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January 19, 2013 By Castimonia

Male Dominance and Scopophilia in Pornography: Stabbing women with penises…and liking it

I read the paper written below on a film student’s opinion blog and found it profound, the relation of how submissive women are made to be in pornographic films as if they were worshiping the man and his genitals.  Seems pornographers know how to attack a male sex addict’s subconscious with their film directing, helping us to lust after their product, more and more, creating a venue where women no longer have a soul, but instead are reduced to body parts made for sexual pleasure.  One disturbing area of concern is the false belief by female porn actors that acting in a pornographic film is “empowering” or feeling that being objectified (or even sexually dominated) is ok.  From my experience, these are the lies they need to tell in order to not be blackballed from a male-dominated industry.  Because of the graphic nature of some of the examples cited, I have taken the liberty to edit out some of the paper in order to reduce any triggering material.

Male Dominance and Scopophilia in Pornography:  Stabbing women with penises…and liking it.
Posted by cierapeters ⋅ 09.05.12

I used to frequent a non-pornographic site that oddly featured advertisements for live sex chat, which is a site where a person pays a certain amount to chat with a girl and view her on webcam. Unlike DVD’s or streaming video, this live chat allows for immediate interaction. He can communicate what he’d like her to take off, as well as where and how to touch herself. Typically, the chat works like regular chat rooms where everyone involved can see what the other person is typing, however, on some sites for an additional fee the patron can have a few minutes of private chat where the rest of the group aren’t included. The mix of chat and porn appeals to some men because they like to give directions and watch the results. Not all men want to interact though, some simply want to watch and will chose the more standard type of porn, but men are choosing porn and it is my belief that men enjoy porn because they are dominant creatures and heterosexual pornography is all about men dominating women or women submitting to men.

Most porn consists of women pleasing men. For example the positioning throughout the film is decided either by the director if it is a large production, the camera guy if it is more of an amateur thing, or by the guy co-staring in the film. Sometimes the position direction is audible and sometimes it’s not, but in any case it is not the woman deciding. The biggest example of how porn is about women pleasing men is in the foreplay [more specific the amount of time spent on men being pleasured than women]. Speaking of dominance and fellatio, in porn it means the woman literally kneeling in front of a man as one would kneel at the alter when worshiping God in church. Subliminally porn is suggesting that we should worship the phallus. Being on her knees servicing a man is not enough apparently because then he becomes forceful without any regard to whether he is hurting her or even if she can breathe. He is using his penis as a weapon, [attacking the female]. Her life is honestly in his hands [due to the possibility that she will] suffocate.

Often times women in porn are not considered women, or human for that matter, they are objects. They exists solely for men to look at and use for their sexual pleasure. Porn stars, strippers, pin-up girls and any girl in the sex industry is expected to look as if she has no flaws. They have perfect, gravity defying breasts, clothes that leave little to the imagination, shoes with impossible heels, no body hair, and extravagant make-up. They don’t have problems and they always smile. They essentially lack some key human characteristics, it’s as if they are dolls or robots. In chapter 11 of the book America on Film: Representing Race, Class, Gender, and Sexuality at the Movies it says “By breaking the female body down into individual parts, and valuing certain parts more than the whole, patriarchal culture subtly refuses to recognize women as whole and entire beings. Women are instead figured as composites of fetishized body parts that are thought to appeal directly to the sexual desires of men” (Benshoff, and Griffin 248). This explains why pornography uses lots of close-ups on different sections of the body. It’s breaking them apart like one would take apart a mannequin from a department store. It also explains why it seems okay for the guy spit on the girl instead of using lubricant. In any other situation spitting on someone would be unacceptable but in porn it is acceptable. Other  things such as pressing her face in to the bed/couch or slapping the girl in the face and asking her if she likes it are solely for the enjoyment of men and the girl is not expected to say anything other than yes. Girls in porn never say no, they like any and  everything men want.

The reason for pornography’s popularity (in all it’s forms) can easily be explained by the theory of Scopophilia. Scopophilia as defined in Laura Mulvey’s article Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema is defined as pleasure in looking. She stated that Freud associated it “with taking other people as objects [and] subjecting them to a controlling and curious gaze” (Mulvey 344). This is precisely what pornography is, objectifying and subjecting women through gaze. The voyeuristic curiosity that we experience as children (i.e. discovering that girls do not have penises) carries over and we find pleasure in peeking into private worlds and viewing body parts and activities with those body parts that are supposed to be forbidden and private (Mulvey 344). It also serves as a means for those who are not adventurous enough or have partners who aren’t adventurous to experience something new. This curiosity, however can become mutated into an obsession producing “peeping toms, whose only sexual satisfaction can come from watching”, but peeping in the real world is not socially acceptable in American society and that is where porn comes to the rescue (Mulvey 344). It provides the inner peeping tom with freedom to explore and peep in multiple windows of [private sexual acts]. If however, one is tired of viewing in his own home, there are theaters such as Atlanta’s **** ******* where one can pay a fee (free for couples) to view pornographic films in one of their two theaters. A multitude of possibilities without the legal shame and the viewer can rewind or fast forward, pause to savor a particular moment or continuously watch the same scene over and over for hours or days on end and the girls never get tired. These video or web girls never tire of doing the same scene, they never have headaches or menstrual cramps, they don’t have children or husbands to go home to, they are always a click or page flip away waiting to please men.

There are people who would disagree and argue that pornography is not about male dominance. There are men who in fact enjoy role reversal and being dominated. There are not nearly as many websites or magazines catered to sadomasochism or BDSM with a female dominant or mistress, yet it is popular and women who make a living as dominatrixes earn good money. One woman, Melissa Febos tells the New York Post about her time as a dominatrix. She was paid by the hour (around $200) and the clients “consisted of stockbrokers, lawyers, doctors, rabbis, grandpas, bus drivers, restaurateurs and retirees,” who would make their appointments in place of lunch and would “stream in for their midday spankings” (Cahalan 2-3). In such a male dominant society however, men who like dominatrixes are viewed as odd or weak and may feel ashamed if friends or family found out. Yet, everyone needs balance, an opposite of something to even them out and men’s lives revolve around being dominant, thus some men might use it as a way to balance out the other aspects of their lives that are dominant. Their balance comes from a mistress and submitting to her commands.

Another opposing view is that of pornography being strictly for male pleasure. There are women who feel that porn gives pleasure to women also. Feminist author Lynne Segal thinks that “censoring pornography discourages women from completely understanding and expressing their sexuality” and that siding with anti-pornography feminist would be running the risk of “terminating women’s evolving exploration of sexuality and pleasure.” (Segal 148 & 152). Perhaps by seeing other women in pornographic films women will began to feel comfortable trying new things in their own bedrooms. In addition to Segal, other women feel that pornography is a good thing. Even female porn stars view themselves as feminists. Aside from the money, many women working in the pornography industry find the work as empowering. In an interview on ********.org, Annette Fuentes and Margaret Schrage interview six female porn stars in which they discuss using their fame to help them move into other areas such as scriptwriting and creating pornography with better stories that might attract more women. As for the actual sex on camera the women did not feel there was anything wrong with being objectified and that “inherently women are exhibitionists and men are voyeurs” (Fuentes, and Schrage 41-43). In a section of the interview, two of the women express:

Leonard: “Also the very radical feminists such as WAP, who would take us to task for degrading women, treating women like sex objects, exploiting women — women are sex objects. It’s okay to be a sex object.” Vera: “It’s delightful to be a sex object!” (Fuentes, and Schrage 41-43)

This also goes in hand with Mulvey’s theory that there is also pleasure in being looked at. These women enjoy their work and want you to view their films. It’s not only porn stars who enjoy putting themselves on display however, the website ************.com is an alternative pin-up site that features girls of a punk-rock look for those who dig tattoos and piercings. For a monthly or yearly fee members and view artistic nude photos of the girls as well as discuss them with other members and the girls themselves in forums and chatrooms. It’s a “vibrant, sex positive community” with an “audience of over five million visitors” (************.com). The same can be said of of any adolescent to young adult who has a Facebook page. Males routinely post photos of themselves shirtless while the girls bare as much skin as the site’s terms and conditions allow.

In conclusion, pornography serves as a window into the private or forbidden world of sexual fantasy. There are a variety of types available on many different platforms. Although there are some who believe that porn is empowering to women, watching a heterosexual pornographic film shows a perfectly, doll-like, made up girl [pleasuring a man]. In the majority these films the girl does not get to choose what happens to her, she simply submit to desires pleasurable to men. The films do not represent women as whole entire beings but objects and uses the camera frame to cut them into sections. The domination of men over women in pornography is not only the fantasy of almost every man, but also a reflection of American society.

Works Cited

Benshoff, Harry, and Sean Griffin. America on Film: Representing Race, Class, Gender, and Sexuality in the Movies. Oxford: Blackwell Publishing, 2004. 248. Web.

Cahalan, Susannah. “My Life as Midtown Dominatrix.” New York Post. 24 02 2010: 2-3. Web. 12 Dec. 2011. Fuentes, Annette, and Margaret Schrage. “Deep Inside Porn Stars.” Jump Cut: A Review of Contemporary Media. 04 1987: 41-43. Web. 12 Dec. 2011.

Mulvey, Laura. “Visual Pleasure and Narrative Cinema.” Media and Cultural Studies. (2006): 344. Web. 12 Dec. 2011.

Segal, Lynne. Pornography, Opposing Viewpoints. San Diego, Ca: Greenhaven Pr, 1997. 148 & 152. Print.

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January 10, 2013 By Castimonia

Provisions and Protections – Psalm 91

Originally Posted on The Church at Carrollto
Provisions and Protections – Psalm 91.

Psalm 91 King James Version

1He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

2I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.

3Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

4He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.

5Thou shalt not be afraid for the terror by night; nor for the arrow that flieth by day;

6Nor for the pestilence that walketh in darkness; nor for the destruction that wasteth at noonday.

7A thousand shall fall at thy side, and ten thousand at thy right hand; but it shall not come nigh thee.

8Only with thine eyes shalt thou behold and see the reward of the wicked.

9Because thou hast made the LORD, which is my refuge, even the most High, thy habitation;

10There shall no evil befall thee, neither shall any plague come nigh thy dwelling.

11For he shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee in all thy ways.

12They shall bear thee up in their hands, lest thou dash thy foot against a stone.

13Thou shalt tread upon the lion and adder: the young lion and the dragon shalt thou trample under feet.

14Because he hath set his love upon me, therefore will I deliver him: I will set him on high, because he hath known my name.

15He shall call upon me, and I will answer him: I will be with him in trouble; I will deliver him, and honour him.

16With long life will I satisfy him, and shew him my salvation.

Provisions

“Father……according to psalm 91 you have promised to provide for me:

  • Answered Prayer
  • Long Life
  • Honor and Promotion
  • Angelic Protection
  • Peace
  • Divine Health
  • Joy
  • Intimacy with God
  • Revelation Knowledge
  • Boldness
  • Trust and Security
  • Anointing and Authority
  • Healing for my body
  • My Emotions
  • My Relationships
  • Love and Acceptance
  • Godly Companionship’s
  • Wisdom
  • Discernment
  • Skill and Ability
  • Faith
  • Goodness
  • Kindness and Mercy
  • Rest and Safety
  • Deliverance and Restoration
  • Satisfaction
  • Refuge
  • Guidance and Insight
  • Excellence and Endurance
  • Right Priorities and Understanding
  • People Skills
  • Cleansing and Forgiveness
  • Divine Supply and Care

Protections

“Father……according to Psalm 91 you have promised to protect me from:

  • Unseen Dangers
  • Plaques and Sickness
  • Enemy Attack When I travel
  • While I sleep
  • On the Job
  • At Home
  • The Fear of People
  • Fear of Failure and Rejection
  • Fear of Darkness
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of Poverty
  • Fear of War
  • Fear of Accidents
  • Fear of Falling
  • Fear of Criticism
  • Temptation
  • The “snares” of the devil including:
  • overeating
  • anorexia
  • bulimia
  • sexual addiction
  • alcoholism
  • drugs
  • cigarettes
  • pornography
  • Inferiority and Worthlessness
  • Destruction of my home
  • My Business
  • My Property
  • My Family
  • My Possessions
  • Burn out and Stress
  • Insecurity and Confusion
  • Depression
  • Guilt and Shame
  • Demonic Attack

“Father…..I accept these Provisions and Protections for me and my family. Thank you”

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January 7, 2013 By Castimonia

Archbishop of York Calls for Tougher Restrictions on Internet Pornography

Archbishop of York Calls for Tougher Restrictions on Internet Pornography
By Myles Collier/Christian Post Contributor
Orignially Posted 9/5/2012 to the Confirmation Files

The Archbishop of York has joined the growing list of prominent religious leaders in their fight to curb illicit and pornographic content that is freely available to all users regardless of age. In a statement the Archbishop, Dr. John Sentamu, raised concerns that many parents are becoming increasingly familiar with. One of those concerns is how to properly monitor what your child is watching given that gaining access to the internet through various platforms has never been easier. The other concerns raised deal with the limited protections offered by internet providers, as well as the various advocacy groups that support a completely open internet for users around the world. “In our modern world parents have an increasingly hard time protecting their families from online dangers and it is right that we put proper protections in place …

In our society there is a growing loss of innocence caused by increased sexualization on TV, in films, music, magazines, even in the products on our supermarket shelves,” Sentamu said in a statement published in the Daily Mail. “However this loss of innocence can be harmful to our young people. We need to let children be children,” he added. William Struthers, an Associate Professor of Psychology at Wheaton College, recently stated that adolescents in the 12- to 18-year-old range were “rampantly” searching and viewing pornography on the internet.

With the ease of internet access coupled with the simplicity granted by smartphones, more and more young adults are curiously seeking out questionable content. “It’s not a question of if my 10-year-old son is exposed. It’s a matter of when,” Struthers said during a discussion of pornography at Wheaton College. 67 percent of men and 49 percent who view pornographic material feel that it is an acceptable and normal expression for sexuality, according to Struthers. The nature of these attitudes is allowing young adolescents to be “groomed into unhealthy attitudes to sex,” he said. “Many children are easily or inadvertently accessing internet pornography, this is by no means the only danger. Computer manufacturers and Internet Service Providers have a responsibility to make accessing such materials as difficult as possible,” Sentamu said. Among the recommendations made by the Archbishop is for internet service providers to implement opt-in filters which automatically block illicit websites from computers unless adults specifically decide to have access to them through their internet plan. Sentamu has also called on internet service providers to fast track plans to provide customizable filtering systems for new customers. This will allow a single account network to block sites from all devices connected to the same internet account.

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January 4, 2013 By Castimonia

A Letter From Your Favorite Porn Site Before You Got A Girlfriend

For the sake of the members of this site, I have edited out triggering or offensive language.  This fake letter is very scary to those of us who visited porn sites and thought we could hide our secret.  The reality is, on the internet, nothing is secret.  I recall as an administrator of a discussion board, I could find user’s IP addresses and track them down if the need arose.  Never had to do it.  But what if pornographers wanted us hooked on their drug so bad, that they would out us if we didn’t go back?  Thankfully, for a lot of us, we have entered real recovery, having done a full clinical disclosure to our spouses and loved ones. 

WANT TO INCREASE YOUR SIZE BY FORTY INCHES OR MORE? CLICK HERE!! Haha, just kidding. We both know you’d never get close to the stallions we’ve got in our stables. How you doing, kid? Haven’t seen you around in some time. Been a while since “P****Destroyer6969″ graced our front page. How’re things? Still using that “fake_email123456@yahoo.com” address? Haha, just kidding, we know you just made that up.

Yeah, bet you thought you’d slip that by our servers, huh? Man, if I had a nickel for every yahoo/hotmail email address that was some amalgam of “fake”, “p****“, “email”, and “fart”, I’d have exactly $3,455.45. You’d think someone would make an effort and just re-invite themselves to Gmail, and we’d get some classier email addresses. But no.

So yeah, we know about your fake email address. But hey, it’s cool, it’s cool. We’re not judging, it’s just a fake email porn address. No, it’s your real email address that interests us. “sherma43@rutgers.edu” Or should we say Benjamin William Sherman, Jr? From Hackensack, NJ? Yeah, we know all about that. You’d be surprised at how much we know about our customers. For instance, of course, we know that you love “Big T***” and “A***” and “Asian Tentacle R***“. We got that from Google. We also know you’re into “Pre-1970 Liberia”, “Socialism”, and “Liberian Economy”. How’d that paper go, by the way? “Socialism’s Effect on Pre-1970 Liberian Economy”? What did your professor think? What’s his name? Professor Alan Jackson?

You’re probably getting a little uneasy right now. But you’ve got nothing to worry about, we’re harmless. To our customers. To our active customers. To our active, paying customers.

You see, we know a lot about you. More than you think. You’re probably trying to laugh this off now, thinking this is a joke. But I can prove it. Here it comes. Watch this. Andrea. Oh, no big deal, Andrea’s a common college girl’s name. Andrea Thompson. Of Metuchen, NJ. Rutgers Class of ’09. That you’ve been dating since February.

Seems your patronage of our little business has sharply declined since February. See, we’re thinking there’s something of a correlation to be drawn here. You’ve been getting lots of free sex from your little lady love there. You just don’t feel like going through the trouble of logging on and seeing two other people go at it when you can get it yourself. “Why would I want to watch two strangers f*** when I can get my D wet for free?” Haha, we’ve heard that before.

I’ll tell you why you would want to watch two strangers f*** instead of getting your D wet for free. Because if you don’t, Andrea will be getting a lovely new pearl necklace to complement that pretty new bracelet you got her. And you’ll be getting a batch of new videos featuring one of our most recent amateur models, Andi. With an “i” at the end. I think you’ll find her familiar.

So here’s where we get to the point, Ben. We want to see your cyber-face around here a little more often. If you don’t think we’re serious, ask Holli, Brandi, Staci, and Brittni’s boyfriends. They’ll be sure to fill you in.

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December 28, 2012 By Castimonia

Video – Serey’s Story – Abolition International

It is important for those of us who are recovering sex addicts that acted out with prostitutes that all of them prostitute by force, not by choice.  This is Serey’s story on how she was sex trafficked in Camboida – bought and sold over and over again, like a piece of meat.  However, thanks to Abolition International, she has been given a second chance.  I am a believer that everyone deserves a second chance.  I would not be leading this ministry had I not been given a second chance…

Serey’s (pronounced ‘sir-ray’) story is based on a true account from the Transitions’ Dream Home in Cambodia. The Dream Home is an established safe home in Cambodia for young girls rescued from sex trafficking. It isn’t just a safe place for girls rescued from trafficking, it’s a home where they can learn to dream again.

You can help give freedom to more girls like Serey. Support the Dream Home expansion and give more girls the chance to dream again.  abolitioninternational.org/cambodia

Share hope – share this film with your friends and family Wear hope – buy the To Be Free bracelet as a reminder of stories you’ve heard Ignite hope  – host an event and share these stories with your community tobefreestories.com/support.html

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