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October 10, 2016 By Castimonia

Set Free

Deep Jedi Thoughts

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October 9, 2016 By Castimonia

The Man by the Pool

Only God knows what happened to this man the rest of his life but there is a lesson to be learned from this.  To be transformed or be in the process of healing without gratitude will eventually lead us back into our sin.

His work: Since the man by the pool was an invalid, he may have made his living by begging. His character: His role in the story seems almost entirely passive, perhaps in keeping with his character. He showed evidence neither of faith nor gratitude after the miracle of his healing and even went so far as to give evidence against Jesus to men who were hostile toward Jesus. Sin appears to have played a role in his condition. His sorrow: To have been paralyzed for nearly forty years. His triumph: To have been instantly healed. Key Scriptures: John 5

A Look at the Man

“Do you want to be healed?”

It was an outrageous question to ask a man who had been paralyzed for thirty-eight years, a man forced to beg for a living.

But there was a reason for the question. Perhaps, in fact, the paralyzed man wasn’t happy about the prospect of being healed. Maybe his disability offered a certain kind of security, enabling him at least to make a living as a beggar. His sudden cure would have undermined his many dependencies, his familiar routine, his ingrained view of himself. He would have had to start life all over again.

Or maybe he was offended by Jesus’ warning against sin. Perhaps he thought it would do Jesus good to receive his comeuppance at the hands of the religious leaders.

The story of the man by the pool reminds us that displays of God’s power are not enough to create faith in a person’s heart. Though the man had suffered for many years, he showed no evidence of gratitude and no evidence of belief. We expect him to fall on his knees when he is miraculously healed. But he doesn’t. We expect him to show some kind of curiosity about the person who healed him. But he doesn’t even ask Jesus his name until their second encounter. We expect him to protect Jesus against his detractors, to be scandalized by their blindness and self-righteousness. Instead, he reports Jesus to men he knew to be hostile toward Jesus.

In Matthew’s gospel, Jesus denounces the cities that had witnessed most of his miracles, because the vast majority of people there had failed to repent (Matthew 11:20). His words remind us that, even though miracles are evidence of God’s power and compassion, without faith we are still free to reject them, still free to conclude that his offer of mercy is irrelevant or unnecessary.

Though none of us know what went on in the heart of the man who was healed, we are troubled by the way he responded and the way he failed to respond to the miracle he experienced. We may even wonder if by his own choice he finally succeeded in placing himself beyond the reach of God’s mercy. Only God knows.

Reflect On: Psalm 86:1–8 Praise God: For his grace, mercy, and the faith to believe. Offer Thanks: For the blessings of healing and wholeness. Confess: Any tendency you may have to blame others rather than to admit your own sinfulness and receive Christ’s pardon. Ask God: To give you courage to stand, face those crippling hurts, and live with freedom and hope.

Today’s devotional is drawn from Men of the Bible: A One-Year Devotional Study of Men in Scripture by Ann Spangler and Robert Wolgemuth. Visit AnnSpangler.com to learn more about Ann’s writing and ministry.

 

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October 6, 2016 By Castimonia

John Piper: The Key to Escaping from Porn – Video

This is a video of John Piper speaking to a younger audience about pornography, how it will ruin their future relationships, and how to escape from it.

 

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October 5, 2016 By Castimonia

Journal Through Recovery Entry 07: Preparing for Disclosure

“Hi, I need to reserve a date for an intensive for my wife and I.”

Did I just say that out loud? On the phone?  And really do that?  Ok, I think maybe I need a counselor AND a psychiatrist! My insides hurt.  I am in the early stages of realizing something important, I think:  I don’t want to hide anymore.  I don’t want to lie anymore.  I don’t want to feel this dirty anymore.

In my group meetings, I hear guys talk about how their recovery is their own. One guy said something I actually wrote down: my recovery success isn’t dependent on how my wife responds.  When I heard that, it didn’t make sense to me.  I didn’t get it or even believe it.  That’s why we are all here, right?  To try and appease our wives and save our marriages?

That is what I have been doing. Trying to appease my wife and save my marriage.  Surviving one day at a time.  Sometimes I sleep upstairs in the guest bedroom when my wife doesn’t get overwhelmed by anger.  Sometimes I sleep at a friend’s house when she can’t hold back her hurt and it encompasses both her and me.  So I had been riding this roller coaster of emotion with her through her hurt, letting that be the barometer of my recovery.

This week one of the shares in group was from John 5:6 where Jesus saw an invalid on the side of the rode and asked him “Do you want to get well?” And I answered YES, I do.  I don’t want to be this anymore.  I see a glimpse of what it means.

I was in the car on the way home, listening to the Message on XM radio and heard this song from Casting Crowns about a man who was demon possessed. Jesus asked him, “Do you want to be free? Lift your chains, I hold the key. All power on heaven and earth belong to me.” I do want to be free. Two months ago I didn’t believe that was possible.

I don’t want to be what I have been. I don’t want to be someone who immediately lies. I don’t want to hide in my deception and darkness. I have prayed this prayer before over and over.  What makes me think it will work this time?  I have hope, though.  I have met guys who have been where I am.  They prayed the same prayers over and over with no change.  Until they got help, until they came clean, until they set a baseline for honesty.  They started group, they entered recovery fully, and they disclosed to their spouse.

So, here I am. Calling to schedule my intensive with my wife.  I am actually the one on the phone, scheduling the disclosure, paying the deposit, organizing this for both of us.  And………praying she will go.

“Yes, thank you. Those dates will work.  I will be looking for your confirmation email.”

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October 4, 2016 By Castimonia

Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 21: Doug’s Sex Addiction Testimony – Celebrating Recovery

https://castimonia.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/podcast21-dougs-testimony.mp3

Doug utilizes his Celebrate Recovery testimony to share his struggle with pornography, lust, and sex addiction. He shares the history and foundation of his life that built pathways that developed into addiction.

He highlights the negative choices that he made as well as the chaos of living in addiction. He shows the grace that others can show as well as the true freedom that is possible in getting the help needed.

He is currently sober from alcohol and sex by staying involved in programs that are designed for sex addicts. His story will show how no one is too far gone from the love of Christ and the redeeming power of God.   We can all find hope in recovery through honesty and reliance on others.

For more information on the podcast or to get help please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org.

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