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Unwanted Same Sex Attraction

June 24, 2018 By Castimonia

Same Sex Attraction Speaker Event 6-26

We are posting this message in an effort to help individuals who struggle with unwanted same sex attraction (SSA).

On Tuesday night, Melissa Fisher will be speaking at Kingsland Baptist Church in Katy from 7:00-8:30 p.m. This free event (Though they are requesting RSVP) is being billed as helping family and friends of Same Sex Attraction(SSA) strugglers.  I must say that I read Melissa’s autobiographical book (The Way of Hope) recently and it was hugely impactful.  Her writing is compelling and gripping with her transparency and the life events that led up to her SSA.     It is very powerful even when this is not your struggle.  Real broken life encounter deep Jesus moments.  So if you are available, I’ll see you Tuesday @ KBC.

This link is to view the event particulars and to RSVP by Monday @ 12:00 noon.

http://kingsland.org/resources/events-calendar/41/

This link is a sermon that was preached this past Sunday (6-17) @ KBC where Melissa spoke during a part of the message
http://kingsland.org/media/sermons/same-sex-attraction/126/

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February 17, 2014 By Castimonia

Thoughts on Why We Have Same-Sex Fantasies

Because some of the men who attend Castimonia struggle with what is called, Unwanted Same Sex Attraction (SSA) I thought this write-up would be helpful.

Originally posted: http://porntopurity.com/blog/2013/06/29/thoughts-on-why-we-have-same-sex-fantasies/

I’m reading a great book by Shannon Ethridge called The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts.  So many of us are fighting the battles of masturbation, The-Fantasy-Fallacy-Cover-thumpornography and illicit relationships, but strongly losing the battles of the mind.

I want to get better at this. I also want to learn about what drives my fantasy life.

– In chapter 7, called “Grappling With Gay and Lesbian Fantasies”, Ethridge shares some reasons why men and women turn to gay porn and gay relationships.  (140-142)

MEN AND WOMEN

The “Rebel” Factor – we reject our parents’ spiritual and sexual values and form our own.

The “Ghost” Principle – we lost a significant same-sex figure in our past and are trying to make up for it.

The “Fix Me” Factor – a partner can fix our dysfunctional past in sexual ways.

The “Cannibal” Effect – we admire the strong character traits in another and interpret our feelings as a sexual attraction.

 

MEN

The “Aggression” Effect – we take our anger in sexual ways toward others.

The “Punish Me” Principle – our guilt and shame drive us to invite abuse.

The “No Strings” Factor – it is easy in the gay community to be sexual without relational commitment.

 

WOMEN

The “Pinnacle” Principle – the beauty of the female body inspires the highest art, music, and literature… and us.

The “3-D” Effect – the curves of the female body are more interesting than the straighter body of the man.

The “Safe Refuge” Effect – we run to female figures for comfort.

The “Familiarity” Factor – we run to female figures for relationships and emotional empathy.

The “Danger / Default” Factor – we don’t feel safe around men (usually because of abuse).

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OTHER HELPFUL LINKS I interviewed Shannon Ethridge about her book on my Top Resources For Sexual Purity Podcast  LISTEN HERE (36 min)

BOOK REVIEW – Jeff Fisher of PorntoPurity.com reviews The Fantasy Fallacy

KEY CHAPTERS SUMMARIZED Bartering With Our Bodies (Ch. 5) When “One Flesh” Isn’t Enough Flesh (Ch. 6) Grappling With Gay and Lesbian Fantasies (Ch. 7) Our Fascination With Pleasure, Pain and Power (Ch. 8)

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