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October 18, 2015 By Castimonia

Paul – Recovering Pharisee

by applyingmybeliefs

Phil 3:13-14 – Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.  ESV

Paul, called Saul in his pre-Christ following days, was raised to be a Pharisee of Pharisees.  He was trained by the very best that Israel had to offer and most likely would end up one day as the chief priest of the nation.  That destiny came to an end when he met Jesus.  (Acts 9:1-22)  After his conversion he became the greatest missionary the world has ever seen, and had a hand in evangelizing much of what we now call Europe.

When we read Paul’s writings, maybe as much as two thirds of the New Testament, we see a man in recovery, we see recovery language; just look at Romans chapter 7 as an example.  We know that all of scripture was inspired by God through the Holy Spirit, and so we know that God is a proponent of recovery.  Indeed, the Bible itself is the book of recovery of the entire human race.

In our scripture above, a small sliver of what Paul wrote, we see him making three important statements, and I’m going to put them in recovery language:

  • That he doesn’t think he made it through his recovery program under his own power.
  • That he is putting the past behind him.
  • That he is continuing to work his program.

This shows us a significant mindset, one that ought to be emulated.  Paul knows that it is God in him, the Holy Spirit, who has brought him out of his personal pit and into the truth.  Paul knows that the past is gone, cannot be changed and is irrelevant to his future.  The Paul says that he is going to continue reaching for his prize, the same one we have in Christian recovery, the prize of the upward call of Christ.

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October 15, 2015 By Castimonia

Do Not Lose Heart

Unfortunately, I don’t remember where I read this and from where I copied it.  All credit to the original author.  If this is yours, please feel free to post a comment with the link to the original.

Jesus, our Master, in Luke 18 tells us to pray and not loose heart.

The Apostle Paul encourages us several times to not loose heart.

2 Corinthians 4:1 [ The Light of the Gospel ] Therefore, having this ministry by the mercy of God, we do not lose heart.

2 Corinthians 4:16 So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.

Ephesians 3:13 So I ask you not to lose heart over what I am suffering for you, which is your glory.

We should not lose heart–but we have already lost heart–so many Christians [addicts and non addicts] living in the world today have lost heart.

So, how is it that the Apostle Paul asks us to not loose heart when it is so easy for a Christian to loose heart.

Let’s look at the reputation of the man who is calling on us to not lose heart, let’s look at what he endured to get to the point of saying ” we do not lost heart”

II Corinthians 11:23-27 English Standard Version (ESV) 23 Are they servants of Christ? I am a better one—I am talking like a madman—with far greater labors, far more imprisonments, with countless beatings, and often near death. 24 Five times I received at the hands of the Jews the forty lashes less one. 25 Three times I was beaten with rods. Once I was stoned. Three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I was adrift at sea; 26 on frequent journeys, in danger from rivers, danger from robbers, danger from my own people, danger from Gentiles, danger in the city, danger in the wilderness, danger at sea, danger from false brothers; 27 in toil and hardship, through many a sleepless night, in hunger and thirst, often without food, in cold and exposure.

If Paul endured what he endured to preach the gospel around the Mediterranean and did not loose heart. Surely I can endure and not loose heart given how little I face by comparison?

I am thankful for the support I have to help me move forward. That support is also critical to pressing on and not loosing heart.

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October 13, 2015 By Castimonia

Fight of Your Life “2015”

Fight of Your Life || October 24 || 8:30a-12:30p || FCC

This powerful 4 hour event is an effective and preventative learning experience to help men 16 & older gain ground in the battle against the dangers and temptations of our overly-sexualized culture. The Fight of Your Life event is for Men Only (16 and up). It is a powerful one day event, Saturday, October 24, 8:30a -12:30p @FCC. $20pp (sons 16-18yrs free).

Register:

https://fccsm.wufoo.com/forms/fight-of-your-life-2015/

Church Home:

http://friendswoodchurch.org/home/events

Contact Kevin Pate for more information.

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October 12, 2015 By Castimonia

Cain – First Murderer

by applyingmybeliefs

Gen 4:6-7 – The Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen?  If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” ESV

The sad story of Cain has a significant impact for us in Christian recovery, if we allow it.  Cain was the first man ever born, he was the first son for Adam and Eve and he was the first murderer, when he killed his little brother Abel.  What we may not see in the story of Cain is that he was the first person recorded to have what gamblers call a “tell.”

A “tell” is a behavior that a person can be relied on to consistently do in certain stressed circumstances.  In poker it is an unconscious action that is thought to betray an attempted deception.  In our language a tell is a lie.

Cain’s tell is found in Gen 4:5 – Cain was very angry, and his face fell.  (ESV)  He got angry and he exhibited a fallen or downcast expression.  Right after this he tricked Abel into going with him to the fields, and murdered him.

One of the great deceptions or denials that an addict lives in is that they really believe that others cannot see when they are lying.  For all of us in recovery, Christian or not, we need to come to terms with the truth that we have tells.  We are using the plural here because it is likely that we have more than one.

Do you know what your tell or tells are?  Because others around you, those that know you well, can probably point them out.

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October 9, 2015 By Castimonia

***Friday Noon Telemeeting Phone Number Change***

Sorry for the late notice but the phone number for the Friday Noon Telemeeting has changed.  The new number for the Telemeeting is 641.715.3818.  Please join us today for the noon Telemeeting at the new number.

 

Friday Lunch Telemeeting
Time: 12:00PM – 1:00PM (CST)
Location: Telemeeting Call In Center
Call In Phone Number: 641-715-3818

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