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People Are Asking God “Why?” – Joe Dallas Webinar

The Church Has Answers. Will We Give Them?

You might be surprised to know how many women and men in our congregations are asking these questions. If they get no answers from the church, they’ll certainly get some from the world.

That’s how it all ends.

It’s how marriages that God put together end, torn asunder because someone gets told they should embrace their feelings over covenant. It’s how spiritual growth ends, because someone gets told their attractions, not their identity in Christ, define who they really are. It’s how Biblical discernment ends, because someone gets told to put desire above doctrine, and wants above the Word.

But that’s not how it has to end! There are answers to the honest questions gays and lesbians have, and we can hardly call ourselves relevant, much less salt and light, if we won’t give them.

That’s why on Wednesday, June 3 at 12 Noon PST I’ll be hosting a 60-minute webinar on how to answer when someone asks “Why Am I Gay? Why Can’t
I Change?”

To register click here

Topics will include:

  • Origins: What causes homosexuality?
  • Outcomes: What happens when people try to change?
  • Opportunities: How can we develop effective ministries for people who want help?

Registration is $19.99, and registrants will receive a complimentary E-book on the topic and access to a recorded version of the webinar.

Plus, an additional 30 -minutes Q & A session will follow the webinar for those who want to stay and have individual questions answered.

Registration cutoff time is Wednesday, June 3 at 11:45am PST. Anyone registering after that time will receive a full video of the entire webinar, but late registrants will not be able to view the webinar during it’s live airing.

I hope you’ll join us.

To Register for the webinar June 3 click HERE

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Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 82: Interview with Joe Dallas – The Game Plan

82 – Interview with Joe Dallas – The Game Plan 

Joe Dallas is an author, counselor, and speaker that is highly sought for his expertise in addiction recovery.  He has his own story of struggling and finding healing in recovery.  He now writes books, hosts conferences, and dedicates his time to helping others overcome sexual sin. 

In this episode, joe and Doug discuss ideas of “being Christian” even though we sin/have sinned greatly.  Is that possible? 

Joe has deep knowledge of working through issues of Same Sex Attraction, so Doug and Joe discuss strategies for men to overcome that.  

Remember that you are not alone on this road of recovery…..for more information please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org.   

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Gays Have Questions The Church Has Answers But What’s The Best Way To Give Them? – Joe Dallas Webinar

Sometimes we’re scared.  Sometimes we’re indifferent.  Sometimes we’re just too eager to please.

So we say nothing.

Meanwhile, too many lesbians and gays are hungry for spiritual truth, wanting to know if God really loves them, what Jesus requires of them, and how to follow Him, yet getting little or no direction from us.

That can’t be right. 

That’s why this Wednesday, April 29 at 12 Noon Pacific Time, I will be hosting a 60-minute webinar on Ministry Approaches to LGBTQ people.

Topics will include:
-Discipling the same-sex struggler in your church
-Answering common objections and questions gays have
-Welcoming LGBTQ people without compromising truth
-Ministering to families with gay loved ones
-Anticipating future church and ministry challenges

Registration is $19.00, and registrants will receive a free E-book on the topic, and outlines to download.

Plus, an additional 30-minute Q and A session will be offered following the 60-minute webinar, for those who want to stay and have their individual questions answered.

To register now, click HERE

I sure hope you’ll join us!

Joe Dallas
17632 Irvine Ave. Suite 265
Tustin, CA 92765
United States

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Same Sex Attraction Speaker Event 6-26

We are posting this message in an effort to help individuals who struggle with unwanted same sex attraction (SSA).

On Tuesday night, Melissa Fisher will be speaking at Kingsland Baptist Church in Katy from 7:00-8:30 p.m. This free event (Though they are requesting RSVP) is being billed as helping family and friends of Same Sex Attraction(SSA) strugglers.  I must say that I read Melissa’s autobiographical book (The Way of Hope) recently and it was hugely impactful.  Her writing is compelling and gripping with her transparency and the life events that led up to her SSA.     It is very powerful even when this is not your struggle.  Real broken life encounter deep Jesus moments.  So if you are available, I’ll see you Tuesday @ KBC.

This link is to view the event particulars and to RSVP by Monday @ 12:00 noon.

http://kingsland.org/resources/events-calendar/41/

This link is a sermon that was preached this past Sunday (6-17) @ KBC where Melissa spoke during a part of the message

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Thoughts on Why We Have Same-Sex Fantasies

Because some of the men who attend Castimonia struggle with what is called, Unwanted Same Sex Attraction (SSA) I thought this write-up would be helpful.

Originally posted: http://porntopurity.com/blog/2013/06/29/thoughts-on-why-we-have-same-sex-fantasies/

I’m reading a great book by Shannon Ethridge called The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts.  So many of us are fighting the battles of masturbation, The-Fantasy-Fallacy-Cover-thumpornography and illicit relationships, but strongly losing the battles of the mind.

I want to get better at this. I also want to learn about what drives my fantasy life.

– In chapter 7, called “Grappling With Gay and Lesbian Fantasies”, Ethridge shares some reasons why men and women turn to gay porn and gay relationships.  (140-142)

MEN AND WOMEN

The “Rebel” Factor – we reject our parents’ spiritual and sexual values and form our own.

The “Ghost” Principle – we lost a significant same-sex figure in our past and are trying to make up for it.

The “Fix Me” Factor – a partner can fix our dysfunctional past in sexual ways.

The “Cannibal” Effect – we admire the strong character traits in another and interpret our feelings as a sexual attraction.

 

MEN

The “Aggression” Effect – we take our anger in sexual ways toward others.

The “Punish Me” Principle – our guilt and shame drive us to invite abuse.

The “No Strings” Factor – it is easy in the gay community to be sexual without relational commitment.

 

WOMEN

The “Pinnacle” Principle – the beauty of the female body inspires the highest art, music, and literature… and us.

The “3-D” Effect – the curves of the female body are more interesting than the straighter body of the man.

The “Safe Refuge” Effect – we run to female figures for comfort.

The “Familiarity” Factor – we run to female figures for relationships and emotional empathy.

The “Danger / Default” Factor – we don’t feel safe around men (usually because of abuse).

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OTHER HELPFUL LINKS I interviewed Shannon Ethridge about her book on my Top Resources For Sexual Purity Podcast  LISTEN HERE (36 min)

BOOK REVIEW – Jeff Fisher of PorntoPurity.com reviews The Fantasy Fallacy

KEY CHAPTERS SUMMARIZED Bartering With Our Bodies (Ch. 5) When “One Flesh” Isn’t Enough Flesh (Ch. 6) Grappling With Gay and Lesbian Fantasies (Ch. 7) Our Fascination With Pleasure, Pain and Power (Ch. 8)