How women made porn fashionable
By
Published September 15, 2012
FoxNews.com

Porn is becoming a new ideal and value for young girls. And women are  responsible.

Women are consuming and endorsing porn such as ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ — a  book recognized as ‘mommy porn.’ Poorly written, it is not a how-to-manual and  it’s not poetic erotica.

Pulp/romance novels transformed into a new genre  embracing porn as literature – explicitly sexual scenes featuring  bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadism/masochism.

More than  20 million copies have sold in the US (40 million worldwide), and it is yet  another example of the way porn is becoming more than socially acceptable  amongst women. Moreover, it is becoming an aspirational target for women.

Women and the media have linked consuming porn or behaving like a  porn actress with instant money, fame, power, glamour, prestige, respectability  and social acceptability. In other words, if you become a porn actress or behave  like one, you will triumph with all of these things.

Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian became famous and rich for making a sex tape,  and they spun off empires of TV shows, fashion lines, perfumes and paid  appearances. The message is: one leads to the other. But it is women who made  Kardashian famous. And it is women who have become the fans and consumers of  everything Kardashian and books such as Fifty Shades of Grey.

Using sex  for money and fame, women have found a new way to feel powerful and secure  without a man or even necessarily a family – Octomom has openly become a porn  actress and stripper.

Mothers, too, are now sexualizing their daughters  and dressing them up as sexual candy for the world. Lindsay Jackson dressed her  5-year-old, Madisyn ‘Maddy’ Verst, in a sexy police uniform and a Dolly Parton  outfit complete with padded breasts and padded backside for a TV reality show.   And Jessica Simpson dressed her 4-month-old girl in bikinis.

Porn  could never have become mainstream and socially acceptable without the support  and endorsement by women. In human behavior, we call this ‘the law of frequency’ — the more often two things are linked, the more powerful that association  becomes until they become inseparable. And women and the media have linked  consuming porn or behaving like a porn actress with instant money, fame, power,  glamour, prestige, respectability and social acceptability. In other words, if  you become a porn actress or behave like one, you will triumph with all of these  things.

Accordingly, girls are more fascinated and driven by the desire  to become famous than they are to become an engineer, doctor or scientist: Kim  Kardashian has 14 million followers on Twitter.Thus, women are creating new  values and morality promoting money, power and glamour as more important than  intelligence, achievement, motherhood or contribution. Studies reveal that  female college students are more narcissistic than males. And teenage girls are  now also becoming fans of porn actors such as 26-year-old James Deen.

The paradox is that women are becoming more educated than men as women  surpass men in attendance and graduation rates – for every two men who get a  college degree, three women will do also. But, women are failing to realize the  dangers of falling for porn or promoting porn as the new fashionable profession  and path to fame, riches and glory. This is the antithesis of female empowerment  as MTV, Kim Kardashian and Octomom are teaching young girls to gain power over  men by using sex.

Women have now created false empty idols and have lost their real sense of  self-worth, value and significance, replacing it with fleeting pseudo-power and  artificial values and relationships, leaving them feeling unfulfilled and  unsatisfied.

I appeal to women to beware of being deceived and betrayed  into the world of porn and sexual objectification the same way that women were  tricked into smoking cigarettes in the 1920s.

In April 1929, a PR expert,  Edward Bernays, working for a US tobacco company, hired young models to march in  the New York City parade and alerted the press that they were fighting for  women’s rights by lighting “Torches of Freedom” as they lit up and smoked  cigarettes. The media publicized the event and it helped to break the taboo  against women smoking in public. In the same way, women today are using porn as  a misguided attempt to gain power and freedom, and to become more powerful and  independent. And they are only betraying and fooling themselves.

Pornography is much more than a moral or social issue.

Renowned  physicist, psychiatrist, and psychoanalyst Dr. Jeffrey Satinover says porn is “a  form of heroin, hundred times more powerful than before.” Forensic psychologist,  M. Douglas Reed and renowned pharmacologist Candace Pert reveal that pornography  is like a drug that triggers the brain to release a psychopharmacological flood  of “epinephrine, testosterone, endorphins (endogenous morphine), oxytocin,  dopamine, serotonin, and phenyethylamine,” which can lead to addiction and  various other behavioral disorders.

Gal Dines, professor of  sociology and women’s studies and chair of the American Studies Department at  Wheelock College in Boston, has written about and researched the porn industry  for over two decades. Professor Dines, author of “Pornland: How Porn Has  Hijacked Our Sexuality,” believes porn is a public health issue with documented  negative effects on young people, distorting “the way women and girls think  about their bodies, their sexuality and their relationships.”

Pornography  is equally damaging to adult relationships and social bonds – men are struggling  to develop close, intimate relationships with real women with some men now  preferring porn to sex with an actual human being.

Bottom line: porn does  not promote love or sex but rather cruelty and hatred to women, and so, while  women continue to endorse and make porn fashionable or a new ideal, they are  foolishly robbing themselves and undermining all of the positive strides and  triumphs they have made in their quest for equality.

Patrick Wanis, PhD, human behavior and relationship expert. For more  visit: www.patrickwanis.com. Follow  him on Twitter@behavior_expert.

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Comments
  1. jnonymous81 says:

    In other news, a large number of heterosexual men like to look at pictures and videos of naked women on the Internet and in magazines.

    Oops, sorry, that wasn’t actually in the news. Because when men look at attractive women, it isn’t newsworthy.

    Why?

    Double standard.

    • Castimonia says:

      I don’t follow? There have been many articles on how negative pornography is to men and their relationships with women. I’ve posted quite a few of them and there are more to come!

  2. jnonymous81 says:

    Sorry about that. I read that post from my phone, and didn’t see the entire thing. I only saw the first part.

    I just finished reading the rest, and agree with most of what you have said. The thought of little girls wearing bikinis – with padded tops to boot – is very strange. I believe that the bombardment of sexualized images of women is a way to devalue us, and teach us to devalue ourselves – I think it’s a way to “keep us in our place,” too. Focusing on the body, not the mind, holds us back, because we aren’t taught to appreciate our intelligence and use it. It’s easier to control and manipulate someone who isn’t too bright. I believe that these shows with the Kardashians and similar programs are intended to dumb women down and keep us from achieving true equality with men.

    I have heard a lot about the problems porn can cause in relationships. More and more people I know are stuck dealing with it, and yes, it’s almost always the men who are the porn addicts. Women usually end up having to grin and bear it to keep the relationship going.

    However, I did find a unique approach to dealing with this in my last relationship. My ex was a mild porn addict, and refused to work on it. So I started leaving photos of good looking actors on the computer so he would “catch” me desiring other men. He was very angry, but I got my point across. I gave him the same line he always gave me: “It isn’t that serious, I’m just looking, what’s are you so upset about?” After that, his porn watching declined quite a bit.

    Cognitive shock therapy anybody???

  3. Some great points are made here. I have been speaking out against fifty shades and movies like magic mike since i first learned of them. And no one in their right mind can argue with the devastating effects of pornography. However, I see some sweeping generalizations as well as what appears to be some anger and blame toward women for the demoralization of society. I didn’t see “some women” or even “many women”. I read, “women are responsible”, “women have now created false, empty idols…”, and”women continue to endorse and make porn fashionable or a new ideal”….implying ALL women. Yes, this is a significant problem, but the women I spend time with don’t dress like Kim kardashian or Paris Hilton. The way i see it, those who do are searching for affirmation and validation that “i am worthy as a person”, much the way sex addicts are searching for the same thing. Further, you fail to mention that most porn stars got into the business as a result of sex trafficking or were tricked by an ad looking for models etc. Then the women are stuck in a contract, if they even had that choice, being forced to do things they never could have imagined, drugged, and sometimes even at gun point. Yes, the sex industry is a huge problem, but men, and women, have a choice as to whether to change the channel, visit the website, stare at the billboard, or take a second glance at the person dressed provocatively. You say porn could never have become mainstream and socially acceptable without the support and endorsement of women. I’m not sure I agree. I’m also not sure what your main point in this article was, but a lot of it sounded like nothing but an effort to villify women, possibly as an effort to shift blame away from men for their sexual sin, and possibly because of some unresolved anger. Bottom line: We are all sinners. The battle against sexual immorality in our society is where we must stand together. There’s no room for blame.

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