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May 5, 2018 By Castimonia

Digital Addiction

Originally posted at: https://applyingmybeliefs.wordpress.com/2018/05/02/digital-addiction/

In my counseling work I am increasingly running into what seems to be called “Digital Addiction.”  This is defined by the American Society for Addiction Medicine (ASAM) and the American Psychiatric Association (APA) as:

A primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory, and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social, and spiritual manifestations. This is reflected in an individual pathologically pursuing reward and/or relief by substance use and other behavior.”

What have I seen?

These are actual examples from my work:

  • A teacher was let go from their job because they spent too much time on Facebook. They admitted to using their handheld in class, and spending in excess of one and a half hours an evening on it.  One of the presenting struggles was that they couldn’t seem to find time to grade their papers.
  • A wife recently took the kids and left her husband. He complained that she went to have a bath every night and locked herself in, and spent the whole time on her phone; he said she ignores me and our kids and we don’t have sex anymore.  He complained and condemned her and became very angry.  She disappeared with the kids in fear of what he might do.
  • A 13 year old boy swapped sexually oriented pictures with a 13 year old girl on Instagram. He was suspended (she wasn’t) and had his phone confiscated by the police.  The matter is with Child Protective Services and others, to determine if this is a child pornography issue.
  • A couple complained about their lack of intimacy, and their low quality sex life. Upon talking with them, we discovered that they go to bed early, but are on their phones checking email, texts and social media for up to an hour and a half – and wake up tired.

I have more of these, but I am sure you get the idea.

Personal Experiences

From my own personal experience I have noticed several issues:

  • My use of Facebook. I used to have the app on my phone, but I realized that I would check it every few minutes, so I took it off about two years ago.  Then they creeped me out by putting advertisements that directly connected with my preferences, likes and postings.  I now look at Facebook for maybe 5 mins a day.
  • I still check my phone frequently for text messages and emails. Partly that is because my counseling clients have permission to contact me that way.  I have 3 major email accounts, so I feel a little stuck with this.
  • I have inadvertently left my phone at home occasionally, and always turn around to get it. I feel naked without it
  • When my wife and I are having quality time – which means just hanging with each other – after a while she picks her smartphone up to check her notifications, and of course she has to “like” everything or punch in her comments. I don’t like it, but I do tolerate it.

So what is to be done?

At this point in the history of this addiction there is not enough historical data to really answer the question well.  But some of these things might happen:

  1. Government Legislation – It is likely that we will see some governments around the world try to get ahead of the Tsunami of mental illnesses that are appearing by controlling tech companies like Facebook and Google in an attempt to save their people, and their economies.
  2. User Rebellion – As we begin to see the serious damage being done to our children; parents will be taking action to stop their kids from being on their devices.
  3. Specialist Surgeons – There could be a growth in the number of surgeons that work on the so-called iNeck problems beginning to appear.
  4. Drugs – Because the addiction produces physical and psychological problems, innovative drug companies will be performing research to come up with drugs that combat the addiction. And, unfortunately, drugs that help people to stay awake/focus longer on their digital screens.

Here is an easy to read open-source (meaning no copyright issues) paper that addresses this issue and some of the fallout from it.

http://www.neuroregulation.org/article/view/18189/11842

Citation: Peper, E., & Harvey, R. (2018). Digital addiction: Increased loneliness, anxiety, and depression. NeuroRegulation, 5(1), 3–8.  http://dx.doi.org/10.15540/nr.5.1.3

For those that don’t want to read it here is the last section of the paper reproduced in its entirety; it addresses some “what to do” ideas to decrease dependence on digital devices.

Strategies to Address Digital Addiction

 From a biological perspective, health is the alternation between activity and regeneration. If you do not allow the system time to regenerate, neural degeneration may occur. Even though it is very challenging to break the addiction, it is possible.  Mobilize your health and disconnect to allow regeneration. Take charge, regain social connections, and develop proactive attention. 

  1. Recognize that you have been manipulated into addiction by the tech companies, which have covertly conditioned you to react to notifications and have created the desire to check frequently for updates. 
  1. Become proactive by limiting interruptions when you work and play. 
  • Turn off of notifications of your apps so that they do not interrupt your work.
  • Schedule time to look and respond to email, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Snapchat and notify your colleagues that you will only respond to messages and information during prescheduled time periods such as 11 a.m.–12 p.m. or 3–4 p.m.
  • Schedule uninterrupted time when you are most alert. For most people this is morning time. Do your creative concentrated work first and then answer social media during times when your attention and concentration has decreased.
  • Turn off your digital devices during social events (e.g., dinner or talking to friends, coworkers, and family).
  • Make an active choice to be present with friends and family.
  • Make a game out of avoiding smartphone use. For example, when going out to dinner, have everyone place their phone in the middle of the table and make an agreement that the first person who touches their smartphone before dinner ends will pay for the entire meal.
  • Create unstructured time without stimulation to allow the opportunity for self-reflection and regeneration. As journalist Daniel A. Gross (2014) points out, “Freedom from noise and goal-directed tasks, it appears, unites the quiet without and within, allowing our conscious workspace to do its thing, to weave ourselves into the world, to discover where we fit in. That’s the power of silence.”

 There is a simple aphorism that says: “Pay attention to shift intention,” suggesting that training related to better intentional behaviors may allow breaking the cycle of smartphone addiction associated with falling into the evolutionary trap of “mindless attention.”

Here is another relevant paper from 2012:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3480687

Does the Bible address this?  Obviously not directly, but it is only a small stretch to perceive our use of digital devices as a form of worship or idolatry.  In using these devices we are basically handing over our life to whatever we look at:

  • News junkies are controlled by the news media.
  • Porn addicts are controlled by their lusts – sexual immorality.
  • Social media fanatics are controlled by others opinions.

The scriptures say this:

1 Cor 10:14 – My beloved, flee from idolatry.

When we are in our digital addiction behaviors we are most likely not paying attention to our first love – God.

Another spiritually oriented thought I have about this is this:

Gal 5:19-21 – Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality,  idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

In a new and unique way social media is a new form of sorcery or witchcraft.  We are beguiled by this modern drug, and its pushers control the supply, using ever increasing appeals to our vanities to hook us.  I haven’t really developed that line of thinking yet, but I believe it is a good way of looking at what we are seeing.

Having said all this, what do you think?  Feel free to comment below.

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May 4, 2018 By Castimonia

When Darth Vader Looks At Porn ….

… he is cursed with Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED). May the 4th be with you.

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May 3, 2018 By Castimonia

“Chronic early-life stress, such as childhood neglect, often results in anxiety and affective disorders and increased probability of drug and alcohol abuse in adulthood…”

Full article for purchase at: http://www.nature.com/npp/journal/v41/n9/full/npp201621a.html

“…the mesolimbic dopamine (DA) system may have an integral role in the pathophysiology associated with childhood stress. Unfortunately, while many human and animal studies have documented profound disruptions of DA signaling associated with a wide range of chronic early-life stressors…”

“The nucleus accumbens (NAc) is known to have a critical role in motivated behaviors and reward seeking via modulation of DA levels. Additionally, the NAc is implicated in the modulation of stress and anxiety like negative affective behaviors. Kappa opioid receptors (KORs) are located presynaptically on DA terminals and suppress DA release in the NAc…Previous data suggest that exposure to chronic stress, such as repeated withdrawal from chronic intermittent ethanol (CIE) exposure, leads to prolonged activation of KORs, possibly contributing to reduced DA function, which is positively correlated with negative affect.”

Early-Life Social Isolation Stress Increases Kappa Opioid Receptor Responsiveness and Downregulates the Dopamine System
Anushree N Karkhanis, et. al. – Neuropsychopharmacology (2016), 1–12

Early-Life Social Isolation Stress Increases Kappa Opioid Receptor Responsiveness and Downregulates the Dopamine System

Anushree N Karkhanis, Jamie H Rose, Jeffrey L Weiner and Sara R Jones

Abstract

Chronic early-life stress increases vulnerability to alcoholism and anxiety disorders during adulthood. Similarly, rats reared in social isolation (SI) during adolescence exhibit augmented ethanol intake and anxiety-like behaviors compared with group housed (GH) rats. Prior studies suggest that disruption of dopamine (DA) signaling contributes to SI-associated behaviors, although the mechanisms underlying these alterations are not fully understood. Kappa opioid receptors (KORs) have an important role in regulating mesolimbic DA signaling, and other kinds of stressors have been shown to augment KOR function. Therefore, we tested the hypothesis that SI-induced increases in KOR function contribute to the dysregulation of NAc DA and the escalation in ethanol intake associated with SI. Our ex vivo voltammetry experiments showed that the inhibitory effects of the kappa agonist U50,488 on DA release were significantly enhanced in the NAc core and shell of SI rats. Dynorphin levels in NAc tissue were observed to be lower in SI rats. Microdialysis in freely moving rats revealed that SI was also associated with reduced baseline DA levels, and pretreatment with the KOR antagonist nor-binaltorphimine (nor-BNI) increased DA levels selectively in SI subjects. Acute ethanol elevated DA in SI and GH rats and nor-BNI pretreatment augmented this effect in SI subjects, while having no effect on ethanol-stimulated DA release in GH rats. Together, these data suggest that KORs may have increased responsiveness following SI, which could lead to hypodopaminergia and contribute to an increased drive to consume ethanol. Indeed, SI rats exhibited greater ethanol intake and preference and KOR blockade selectively attenuated ethanol intake in SI rats. Collectively, the findings that nor-BNI reversed SI-mediated hypodopaminergic state and escalated ethanol intake suggest that KOR antagonists may represent a promising therapeutic strategy for the treatment of alcohol use disorders, particularly in cases linked to chronic early-life stress.

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April 30, 2018 By Castimonia

Imagine a World Where …

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April 29, 2018 By Castimonia

The God Who Stoops… And Stands

“Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, ‘Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?’ — ‘No, Lord,’ she said. And Jesus said, ‘Neither do I. Go and sin no more.'” (John 8:10-11 NLT)

Condemnation – the preferred commodity of Satan. He will repeat the adulterous woman scenario as often as you permit him to do so, marching you through the city streets and dragging your name through the mud. He pushes you into the center of the crowd and megaphones your sin:

This person was caught in the act of immorality … stupidity … dishonesty … irresponsibility.

But he will not have the last word. Jesus has acted on your behalf.

He stooped. Low enough to sleep in a manger, work in a carpentry shop, sleep in a fishing boat. Low enough to rub shoulders with crooks and lepers. Low enough to be spat upon, slapped, nailed, and speared. Low. Low enough to be buried.

And then he stood. Up from the slab of death. Upright in Joseph’s tomb and right in Satan’s face. Tall. High. He stood up for the woman and silenced her accusers, and he does the same for you.

He “is in the presence of God at this very moment sticking up for us” (Rom. 8:34 MSG). Let this sink in for a moment. In the presence of God, in defiance of Satan, Jesus Christ rises to your defense. He takes on the role of a priest. “Since we have a great priest over God’s house, let us come near to God with a sincere heart and a sure faith, because we have been made free from a guilty conscience” (Heb. 10:21–22 NCV).

A clean conscience. A clean record. A clean heart. Free from accusation. Free from condemnation. Not just for our past mistakes but also for our future ones.

“Since he will live forever, he will always be there to remind God that he has paid for [our] sins with his blood” (Heb. 7:25 TLB). Christ offers unending intercession on your behalf.

Jesus trumps the devil’s guilt with words of GRACE.

Today’s devotional is drawn from Max Lucado’s Second Chances.

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