Time: 7:00PM – 8:30PM
Location: Lifepath Church – Room 108
17703 W Little York Rd
281.855.0222
Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
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We received this information from one of our Castimonia facilitators who is also involved in the Samson Society group. Below is a great opportunity to attend a “local” retreat. See retreat information in this link:
Brothers,
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Less than half of the men with mental health challenges ever get help for them. The reasons for this are many, including lack of information, stigma associated with mental illness, and masculine ideals. Men who adhere steadfastly to masculine norms, such as power, strength, and emotional control, may be most at risk for negative psychological outcomes. In fact, because so few men seek help for their problems, they are more vulnerable to suicide and substance abuse than females. Joshua L. Berger of Clark University’s Department of Psychology in Massachusetts wanted to examine the factors that prevent men from getting the help they need. In a recent study, Berger assessed the help seeking attitudes and avenues of men in need. He also looked at how they reacted to two common clinical terms: depression and anxiety. Overall, Berger found that the men who had the strongest affinity toward masculine norms were the least likely to seek help. They reacted the most dramatically to anxiety and depression, and were the least likely to consider medication as a treatment option. Berger also found that the men were more inclined to going to therapy if a psychotherapist recommended it rather than if it was suggested by a romantic partner or a family practitioner. They also cited individual talk therapy as their preferred mode of treatment. These findings demonstrate that even though friends and family members may mean well when offering help to their loved men in need of psychological treatment, suggestions from mental health professionals will have the most impact. Lowering men’s risk for suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, and other negative behaviors is paramount, and the evidence revealed in this study may bring the mental health profession one step closer toward achieving that goal. “Generally speaking, these results underscore the importance of considering the specific type of help under consideration when discussing men’s attitudes toward help-seeking,” Berger said. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/men-mental-health-treatment-1220121
“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
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Roger’s journey of recovery has allowed him to face the pain of his childhood sexual abuse and to see how much of his acting out was an attempt to prove that he had what it took to be a man.
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Easy access to online pornography and poor sex education are largely to blame for teenagers suffering from sex addiction, a leading expert has said.
Sex addiction therapist Paula Hall said almost half of those who suffer with the problem first experienced problems before they turned 16.
Her claims come after a survey she conducted in conjunction with the counselling organisation Relate found 40 per cent of teenagers had used pornography before the age of 12 and 90 per cent felt it was to blame for their addiction.
Easy access: The increase in online porn has been blamed for a rise in sex addiction among teenagers (posed by model)The research also suggests that factors such as parental separation, single sex schooling and limited sex education are all contributing factors.
And nearly half of those surveyed had experienced some kind of childhood abuse or assault, indicating this to be a major cause of the condition
Hall’s survey of people with sex addiction, conducted for her new book Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction, looked at the age most people started, what factors led them there, whether they sought help and the consequences of their addictions.
She defines sex addiction in its simplest terms as: ‘a pattern of out-of-control sexual behaviour that causes problems in someone’s life’.
Russell Brand claimed sex addiction almost ruined his careerThe survey also highlights the contrasts between male and female attitudes about sex addiction.
Substantially more men seek help than women, with 57.3 per cent of men seeking professional help, and only 38.3 per cent of women.
In women, ‘affirmation and feeling wanted’ was their biggest ‘reward’ for their sexual behaviour, with 80 per cent of them citing this as the reason.
For men, ‘excitement’ was identified as being the biggest reward
But the results also indicate the damaging consequences of sex addictions.
Sixty-five per cent of those questioned struggled with low self-esteem and almost half experienced mental health problems.
Nearly half had lost a partner because of their behaviour and a quarter said it had effected their sexual functioning.
Furthermore, 63 per cent said their sex addiction had wasted time and 42 per cent that they’d wasted money.
When asked what the biggest influence was on their sex addiction, ‘easy access’ and ‘lack of education’ were both cited as more significant than ‘negative’ childhood experiences.
Watching pornography was also identified as being the most common result of addiction.
As Hall states: ‘The reality of the Western world today is that ‘opportunity’ is everywhere and people, with or without a background of trauma and/or attachment difficulties, can now indulge their sexual desires and run the risk of becoming addicted’.
The results of the survey have been published in her new book, Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction.
Earlier this year, Keir Starmer, the Director of Public Prosecutions and the country’s top prosecutor said that teenage relationships are becoming more abusive because of the easy access to internet pornography, expressing his concern about the ‘exposure of young people to all sorts of material’.
He admitted there could be a link between the easy access to internet pornography for children and ’emerging research’ about increasing violence in teenage relationships.
Dr Patrick Carnes, one of the world’s leading experts in sexual addiction, suggests there are various possible warning signs:
Feeling that your behaviour is out of control
Feeling unable to stop your behaviour, in spite of knowing the consequences
Persistently pursuing destructive and/or high risk activities
Using sexual fantasies as a way of coping with difficult feelings or situations
Needing more sexual activity in order to experience the same level of high
Suffering from intense mood swings around sexual activity
Spending more time either planning, engaging in or regretting and recovering from sexual activities
Neglecting important social, occupational or recreational activities in favour of sexual behaviour
This site is intended for individuals who struggle with maintaining sexual purity. This information is posted for individuals at various stages in their recovery, year 1 to year 30+; what applies to some, may not apply others. Spouses are encouraged to read this blog with the caveat that they may not agree with, understand, or know the reason for some items posted. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.