I found this short video on the “rape for profit” website that combats sex trafficking in the United States.
Donny Pauling, a former porn producer for Playboy, sits down with us and discusses the dark reality of Porn…
Full interview:
Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
By Castimonia
I found this short video on the “rape for profit” website that combats sex trafficking in the United States.
Donny Pauling, a former porn producer for Playboy, sits down with us and discusses the dark reality of Porn…
Full interview:
By Castimonia
I found this short video on the “rape for profit” website that combats sex trafficking in the United States.
Noel Bouche, VP of pureHOPE and a lawyer, sits down with us and discusses the 3 ways that Porn drives the demand for sex trafficking
By Castimonia
This is an old article from 2009 written by Steve Arterburn. I found it informative and related to sexual purity, addictions, and seeking help from our Higher Power.
New Life Ministries
Acceptance is the first principle of recovery. Recovery begins when an individual moves from denial to acceptance. It does not happen all at once, and it isn’t something that another person can do for the individual suffering from an addiction. Still, each time you confront a person with reality you help bring him closer to accepting his situation and seeing the need to change.
Most people have lived in denial for years before they come for help. Often they have been surrounded by “co-conspirators” who have enabled their dysfunctional behavior to continue and who have reinforced their denial system. Together they have constructed a delusional world where the full extent of the problem is never acknowledged, let alone dealt with. The first job of treatment, then—and the first step toward recovery—is to bring someone to the point of acceptance.
Sometimes people ask if a person can be helped who does not want help. Usually…
By Castimonia
RESENTMENT
A friend in recovery once told me that “resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die”. So in essence, resentment is like drinking poison. We poison our minds with resentments we hold onto and in some way, shape, or form, hope that the person we resent “feels” our pain.
Well this simply is not the case. The person whom we resent does not, and cannot feel our pain. Resentment, however affects us deeply and we feel the pain from our own resentment of others. No matter what has happened in your life, no matter what was done to you, to hold onto a resentment is your own fault, not someone else’s.
I was sexually abused as a child, and for many years I had this hidden level of resentment for my abusers. I always kept it hidden deep inside and did not really open up and discuss the resentment I really had for these individuals but in really I was just in denial about the abuse. I did not even see it as abuse and a resentment until a therapist helped me see my abuse for what it really was, childhood sexual abuse. Once I opened that door to the truth, I was flooded with feelings of sadness, anger, rage, hate and found myself resenting these other people and what they took from me; my innocence. I was under the illusion that it was not childhood sexual abuse because my abusers were my age or a little older. Also, I actually enjoyed the sexual acting out with one girl in particular and never questioned my friends when asked to perform sexual acts with them. I was under the illusion that sex was part of friendship and that being loved by a female was translated through her wanting to be sexual with me, initiating the sex. I grew up with this misconception and it greatly affected numerous relationships I had as an adult.
So how do I work on my resentment? Well the 12 Steps has a solution on working on these issues. Step 4 states, “Made a Searching and Fearless Inventory of Ourselves.” What does this mean? It means we look deep into our character defects and part of this looking deep is to look at where we still hold onto our resentments.
In working a Step 4 inventory on my resentment, I was able to properly list out the resentment, give specifics about why I am resentful, and then in Column 3 describe in detail how it affects me personally (self-esteem, security, ambitions, personal relationships, sex relations). However, Column 4 is perhaps the most important column in this Step 4 resentment inventory. In Column 4, we describe where we are wrong in holding onto this resentment. We list where we were being selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened and thus held onto this resentment.
For the sake of time and space, I won’t go into all the details of working a Step 4 on my particular resentment. Please consult with your sponsor for a detailed analysis on working a proper Step 4, as he might see things in your that you cannot see for yourself.
Today’s meeting was held at Rick’s Ranch in Sealy, TX. The address and directions to the ranch can be found below. Two or three more meetings this year will be held at Rick’s and we have food, fun, and fellowship afterward. Getting to know one another outside a normal meeting setting is very important for establishing trust and friendships with one another in our recovery!
April 28, 2012 – Castimonia at Rick’s Ranch
On Saturday, April 28, 2012, Castimonia will NOT be meeting at The Fellowship at Cinco Ranch. The church will be holding a parent’s summit that Saturday. Castimonia will meet at Rick’s Ranch near Sealy, TX. We will have our regular meeting at 10am and have a food fellowship at 11:30am. We should be finished by 12:30pm but you may leave earlier if needed.
Rick’s Ranch
9597 SE I-10 Frontage Road
Sealy, TX 77474
Here’s a bing map of the location: http://binged.it/JD7AIE
Click on the map below for a full-size image with driving directions.
By Castimonia
Excellent write-up on how Christians are supporting, perhaps unwittingly, the sex trade industry and human trafficking!
We all have heard of the “sex trade”, and generally we all have a good understanding of what it means. Here is a list of its major components:
While most of this involves the slavery, at some level, of women over the age of 18, so much of it today does not. Increasingly girls from about 10 years old and up are being forced in some form of sexual servitude. What is also happening is that the sex trade business has become increasingly global and is more profitable than the drug business.
This site is intended for individuals who struggle with maintaining sexual purity. This information is posted for individuals at various stages in their recovery, year 1 to year 30+; what applies to some, may not apply others. Spouses are encouraged to read this blog with the caveat that they may not agree with, understand, or know the reason for some items posted. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.