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In order to better our own recovery, it is important to learn to empathize with our wives and understand their trauma, pain, and recovery. Below is a video I found of Nicole as she describes her husband’s addiction and their recovery.
Nicole has been blogging for EveryMansBattle.com and XXXchurch.com since 2009, mostly writing for wives of men who struggle with porn.
This 10 minute video is an investigation by ABC News into one of the largest overt underage prostitution rings in America, Backpage.com. It is a sad case when money interferes with what is right and just in this country.
Why has backpage kept their prostitution section open for so long? Demand! The men in this country continue to hire girls from backpage for their sexual acting out. All we can do is help reduce the demand, through our recovery program, and therefore try to reduce the supply….
ABCNEWS.COM – “Nightline” investigates Backpage.com, which advertises adult services.
I saw this short 5-minute video of Dan Hall from the Scratching the Surface documentary; a documentary dealing with pornography and sexual addiction in the church. Dan speak about how he was caught and what he does now in his own recovery.
Working Step 6
Step 6: We were entirely ready to have God remove our defects of character.
“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” (James 4:10)
In working step 6 I need to come to an understanding of God and who He is in my life. I also need to be able to re-word step 6 as follows: We were entirely ready to have God, not me, remove our defects of character. In adding those two simple words, I have come to understand that it is God, not me, who will remove my defects of character. There is nothing I can do to help this other than be entirely ready.
Understanding that there is a difference between wanting and being entirely ready is very important. In the past, I wanted God to remove my defects of character, but I was not entirely ready. I had grown up using these defects of character to protect myself, to survive. Some of these defects of character such as lack of patience, anger, and control helped get me through college and early on into my career as an engineer. I would use these defects of character to my advantage, not realizing that they would be part of my demise and are at the root of why I would act out constantly with my sexual addiction, my rage, alcohol, or drug use.
In order to understand my acting out behavior, I have to understand that my “malady has roots” and these roots are my character defects. I can cut down the tree of “sexual addiction” on my life, but if I don’t cut out the roots, then the tree will continue to grow. Side note, I actually experienced this recently when I tried to cut down a tree in my back yard. Although, I cut it down, it was still partially connected to the roots, as I had to leave the roots in because they were so deep. Within a few days, green leaves were growing on what was left of the tree, laying on the ground. Then, after removing the actual tree, the roots started sprouting new stems with leaves. With enough time, a new tree would have grown in the old tree’s place. I finally had to kill the roots in order to ultimately kill the tree. So too, must we identify and kill these roots, or have our higher power do it. We have to be entirely ready to have God remove the roots of our addiction, for if we do not, then the “addiction tree” will continue to grow!
When we are entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character, when we have finally had enough of our acting out in various ways, when we have finally said enough is enough, and been truly entirely ready to have God remove negative character traits which use to keep us alive, we can move on to Step 7.
In working this step study, I read from two different books, The Twelve Steps for Christians and the SAA Green Book.
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I saw this 6 minute film trailer a while back. I was reluctant to post it because a few of the short scenes concerning prostitution (no nudity, etc…) may be triggering to some sexual addicts early in recovery. I hope that they can look past it and watch this trailer. At a minimum, skip to the 5:06 mark and listen to what Melinda Giovengo, Executive Director of Youth Care, has to say about the reality of prostitution. Also, at the 1:50 mark, you can hear a man who knows he has a problem, but hasn’t identified his sexual addiction and the explanation on “why” he did the things he did even though he didn’t want to “hurt people.”
This project is a raw look at prostitution and trafficking in Seattle, one of the busiest hubs for trafficking of women and girls in the US. With footage taken on the streets of commercial sexual exploitation as it happens, as well as interviews of leading experts on prostitution and pornography, the Rape For Profit team exposes the viewer to the utter depravity and degradation of commercial sex in our communities.
This site is intended for individuals who struggle with maintaining sexual purity. This information is posted for individuals at various stages in their recovery, year 1 to year 30+; what applies to some, may not apply others. Spouses are encouraged to read this blog with the caveat that they may not agree with, understand, or know the reason for some items posted. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.
