The spouse of a sex addict gives her testimony on how her own recovery helped heal her and their marriage.  Often times we mention how it is important for both the addict and the spouse to enter their own recovery program and a couples recovery program so that both addict and spouse are on the journey together.  Spouses cannot ignore the sexual addiction and say it is only the addict’s problem, not their own.  From the car crash analogy, the addict was driving the car and the spouse was in the passenger seat.  The addict chose to drive recklessly down the wrong side of the freeway head-on into an 18-wheeler.  Who is going to need medical attention?  Both the addict and the spouse.  The spouse had no idea the addict would do this, nor did they have any control over the situation.  Regardless, they were in the car and now require their own medical (mental) attention.

A wife of an addict shares her story of recovery from her husbands Pornography / Sexual addiction.  Her insights into the efforts required to find recovery, as well as the gifts that she received from God are hopeful.

  1. Hope says:

    Love the video! So true that the partner needs to work on herself/himself.

  2. unfigurable says:

    Here’s my take on sex addiction: Life has gaps in it. The gaps are the times when we feel unfulfilled, like something is missing from our experience. When we reach a gap we are in danger of making a bad choice, or of doing something immoral or illegal.

    Some people are able to ignore the gaps for long periods of time, others aren’t. I, currently, do not ignore my gaps. I fill my empty voids with small indiscretions – usually by doing things that are unhealthy for my body like smoking a pack of cigarettes, getting drunk, drinking caffeine, or going to the doctor to obtain a prescription of sorts.

    My way of dealing with the gaps is certainly unhealthy, but it doesn’t hurt anyone. I think the so called “Sex Addicts” are also trying to fill some gaps. Tiger Woods, President Clinton, and General Petraeus all handled their gaps in ways that were healthy for their bodies, but harmful to others.

    I think the longer people ignore their gaps the larger their indiscretion will be once they give in to their needs. Moderation is the key. My goal is to moderate my drinking, smoking, and popping when I do reach a gap in experience. Once I realize that I am experiencing an empty feeling, and that the empty feeling is normal and fleeting, I think I can deal with it in a better manner. Good luck to me. -unfigurable

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