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NEW STEP GROUP – Starting May 13th!

Our founder, Jorge, will be leading a new step study group starting May 13th.  This is his 6th Step group.

The group lasts for about 2 years and you will go through all the steps including the pre-step and post-step work in the Castimonia book. 

They will meet every 2 weeks on Saturday mornings from 800am to 955am before the 10am Saturday Castimonia meeting in Katy. There is no cost to join the group but you must purchase a copy of the Castimonia book, 2nd edition.  Out of town guests will be able to use Zoom to join the group if they cannot attend in person. Houston-area members will need to attend in person.

This group takes a strong, long term commitment and is great for those ready to work the steps and have the Lord change their lives.

Please have any interested individuals contact Jorge at jorge@castimonia.org.

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Giants Yet to be Slayed

Originally posted at: https://way-truth-life.ca/2023/02/21/giants-yet-to-be-slayed/

As born-again believers in Christ, Jesus has given us a Promised Land, and in it is milk, honey, and luscious fruits.  We don’t automatically get this land, though it is ours for the taking.  The old land, where the giants have taken occupation must be extinguished for us to fully occupy.  Our folly is when we live our lives according to the giants allowing them to continue rather than seeking what is rightfully ours through the Word of Christ Jesus. 

The Kingdom of God is our ‘Promised Land’ Everything it contains is found in Jesus Christ. Our task is to go out and discover this land for ourselves and experience the power of the Lord and His Gospel. The biblical description and account of the Promised Land gives us a visual of what the children of Israel encountered. Though what they experienced were literal giants, we can still learn from them if we realize how we too have spiritual giants that we must deal with. We know that in the Lord’s Kingdom, He reigns – not the giants.  Our task is to spy out our land, looking to slay the giants that have occupied territories in our lives.  What brings joy to the Lord is our faith and ‘great is your faith!’ are the words we want to hear our Lord say to us.  The only way is to take our faith and eyes off of the giants and place them on the Lord. The children of Israel did not do this when thy spied out the land:

But the men who had gone up with him said, “We can’t attack those people; they are stronger than we are.”  And they spread among the Israelites a bad report about the land they had explored. They said, “The land we explored devours those living in it. All the people we saw there are of great size.  We saw the Nephilim there (the descendants of Anak come from the Nephilim). We seemed like grasshoppers in our own eyes, and we looked the same to them.” Numbers 13:31-33.

They looked at the scene through themselves and their capabilities.  They looked at what the giants were capable of and the power they had.  We often resign ourselves to what seems hopeless based on ourselves and our own capabilities.  When looking to our flesh and self-will and this will only prove futile and defeat!

Caleb and Joshua on the other hand, saw only the excitement of victory because they had the right perspective.  Unless we have the right perspective, seeing the Lord Jesus Christ and what He has won for us in the work of the Cross we cannot ever expect to live victorious Christian lives. Ephes 1:3-23, Col 1:0-14.

The meaning of giants in our lives can range from old habits, mindsets, and addictions.  They can be things that have happened to us that are what we base our lives and perspectives upon.  They can be difficult people in our lives.  Giants can also be hatred, bitterness, self-pity and so much more.  Only the Lord knows what lies in our hearts.

As the Children of the Lord, we are to go out and spy our land searching for what needs to be extinguished.  We do this in reliance upon the Holy Spirit and through the lens of the Word of God, to show us what we must slay in our hearts.  As we go on with Jesus, He also reveals all that our Land contains in its fullness.  When we maintain faith in the Lord, we are filled with excitement in knowing He has already won!

Here are a few noteworthy things to know regarding battling giants:

  1. Forgiveness is something that we must seek always and apply daily – something giants hate to be around and a deterrent for their re-entry.  Not only to extend it to others but to remind ourselves we are forgiven too.
  2. Letting the Word of God sink into our minds and hearts is also absolutely necessary so we KNOW who is greater and what is His will for us. 
  3. We apply the blood of Jesus to each giant we encounter, but not flippantly like a magic wand.  As we bring it into the light intending to be rid of it – we receive the cleansing of it.  1 John 1:7.

The more land we apprehend, the greater we give glory to the Lord – for all to see. 

Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh, who were among those who had explored the land, tore their clothes and said to the entire Israelite assembly, “The land we passed through and explored is exceedingly good.  If the Lord is pleased with us, he will lead us into that land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and will give it to us. Only do not rebel against the Lord. And do not be afraid of the people of the land, because we will devour them. Their protection is gone, but the Lord is with us. Do not be afraid of them.” Numbers 14:6-9

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The Perfect Step

Originally posted at: http://theresstillhope.org

“We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.” 
        – Step 1, Alcoholics Anonymous

Recovery begins where control ends. We must accept the fact that we have a problem.

Marsha Linehan said it well. “Radical acceptance rests on letting go of the illusion of control and a willingness to notice and accept things as they are right now.” 

Step 1 is the only Step you have to work perfectly. Until you recognize that (a) you have a problem, and (b) you can’t do anything about it, you will never know recovery. 

Recovery Step: The psalmist said, “I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me” (Psalm 51:3). Say it with me: “I am powerless. God has all power. I will trust him now.”

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The Beatitudes: A Path to Discipleship

Although this is taken from a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, it has some good recovery information incorporating the 12 steps. Take what you like and leave the rest.

Matthew 5; Luke 6

The Sermon on the Mount opens with the Beatitudes. The term “beatitudes” is taken from the Latin Vulgate for “blessed are” or beati sunt.[i] In Hebrew, the word blessed is ashrei (oshray) or ‘esher which means “O, the happiness of.”[ii] So Christ teaches that as we develop attributes of mercy, meekness and purity we will become happier. Yet his teachings hold a much deeper meaning.

The early Christian/Jewish scholar, Alfred Edersheim, stated the relationship between the initial state and the promise is not merely a reward for the other. “The connecting link…is in each case Christ Himself.”[iii] How like the Book of Mormon account of Christ giving the beatitudes to the people in the new world where the first beatitude adds “Blessed is the poor who come unto me” [iv] It is clear by learning this attribute through following the words of Christ as guided by the Holy Ghost that we are bestowed with the promised blessing.

Another point made by Edersheim was the beatitudes were presented “successively, progressively and extensively.”[v] They reflect a process to heal, repent, and draw closer to Christ.

Many have compared the beatitudes to the “12 Step” program of Alcoholics Anonymous and the foundation for the church’s Addiction Recovery Program. In the 1930’s, a man named Bill Wilson developed the twelve steps through experience and inspiration in turning to God. Although he did not use the beatitudes per se, comparing these steps to Matthew 5:3-12 shows how remarkably similar they are.

The Beatitudes and the 12 Steps

 Blessed are the poor in spirit,

    for theirs in the kingdom of heaven.

Note: The first beatitude may be about each of us recognizing our own deficits or those places our spirits are poor or lacking. What do we need to improve or change? What do we need to repent of?  When we realize or own weaknesses and turn to Christ, only then are we actually using the gifts of insight and strength he has given us through his gospel. This attitude is reflected in the first three of the twelve steps.

  1. We admit we were powerless over our addiction.
  2. Come to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Decide to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

Blessed are those who mourn,

    for they will be comforted.

Note: Much like mourning the death of a loved one, we must mourn over our own sin and the death of our natural man. Unlike earthly sorrow at being “caught’, we must begin with godly sorrow as Paul taught, “For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”[vi] One of the hardest of the twelve steps is looking clearly at who we are and what we need to let go of.

  1. Make a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

Blessed are the meek,

    for they will inherit the earth.

Note:  Elder Bednar said that being meek includes learning both from the Holy Ghost and from people who may seem less capable, experienced, or educated. He also says that meekness is “the principal protection from the prideful blindness that often arises from prominence, position and power.” [vii] How like this apostle’s explanation of meekness is the next step on the path to recovery.

  1. Admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,

     for they shall be filled with the Holy Ghost[viii]

Note: As we receive the Holy Ghost, we become sanctified of our sins.[ix] It is only through this great gift of the Spirit, through the grace of Christ that this is made possible. As with the evil spirit that the disciples could not cleanse, but had to be removed by the Savior himself, some of our own weaknesses “goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.”[x] This humble reaching for additional help and healing is reflected in the next two steps.

  1. Be entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  2. Humbly ask Him to remove our shortcomings.

Blessed are the merciful,

     for they will be shown mercy.

Note: Having mercy is all about forgiving both ourselves and others.  Elder Uchtdorf said, “Of all the people in the world, the one who is the hardest to forgive… is the person looking back at us in the mirror.”[xi] As we work to make amends and be worthy of forgiveness, we can more easily feel able to forgive ourselves. This seems the reasoning behind the next step.

  • Made a list of all persons we had harmed and become willing to make amends to them all.

Blessed are the peacemakers,

     for they will be called children of God. 

Note: Pres. Nelson has said, “Peace can prevail only when the natural inclination to fight is superseded by self-determination to live on a loftier level.” [xii]  Living on this loftier level, takes thought and planning like the next step.

  1. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when doing so would injure them or others.

Blessed are the pure of heart,

     for they will see God.

Note: We know that “… this is Zion—the pure in heart.”[xiii] Those that follow this path of Christ’s and this similar addiction recovery plan become purer. But as we know after a shower, the cleaning only lasts so long. In the gospel, we weekly renew our baptismal covenants as a type of weekly “spiritual” bath or shower. In the same way, taking consistent personal inventories allows individuals not to slip back into old habits.   

  1. Continue to take personal inventory and when we are wrong promptly admit it.
  2. Seek through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,

    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Note: Finally, having found the truth and becoming free of the addictions that hold us back, we have a responsibility to share that truth with others struggling. Inevitably when we do this, those not ready to listen will grow angry at our efforts. Persecution can be a result, and it is easy to turn the tables and reflect that anger to others. Elder Renlund recently said, “Persecution comes in many forms: ridicule, harassment, bullying, exclusion and isolation, or hatred toward another…We must not be guilty of persecuting anyone inside or outside the Church.”[xiv]

  1. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in our affairs.

Utilizing the beatitudes not only for their individual truths, but as a process can help us to move forward in our efforts to become nearer to Jesus. Elder Meredith of the seventy recently said, “There is no discipleship without discipline.”[xv] The beatitudes could be called the path to discipleship and having written this, I know I need to walk that path more often.

Thanks to http://www.grainofwheat.ca/the-beatitudes-and-the-12-step/