Episode 4: What is sexual purity?
Seems like an easy answer, but looking at how it takes a daily commitment makes it a much more challenging concept.
But don’t lose hope! Purity is attainable, and it is worth the time and effort!
Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
By Castimonia
Episode 4: What is sexual purity?
Seems like an easy answer, but looking at how it takes a daily commitment makes it a much more challenging concept.
But don’t lose hope! Purity is attainable, and it is worth the time and effort!
By Castimonia
A Declaration of Independence
Originally posted on July 4, 2012
Today, we celebrate Independence Day in the United
States of America. I am grateful for the freedoms we have been given in this country. Some of the freedoms I had, however, were very harmful to me. These freedoms included the freedom to view and use pornography, the freedom to pursue happiness in legal forms of sexual acting out, and the freedom to worship my own god; sex impurity. I have also been given new freedoms, the freedom choose a recovery program that satisfies my needs, the freedom to say “no” to sexual acting out, and the freedom to call Jesus Christ my highest power, and worship Him fully without fear of persecution or harm against me or my family.
Independence means a lot of things to different people. The definition is written below:
in·de·pend·ence /ˌɪndɪˈpɛndəns/ [in-di-pen-duhns] noun 1. Also, independency. the state or quality of being independent. 2. freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.
In our case, it is freedom from the control of our sexual impurity and the behaviors associated with it. Every July 4th, we not only celebrate the independence of these United States of America, but we should also make the following declaration written below, as edited from the original Declaration of Independence.
I, __________, a man who struggles maintaining sexual purity, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of my intention, do, in the Name, and by Authority of Jesus Christ and my healthy being, solemnly publish and declare, That I am, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent of sexual compulsive behaviors, that I am Absolved from all Allegiance to demoralizing and incomprehensible compulsive sexual behaviors, and that all connection between me and my sexual impurity, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as a Free and Independent man, I have full Power to levy War against my sexual impurity, conclude Peace of mind, contract Alliances in my recovery, establish psychological therapy as needed to do all other Acts and Things which a healthy, sexually pure man may of right do. — And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Jesus Christ, I mutually pledge to my Life, my Fortunes, and my sacred Honor.
My declaration is short and to the point, definitely not as elegant as the one written by our Country’s founders. Also, I wish it was as simple as making the declaration! The United States had to fight a war, and subsequent wars against the British to gain their independence. Furthermore, the United States had to continue to battle against other foreign nations in order to gain full independence. And later, it had to fight a Civil War (a war against oneself) in order to maintain its independence! Even today, the United States continues to fight to maintain its independence, this fight may be against terrorists, against energy monopolies, against corruption, etc… The point is, the United States of American has continued to fight to maintain its independence and must continue to fight.
In this same way, we need to continue to fight against our sexual impurity. We can’t let our guard down. If we do, then we will have allowed our sexual impurity a foothold into our life and that makes the fall easier! We must be always vigilant in our struggle to maintain sexual purity. Sexual Purity is not a right, it is a privilege given to us, by God, on a daily basis, and we must always be grateful for that privilege and do whatever we can to maintain it. We have not been and are not perfect, however, we will continue to strive for progress, not perfection in our recovery.
So we not only declare independence from our sexual impurity but also that we will do whatever it takes to maintain my sobriety. One moment at a time, one second at a time, one minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time!
Take what you like and leave the rest.
By ARMATURAM
In observance of the July 4th holiday our host church, The Fellowship will be closed and we will need to cancel the Monday night Castimonia meeting. The meeting will resume the following Monday night.
By Castimonia
Originally posted: http://purelifepodcast.wordpress.com/2014/07/24/protecting-my-son-from-a-pornified-world/
by Frank Honess
On October 3, 2013, I became an incredibly proud father to Nathan Lee Honess, our new baby boy. And the immense responsibility that I feel for our boy has never left my heart. It’s true that when you become a parent, whether to a little boy or girl, an unexplainable love emerges from places you never knew existed within.

I know that one of my primary roles as a dad is to be a protector to my son Nathan. And while there will be many things in life that I can’t protect him from as he becomes a young man, there are countless things I can help him avoid until that day comes. Namely, helping in throughout the next 18 years to understand what it means to be a man of sexual purity.
I don’t know yet how that first conversation about sex is going to go. Most likely it will be a tad bit awkward, and yet it will be a necessary one. Until that conversation takes place (and beyond), there are a few areas that I want to model to my son in hopes of preventing him from making choices that will compromise his sexual integrity.
You might ask how these three areas can really prevent a child from accessing pornography and other sexual explicit material. Perhaps they won’t. The sad reality in our day is that children can literally be doing their homework on a computer and an advertisement that looks very innocent is really linked to a hardcore pornography website.
But I believe in investing as much love and truth in my son as possible. Helping him build a strong foundation of integrity in his life is my goal. And I believe that will go a long way if I’m able to do it well. Ultimately, there will come a point where Nate will make his own decisions in life. It’s my prayer that he’ll be reminded of two parents that did everything they could to equip and train him to be a man of sexual purity.
By Castimonia
I am just amazed at what God has done with this ministry over the past six years of service helping men who struggle with sexual purity. With this amazement, I humbly announce our first Paratus Men’s Retreat!
Here is some information on the retreat. I pray that the Lord uses this retreat to help men in their sexual purity journey. The link to register for the retreat is at the bottom of this page.
Friday, November 11th – Sunday, November 13th.
Castimonia’s Paratus Retreat is sponsored by Armaturam, LLC and is a retreat for any man who struggles with any type of sexual purity. Paratus, Latin for equipped.
If you are wondering about whether to attend this retreat, ask yourself these questions:
Join us for a weekend dedicated to equipping adult men of all ages, all walks of life, and various levels of struggle with the tools necessary to wage this spiritual battle and emerge on the other side as the sexually pure men that God intended us to be.
At the retreat, we will discuss strategies for equipping ourselves with tactics necessary for battling the enemy. We will discover the true meaning of brotherhood and fellowship. The leaders of the retreat will set the example of vulnerability and accountability. We hope to pave the way for all men to be fully equipped to wage war against Satan’s tempting assaults and emerge VICTORIOUS.
The link above will take you to our host site Armaturam.org.
This site is intended for individuals who struggle with maintaining sexual purity. This information is posted for individuals at various stages in their recovery, year 1 to year 30+; what applies to some, may not apply others. Spouses are encouraged to read this blog with the caveat that they may not agree with, understand, or know the reason for some items posted. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.