

Parents, we must confront this atrocity head-on:

  • Talk to your kids. Now! If they know how to get on the internet, they’re old enough to hear about what porn is and why they must avoid it.
  • Check out the helpful resources that Josh McDowell offers at Just One Click Away, or the resources at uknowkids.com.
  • Install a monitoring application on all your web-enabled devices. I like to use X3 Watch.
  • Set limits on how much online time is acceptable, and establish a time each night when all electronic are turned off (this goes for you too, Mom and Dad!).

The Bible says that the devil prowls around like a lion. One of the places he stalks freely is the online digital world. Parents, watch out and keep your kids safe!


by Push4Bone

Some people in the health-related subject or philosophical world do not uncover anything at all dangerous with masturbation as it does not harm other individuals. Masturbation does give short phrase gratification, but it also causes moral decay and spiritual destruction.

If you want to free oneself of the debilitating chains of masturbation, evaluation the recommendations beneath to aid you get back again on the right path.

one)You are a special and exclusive individual. Individuals who often succumb to masturbation see them selves as weak and vulnerable. Do not fall prey to these self-defeating perceptions. Performing so would only make you give you an excuse to keep on doing it. Feel that you are strong and powerful and have control in excess of your steps.

two)You have free of charge will and can pick your route and route. Do not really feel overpowered by your sexual urges and needs to satisfy these sexual pangs. You can select not to be overtaken by fleshy needs. If you truly feel powerless, the far more you would locate justification to self-stimulation and the deeper you would drop into addiction. Exercising restraint by channeling your energies to optimistic steps and endeavors. The more you do this, the less difficult it would be to combat off temptation.

three)Realize that you are not an isolated scenario and are not the only one particular who is having difficulties with this type of dependency. Reach out to other people and confide with them your fears and anxieties. Uncover power and convenience from nicely-that means friends and colleagues. When you offload your psychological stress to caring folks, you start off to comprehend your errors. When this transpires, the road to recovery lightens up and you feel much more determined to rehabilitate and reinvent by yourself.

Addiction to masturbation can be conquered. Educate and inform oneself of the perils of self-stimulation and free of charge yourself from the suffocating chains of self-indulgence. Read relevant resource supplies and speak to sincere and experienced people who can help you realize your own correct well worth.

A personalized lookup by means of the Bible for a solitary looking through on my topic-masturbation I must say was a little bit disappointing because I identified none to my shock. To me, I believe the Bible’s silence on the subject matter is a  Masturbation – The Pros and Cons little bit odd because it goes a prolonged way to converse plainly on other sexual matters such as fornication, adultery and even sexual intercourse with animals. James McCary, creator of Human Sexuality has discovered that about 95% of men and amongst 50 and 90% of females Masturbation – A Christian’s Perspective  masturbate. Also, is the concern of the ‘singularity’ of masturbation. It is accurate that it can deliver some kind of pleasure even though orgasm, but it should nevertheless be described that this forms only a modest part of the bigger complete of sexual intercourse for that reason making it a selfish act. This could direct to extremely critical consequences of obsession, guilt, self-hatred and idolatry in the extended operate.


Posted on July 8, 2013 by maqilrahil96

Here is a FEW symptoms of addictions to pornography and masturbation addictions based on my own experiences and research which all i have experienced.

  • Losing high amounts of energy (becoming sluggish, lazy, sleepy etc.)
  • Caring less of other things that you would normally care about.
  • Spending more time alone with pornography or masturbating than doing regular activities.
  • Isolating yourself and becoming attached to the environment in which you masturbate and watch porn.
  • Having more than frequent mood swings for usually the littlest things and not bigger things.
  • Talking less with people, becoming anti-social, very quiet, scared to communicate, etc.
  • Becoming more ‘violent’
  • Experiencing decreased depression.
  • Feeling guilty or horrible after viewing porn/masturbating.
  • No ability to focus.
  • Memory loss
  • Feeling less aroused and/or interested with the opposite sex in reality.
  • Negative minded thought consisting of sex and/or unwanted thoughts.
  • Having eye troubles.
  • Body pains.
  • No desire for your past desires but instead desire things that you don’t like.
  • Unable to think, process thoughts, having a corrupted mind.

For those men who have been sexually abused as a child, I encourage you to attend our Barrayo meeting on Tuesday nights in Sugar Land.  Please contact Barrayo@merimnao.org for more details.

cut-the-stringsThe more you face the truth, the angrier you will probably become. You have a right to be angry about being sexually abused. You have a right to be angry with the perpetrator, regardless of who it was, how long ago the sexual abuse occurred, or how much he/she has changed. From “The Right to Innocence” By Beverly Engel

“I’ve tried to cut it out, to starve it out, to purge myself of this inherent evil he rubbed off on me. I’ve tried it all; pills and booze, food and lack of food, bruises, cuts and burns. My mind’s shut down, refusing to remember. My emotions have gone on leave, and despite all this, I can still feel the darkness inside me, lingering and waiting to engulf me again.” - From “Power” A poem by Caiti Le


For those men who have been sexually abused as a child, I encourage you to attend our Barrayo meeting on Tuesday nights in Sugar Land.  Please contact Barrayo@merimnao.org for more details.

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Survivors of childhood sexual abuse may experience a range of emotions and effects that impact many aspects of their adult lives:

Anger ,Shame, Guilt, Depression, Anxiety, Denial and minimizing, Difficulty in trusting others, Sexual difficulties, Difficulties with relationships, Flashbacks, Memory disorders, Self-blame and self-doubt, Physical health problems, Eating disorders, [and] Substance abuse. Any or all of these aftereffects can combine to produce feelings of depression, isolation and hopelessness. All of these feelings and reactions are normal responses to traumatic experiences. Acknowledging the pain can be the first step in working through the abuse. You deserve support in healing from childhood sexual abuse. You have the right to be believed and listened to, and to express your feelings about the abuse.

Remember:

• You are not alone, and you can get help finding support for all of the ways that childhood abuse impacts your life.

• Local rape crisis centers have information on how to begin healing from your trauma. You can talk to someone over the phone or the center may offer individual counseling and support groups to assist you on the path to recovery. They can offer you referrals for social services or for legal help, too.

• There are many ways to heal from childhood abuse. A counselor can help you create a healing plan that meets your individual needs.

• Help is also available for the important people in your life. Your spouse or partner, friends, family members, children or others may want to seek information so that they can understand your needs and challenges.

• There are people who will listen to you, who understand, and who will help you on your recovery path. You are not alone.
http://www.miamidade.gov/police/victim-adult-victims.asp

“The most important thing in defining child sexual abuse is the experience of the child. It takes very little for a child’s world to be devastated.” - Laura Hough


For those men who have been sexually abused as a child, I encourage you to attend our Barrayo meeting on Tuesday nights in Sugar Land.  Please contact Barrayo@merimnao.org for more details.

gty_boy_rear_view_jt_111120_wgThe sexual abuse of children spans all races, ages, ethnic groups and economic backgrounds. Sexual abuse means any kind of unwanted or inappropriate sexual behavior with a child, whether or not there is actual physical contact. Tragically, this kind of abuse is not rare; studies estimate that one in four girls and one in seven boys are sexually abused as children. Abusers can be family members, friends of the family, authority figures or strangers. It is impossible to tell if someone is an abuser by simply looking – they may be someone who is highly respected in society and who has a good reputation. Most child victims knew and trusted the people who abused them. Children are absolutely dependent on adults for their physical and emotional survival, and abusers have many ways of wielding this power over children. Abusers may use threats to coerce children, such as the threat of harm to them or their loved ones and withholding of love and affection. They may tell a child that he or she is special, that the abuse is a way to show love for the child, or that the child is responsible for the abuse. If you are a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, it is important to remember that no matter what you may have been told, the abuse was not your fault and you are not alone.

http://www.miamidade.gov/police/victim-adult-victims.asp