Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
SATURDAY, September 7th – MEETING LOCATION CHANGE:
This change will only affect the Saturday, September 7th meeting. It will return to it’s usual location on Saturday, September 14th.
Time: 7:00PM – 8:30PM Location: Grace Fellowship United Methodist Church Mansion, Room 301 2655 South Mason Road Katy, TX 77450 281.646.1903
By james tarring cordrey, August 28, 2013
http://intentionalwarriors.com/2013/08/28/miley-cyrus-is-not-news/
After a day of reading various reports of Miley Cyrus’ antics at the MTV Video Music Awards, i can say with pleasure that I am so very glad I didn’t watch it.
But more than that it’s time to also say this: Miley Cyrus’ performance is not news. It’s tragic, disgusting and shameful. But it’s not news.
There is nothing new about it. There is nothing newsworthy about it.
Was it shocking? From what i read i would have to say, “Yes” — and “No.”
Why?
Because we live in a hyper-sexualized, pornified world. And given that our culture is molded by pornography, it is not news when people act out in a pornographic fashion. We, as a society, have given ourselves over to gratifying the lusts of our flesh — whether that’s in the name of entertainment or in the privacy of our individual lives.
So when the information world explodes with story after story about something like Miley’s performance at the VMAs — much like Beyonce’s at the Super Bowl halftime show this past winter — we have to ask a few questions.
First, why are we treating this as news? Second, is the coverage of this event actually an intelligent discussion, or is it merely feigned shock and horror which is actually celebrating what happened by pretending to “report” on it which in turn simply promotes what happened? Third, was this the only sexual performance of the night at the VMAs?
I seriously doubt it was.
But the most important questions, truly, are ones the information world will not even touch.
Questions such as: If we are actually shocked at Miley’s performance, what is it that shocks you? If her actions “cross a line,” what is that line? If you feel a line has been crossed, what will you do about it?
And for me the most important questions are these: Christian brothers and sisters, what are you doing to remain free from the corruption that is in the world with regard to sexuality? How many of you watched that Miley Cyrus debacle and did so without a twinge of discomfort?
In a pornified world we shouldn’t be surprised when people act like porn stars. Instead, we need to encourage one another on to a higher and better life.
JOURNEY OF HOPE RETREAT #18
The Hope & Freedom retreat is one of the best, if not the best retreat for men’s sexual purity issues I have ever attended! It is led by Dr. Milton Magness, a very successful therapist in the realm of Sexual Addiction Recovery.
Registration is open to the first 30 men who sign up, see the link below:
Direct Registration Link (Register through Houston’s First Baptist)
The cost is only $30 if you register prior to September 2013. I urge you to attend this retreat, and pray it helps you out as much as it helped me!
Dates: October 18-20, 2013
Location: Palacios, TX
Cost: $30 prior to September, $40 after September up until the retreat is full
Originally posted: http://porntopurity.com/blog/2013/05/13/the-four-jobs-of-an-accountability-partner/
Four Jobs of an Accountability Partner
by Jeff Fisher on May 13, 2013
We are working on a podcast and a series of blog on accountability. A major part of sexual recovery is having good accountability, whether from an individual, a group, a minister, or a counselor.
We wanted to share four key jobs every good accountability partner has:
CHEER – The person in recovery needs to know that they are not alone. Someone is on their side. Someone is rooting for them. Not just from the sidelines, but right in the war with him. The cheerleader encourages, but is always genuine in his encouragement. He doesn’t say “good job” if it’s not merited. But he always says, “You can get there. With God’s help, you can do it!”
CHALLENGE – The addict will plateau at times and settle in to a comfortable level. The accountability partner is always challenging them. Putting the Big Picture of sexual purity, glorifying God, and healthy sexuality in front of them. The accountability partner sees farther than where the addict is and challenges him to shoot higher. Challenge happens when there is positive momentum or plateauing.
CONFRONT – Confrontation happens where there is negative momentum. When sin happens and failures happens they need to be addressed. When an addict is hardening his heart or not willing to take the next step the accountability partner needs to take the role of confronting them. When the addicts behavior is hurting others, it must be confronted. Confession and repentance are the right responses to confrontation.
COMFORT – The recovery process is full of hurts, wounds, disappointments, failures, and consequences. The recovering person needs an arm around him when times are tough. He needs someone who understands where he is at and just sits with him. Prays for him. Cries with him. Supports him. Cares.
An accountability partner can be an ear to hear venting. Sometimes he needs needs to pray for him. Sometimes he just needs to show that he cares with a phone call.
The grief process can be tremendous for the addict. The consequences can sometimes seem unbearable. This is where an accountability partner can be a big help.
by: Chelsea Schilling
Once named by Maxim as one of the hottest porn stars in the world, J**** P****** performed in more than 275 pornographic films, stripped for money, sold her body in prostitution, abused drugs and even tried to kill herself – but now the young brunette stunner says she has found her true calling in life.
“Thank you, Jesus! I found Him, I’m home!” she declared, announcing that she has become a born-again Christian.
P******, 26, whose real name is B****** R***, said, “It’s been a long seven-year journey of porn, prostitution, stripping, drugs, alcohol and several failed suicide attempts.”
R***, who struggled with anorexia in high school, was reportedly raped when she was 14 years old.
Where is our nation going wrong? Americans’ traditional sexual morality has been violently subverted. In her hit book, “Sexual Sabotage,” Dr. Judith Reisman explains why we can and must repudiate soul-and-body-destroying sexual anarchy.
At the young age of 15, she began a career as a topless dancer in Mexico.
By 18, she performed in X-rated hardcore movies, shooting two and three sex scenes a day for $900 each while she was in college. She won numerous top industry awards for her work.
In an interview with Adult FYI, Ruiz said producers told her she was beautiful.
Upon filming her first sex scene, she recalled, “I felt so loved that day because I was put in hair and makeup. I was told I was beautiful. I was going to be a star.”
She said they made her work relentlessly because she had a very young look. The producers dressed her in children’s clothing and pigtails.
“I already looked like I was 12,” she recalled, adding, “It’s disgusting how they can portray you as a little girl. It’s complete perversion.”
But the industry began to have a devastating impact on her.
“It left me feeling drained,” she said. “I was so robotic, I was like a rubber Barbie doll. I had no emotions. … I was no longer B******. I became J**** P******. I had an alter ego.”
So R*** turned to drugs to numb her pain.
Then she attended a church in San Diego and met a man. They began dating, but he was beaten to death in front of her at a Las Panchos restaurant by members of a motorcycle gang.
“He got murdered, stabbed in front of me,” she said.
The trauma of the incident derailed her faith, and R*** began abusing drugs again and tried to kill herself.
Then XXX Church, an outreach ministry that focuses on helping people leave the porn industry and fight porn addictions, found R*** at a porn convention. The XXX Church distributed hundreds of Bibles and declared, “Jesus loves porn stars.”
R*** filmed her last sex scene in November 2012. She gave her life to God this year and left the industry. She now works for a limousine company.
“It was seven long years,” she told Adult FYI. “I hated what I was doing, but I wondered what I would do next.”
Looking back, R*** recalled, “I never found love in my life and was looking for it in all the wrong places. … I have finally encountered the unconditional love of God, and I will never go back.”
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