It’s Funny Because It’s True!
I saw this comical photo floating around the internet a while back. To be honest, I did not see the Saturday Night Live skit in which this photo was taken, so I don’t know the context. What I found funny, was the caption that went along with the photo.
In here we see a man willing to admit to murder rather than have his internet search history made public. How many of us, at whatever the cost, wanted to hide our internet activity? I know I have. When I was in my addiction, I made certain of “cleaning my tracks” so that nobody would know what sites I had visited. I was too ashamed of my internet activity to have anyone find out about it and too ashamed to find help for these behaviors, amongst others.
When is enough going to be enough? When are you going to seek real help for a sexual purity problem that has been plaguing you for perhaps most of your life and that keeps manifesting itself in different ways over the course of your life? Perhaps it began with lustful thoughts and fantasies, then compulsion over those lustful thoughts and fantasies and then moved onto masturbation, and then onto pornography, and then onto having multiple sex partners; all to try to fill some void in your life that in all honesty, only God can fill. I’ve seen it happen in my life and don’t want it to happen to anyone else.
Perhaps you are the guy that “only” struggles with viewing pornography, with or without masturbation. Maybe you think, it is “ok” to do this since you aren’t having affairs or have multiple sex partners. But if I were to compare your brain scan to that of a man that sexually acts out with multiple sex partners, guess what? Not much difference! Stop the insanity; seek real help for a real problem! Stop hiding behind self-help books and the insane thought of “My God and I can handle anything alone” and start getting into a support or recovery group. You cannot handle this all by yourself, no matter how many lies you believe from the enemy!
You are not alone in your struggle; it’s about time you finally said enough is enough. I, for one, am thankful that I no longer have to erase my internet history or feel guilt or shame about the sites I visit. I no longer have to worry about my wife getting on the internet and “stumbling” on something inappropriate I viewed. I especially don’t have to worry about my daughters seeing something inappropriate their daddy saw the night before! How horrible would that be if I inadvertently passed on my sexual addiction to my daughters because of the pornography I watched the night before and now they found it by accident? Although, I had no intention to harm them, my activity on the internet has already harmed them and my wife!
And wives, If you don’t have proper internet filters installed, I want you, today, to go into your internet history and look at everything that has been viewed in the past couple of weeks. You might need to search via multiple browsers installed on your home computer, maybe some installed by secret. And if the internet history has been erased on any of these browsers, then it’s time to have a frank and open discussion about installing filters and what is and is not appropriate to bring into your home! If you are not technically savvy, you can e-mail Castimonia and we can help walk you through on how to do a proper and thorough search.
I once heard a great prayer at a Castimonia meeting, “My prayer is that every man is thrown in to recovery by discovery by their wives.” Sometimes, it is the only way we will be willing to seek help. Hitting rock bottom is terrible, but I am thankful that rock bottom is what it took to get me into recovery and acknowledge that I have a problem and that I need help! Recovery with Jesus Christ is such a beautiful place to live.
Take what you like and leave the rest.