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Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 23: The Three Circles of Sex Addicts Anonymous

Sex Addiction recovery relies on several tools that addicts can learn from. One of those is the intentional decision to look at all behaviors and categorize them.  Certain behaviors are healthy, others are obviously sinful or dangerous, and other behaviors might not be “bad” but don’t lead us in a positive direction.

Jorge and Doug discuss the power in the circles as well as their history. Listen to how you can find healing in utilizing this resource in your own journey of healing.

For more information, please visit castimonia.org or email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org, and remember that you are not walking this road alone.

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Journal Through Recovery Entry 07: Preparing for Disclosure

“Hi, I need to reserve a date for an intensive for my wife and I.”

Did I just say that out loud? On the phone?  And really do that?  Ok, I think maybe I need a counselor AND a psychiatrist! My insides hurt.  I am in the early stages of realizing something important, I think:  I don’t want to hide anymore.  I don’t want to lie anymore.  I don’t want to feel this dirty anymore.

In my group meetings, I hear guys talk about how their recovery is their own. One guy said something I actually wrote down: my recovery success isn’t dependent on how my wife responds.  When I heard that, it didn’t make sense to me.  I didn’t get it or even believe it.  That’s why we are all here, right?  To try and appease our wives and save our marriages?

That is what I have been doing. Trying to appease my wife and save my marriage.  Surviving one day at a time.  Sometimes I sleep upstairs in the guest bedroom when my wife doesn’t get overwhelmed by anger.  Sometimes I sleep at a friend’s house when she can’t hold back her hurt and it encompasses both her and me.  So I had been riding this roller coaster of emotion with her through her hurt, letting that be the barometer of my recovery.

This week one of the shares in group was from John 5:6 where Jesus saw an invalid on the side of the rode and asked him “Do you want to get well?” And I answered YES, I do.  I don’t want to be this anymore.  I see a glimpse of what it means.

I was in the car on the way home, listening to the Message on XM radio and heard this song from Casting Crowns about a man who was demon possessed. Jesus asked him, “Do you want to be free? Lift your chains, I hold the key. All power on heaven and earth belong to me.” I do want to be free. Two months ago I didn’t believe that was possible.

I don’t want to be what I have been. I don’t want to be someone who immediately lies. I don’t want to hide in my deception and darkness. I have prayed this prayer before over and over.  What makes me think it will work this time?  I have hope, though.  I have met guys who have been where I am.  They prayed the same prayers over and over with no change.  Until they got help, until they came clean, until they set a baseline for honesty.  They started group, they entered recovery fully, and they disclosed to their spouse.

So, here I am. Calling to schedule my intensive with my wife.  I am actually the one on the phone, scheduling the disclosure, paying the deposit, organizing this for both of us.  And………praying she will go.

“Yes, thank you. Those dates will work.  I will be looking for your confirmation email.”

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Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 21: Doug’s Sex Addiction Testimony – Celebrating Recovery

Doug utilizes his Celebrate Recovery testimony to share his struggle with pornography, lust, and sex addiction. He shares the history and foundation of his life that built pathways that developed into addiction.

He highlights the negative choices that he made as well as the chaos of living in addiction. He shows the grace that others can show as well as the true freedom that is possible in getting the help needed.

He is currently sober from alcohol and sex by staying involved in programs that are designed for sex addicts. His story will show how no one is too far gone from the love of Christ and the redeeming power of God.   We can all find hope in recovery through honesty and reliance on others.

For more information on the podcast or to get help please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org.

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Why Internet Pornography Became So Popular

The Triple-A Engine of Accessibility, Affordability, & Anonymity.  No need to go into sex shops like the guy in the animated gif below!

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REVISION – ISA Partner’s Meeting Information (New Number & Access Code)

Castimonia’s primary purpose is to help men recover from sexual impurity and reach a Biblically-based sexual purity.  However, Castimonia fully supports the healing of our spouses via various recovery groups.  Occasionally, we will post information for spouses of men who struggle with sexual purity.  Below is some information sent to us from a couple’s therapist to share with the recovery community.

There is a new call-in partner’s meeting that began last week. Friday at 11:00 am Central, Infidelity Survivors Anonymous started a weekly call-in meeting. These meetings will last for one hour.
Infidelity Survivors Anonymous (ISA) is a 12-step fellowship for women who are or have been in relationship with a sex addict. ISA is the only major partners’ fellowship that I know of that is focused on the trauma partners receive in their relationships rather than on codependent behaviors.

In order to add new features to the call, the ISA call-in meeting has a new number and passcode:

New number (515) 739-1020
Access code: 876512#

You will remain anonymous and after the meeting is over you can stay on the line for fellowship with the other members who were on the call.

Please share this email on your social media accounts.
For more information about ISA, go to www.isurvivors.org.