Childhood trauma isn’t something you just get over as you grow up. Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris explains that the repeated stress of abuse, neglect and parents struggling with mental health or substance abuse issues has real, tangible effects on the development of the brain. This unfolds across a lifetime, to the point where those who’ve experienced high levels of trauma are at triple the risk for heart disease and lung cancer. An impassioned plea for pediatric medicine to confront the prevention and treatment of trauma, head-on.
Character Defects
Online Infidelity Site Hacked – Attackers Threatening to Expose “Cheating Dirtbag” Customers if Site Not Shut Down
The Leaders of Castimonia do not condone illegal hacking. Nevertheless, we hope that some of the customers hit their true rock bottom because of this and enter a proper sexual purity recovery program.
Online Infidelity Site Hacked – Attackers Threatening to Expose “Cheating Dirtbag” Customers if Site Not Shut Down
Author: Anne Grahn
Date: 7/20/2015
Large caches of data stolen from online cheating site A*****M******.com have been posted online by an individual or group that claims to have completely compromised the company’s user databases, financial records and other proprietary information. The still-unfolding leak could be quite damaging to some 37 million users of the hookup service, whose slogan is “Life is short. Have an affair.”
According to the hackers, although the “full delete” feature that A***** M****** advertises promises “removal of site usage history and personally identifiable information from the site,” users’ purchase details — including real name and address — aren’t actually scrubbed.
“Full Delete netted ALM $1.7mm in revenue in 2014. It’s also a complete lie,” the hacking group wrote. “Users almost always pay with credit card; their purchase details are not removed as promised, and include real name and address, which is of course the most important information the users want removed.”
Their demands continue:
“Avid Life Media has been instructed to take A***** M****** and E********** M** offline permanently in all forms, or we will release all customer records, including profiles with all the customers’ secret sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions, real names and addresses, and employee documents and emails.”
Living Amends – VIDEO
I recently saw the movie The Monuments Men and thought it was fantastic. I especially loved the part that in this movie, one of the characters, 2nd Lt. Donald Jeffries is a recovering alcoholic who basically allows God to change his life so that he can serve as part of this unit of troops dedicated to saving works of art during World War II.
The plot of this movie has been pasted below courtesy of Google:
During World War II, the Nazis steal countless pieces of art and hide them away. Some over-the-hill art scholars, historians, architects, and other experts form a unit to retrieve as many of the stolen masterpieces as possible. The mission becomes even more urgent when the team learns about Hitler’s “Nero Decree,” which orders destruction of the artworks if the Third Reich falls. Caught in a race against time, the men risk their lives to protect some of mankind’s greatest achievements.
What I saw in this movie was a great example of someone in recovery writing an Amends Letter as well as displaying the concept of Living Amends. This is a great example for someone working Step Nine of the Twelve Steps on how to make amends to those that we cannot or should not contact.
I hope you enjoy watching this video as much as I enjoyed creating it. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.
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Baby Steps – VIDEO
I love movies that deal with mental health in a comedic way. When I entered recovery, I used to get offended by this type of comedy as making fun of people like me, but now, thanks to significant healing, I can watch them and laugh along with others and understand exactly what is going on. One of the items I like about this movie is the term the “Baby Steps” that is used by Richard Dreyfuss’ character, Dr. Leo Marvin. This is the same term I use with the men who attend Castimonia regarding any progress that is made in a positive direction no matter how small. Sometimes we need to take “Baby Steps” to move forward in our recovery, not huge leaps. Even a small step in the right direction is progress. Another way we use the term “Baby Steps” is to learn to live in the present, one minute, one hour, one day at a time and take small baby steps towards our goal of a full day of sobriety.
The plot of this movie has been pasted below courtesy of Google:
Before going on vacation, self-involved psychiatrist Dr. Leo Marvin (Richard Dreyfuss) has the misfortune of taking on a new patient: Bob Wiley (Bill Murray). An exemplar of neediness and a compendium of phobias, Bob follows Marvin to his family’s country house. Dr. Marvin tries to get him to leave; the trouble is, everyone love Bob. As his oblivious patient makes himself at home, Dr. Marvin loses his professional composure and, before long, may be ready for the loony bin himself.
What I saw in this movie was the comedic, yet truthful, evidence of living life one small “Baby Step” at a time, learning not to get overwhelmed by everything that occurs in our life all at once, but looking at these events in small manageable parts.
I hope you enjoy watching this video as much as I enjoyed creating it. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.
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The “I Wills”
Originally posted at: http://applyingmybeliefs.wordpress.com/2014/10/20/the-i-wills/
By Applying My Beliefs
When I talk with a young (or sometimes older) couple I often bring this up:
Eph 2:10 – For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them. ESV
Then I might say something like this:
Every person created is God’s workmanship, all of us on the planet are His masterpieces, we are all made exactly as He decided, created by Him and for Him. So, as you look at each other right now, in this moment, say quietly in your mind that “my life’s partner is created just as God wanted him or her.” Then let us recognize that God’s word says that we were created for good works that God had in mind for us before the universe was made. The most important good work that any believer can do in their marriage is to treat their spouse as a God-created person, a child of the most high. When you get in front of Jesus, which we all will, whether we believe in Him or not, he might ask, how many mission trips you went on or how much money you gave to the church or how many people you spoke to about Christ. But this is the big marriage question that you will have to answer:
• How did you treat your spouse?
I might then ask a couple if they want to know how to treat each other the way God intends; and this is what I tell them: “Here is my suggestion on how to do that.”
I’m going to read 1 Cor 13:4-8, sometimes known as the love passage, and from it I’m going to draw a series of choices you can make that will help you have a godly marriage. I call these the “I wills” for these are not just choices, but promises you can make to each other.
1 Cor 13:4-8 – Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
And here are the “I wills” we can extract from these verses:
• I will be patient with you.
• I will be kind to you.
• I will not be envious of you.
• I will not boast about myself to you.
• I will not be arrogant toward you.
• I will not be rude to you.
• I will not insist on my own way.
• I will not be irritable with you.
• I will not resent you.
• I will not rejoice when you are wrong.
• I will rejoice when you live into truth.
• I will put up with your strange ways.
• I will always believe in you.
• I will always hope for the best for you.
• I will endure the worst for you.
• My love for you will not end.
As we hear this list, let us be well aware that it is impossible to keep this list unless God is in the marriage. The scriptures say that God is love, and that all love flows from Him into us through His Holy Spirit and out toward others.
So then, if you practice the “I Wills”, relying on God’s love to give you the power to actually do them, your marriage will be able to withstand the trouble that this fallen world will throw at you.
