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Merimnao 5 Year Celebration Reminder (and Childcare)

On this upcoming Saturday, January 10th we will be having Merimnao’s fifth year celebration event.  It begins at 3:30, the presentation part begins at 4 and concludes (we estimate) at 5, we will then spend time chatting with each other and meeting new friends.  It is being held in the life center at the Fellowship, 22765 Westheimer Parkway.

Please make every effort to be there.

Some details:

We will have a combination of audiovisual and testimonies for the first part of the presentation.  In the second part we will recognize some of God’s handiwork and some people, talk a little about what Merimnao is (for the visitors) and then discuss the vision for the ministry going forward.

Childcare is available for children up to 12 years.  This is free for this event!  Come a little early if you are dropping kids off.  Childcare will be in the Student Building, rooms S101 and S102, it will be available from 3 to 6 pm.

Bring any and everybody you want, especially spouses.  Invite people you personally know are engaged in helping ministry or recovery ministry, as leaders or participants.

We will have coffee, Kosmos will be open too and we’ll have some snacks and water.

MINISTRY LEADERS – Please make sure this is announced this week in each group meeting, and invite all present and past group members, because from these people as a group will come future leaders.  E-mail the invitation as you see fit.

AND – We will have a resource center.  So if there are some things you want to display please be sure to bring them.

AND – Make yourself available to talk to people, after the presentation, who might want to know about your ministry.

Finally – can we please ask that every person reply to this email in some way, so we know you received and read it.  – Thanks!

 

 

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The Addict Rarely Sees a Problem

Parasites can suck the life out of a healthy body. Relationship parasites can also destroy a healthy marriage. One form of relationship parasite is addictions, such as addictions to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescriptive drugs, gambling or pornography. No matter what the form, however, all addictions can be marriage killers. Addictions typically seem innocent at first: There’s nothing “wrong” with “a beer or two.” Lots of people buy lottery tickets or go to the casinos for a little fun. If there was anything wrong with prescriptive drugs, they would be illegal. Moreover, most people who drink beer, buy lottery tickets or take prescriptive drugs suffer no problems. What seems like fun, however, becomes an addiction when behaviors change from something a spouse enjoys to something he or she needs, then to something the spouse craves, then to something that becomes the central focus of the person’s life. Addictions don’t disappear on their own; they only get worse. Thus, the first step in addressing addictions is honestly admitting that an addiction exists. The first person to take this step is usually the non-addicted spouse. This takes courage and requires a willingness to be assertive and to clearly communicate to your spouse that there’s a problem. It may also involve your learning about the addictive process and how one begins the recovery process. The addict rarely sees a problem and, in fact, often denies a problem exists, even in the face of overwhelming evidence. Breaking through this denial can be extremely difficult. It may require the non-addicted spouse meeting with a professional counselor to develop a plan. Groups such as AA, NA, or Gamblers Anonymous can also provide useful information. Once the denial is dealt with, dealing with the addiction will also require planning and a great deal of effort. The thought processes of the addict have been changed by the addiction, and just starting the process of getting the mind to function in a rational way will take three to six months. Since the marriage is affected, it’s also essential that couple therapy get started. There will be issues of forgiveness and reconnection that need to be addressed. Addictions can destroy a marriage, but with hard work and honest support, couples can heal the hurt and rebuild their marriage into the healthy relationship they hoped for when they first fell in love. From an article by James Sheridan http://www.news-sentinel.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20120502/LIVING/305029997/1008

“Here I am trying to live, or rather, I am trying to teach the death within me how to live.” – Jean Cocteau

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The Brokenness Of Porn

http://intentionalwarriors.com/2013/09/04/the-brokenness-of-porn/

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One of the powerful and massive deceptions foisted upon us by the porn industry is the idea that the people — the majority of whom are women — who offer themselves sexually for our lustful pleasure are individuals whom we should desire.

In other words, pornography producers present to us bodies and tell us that they are what we ought to want.  They are worthy of our adoration and our affection, we are told. When Jenna Jameson wrote a book about how to make love like a porn star, the assumption was that we all want to make love like porn stars.

But anyone who has watched porn and has learned anything about the industry knows that the kind of sex, as well as the quality of it, that occurs on porn sets is not something you would actually want in real life. Even Jenna Jameson admits to the gross nature of many of the things that she did on set.

In the case of pornography, there is a massive game of smoke and mirrors.

More than that, pornography exploits the vulnerability of sexuality and capitalizes on the brokenness of the performers to do it.

Healthy sexuality is safe because in the context of a loving and mutual monogamous marriage relationship a man and a woman who have made a commitment to one another can explore the beauty God created in the naked bodies of both male and female.

All of us are broken; we live in a fallen world. We have misplaced desires; we have insecurities; we have broken relational patterns; and we often damage other people unwittingly.

But in pornography the brokenness carries an extra weight or significance. A person who offers himself or herself as an object of sexual lust, particularly as an object of lust for strangers, is being exploited in his or her brokenness. Others are profiting from it also.

And the individual who actually willingly choses to present himself or herself as a sexual object, and longs to be craved sexually, is a sad person. A person to be pitied. A person who needs others to help them deal with the pain in their lives which drives them to make unhealthy sexual choices.

While the world tells us such people are “hot” and should be emulated as well as lusted after, the truth is they aren’t.

But in our brokenness we consume pornography because the lie of it soothes our own pain and sadness.

The answer to the brokenness of porn is the wholeness of Jesus.

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The True Meaning of Christmas – By Linus

I love this movie, particularly this scene.  Merry Christmas!

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Parent’s Paradox

“Attempting to usher a young person (or adult) entrapped in substance abuse ‘over the hump’ until he or she ‘gets it’ will turn a well-intentioned mother or father into part of the problem, not part of the solution.

“Our first instinct as parents has always been to protect our children.  We guided them as toddlers away from the hot stove, the steep stairs, and the traffic in the street.  Preventive guidance worked then, but no longer.

“Here’s the cherry on the top: while marshaling your best efforts against the chaos, you, Oh-Well-Meaning-One, are aiding and abetting a destructive course.  Though every instinct you have exercised as a mother or father is driving you to do anything and everything to derail an emotional and physical train wreck, the ‘conductor’ on this careening ride is the addict.  The more you scramble for solutions, the more you, the parent, are enabling the addictive behavior to progress!  Without realizing what is happening to you and your family, you have morphed into an anxious, frantic, crazy person, embroiled by a condition that you did not cause, cannot control, and cannot cure.

“Welcome to codependency.  You have now become part of the problem, not part of the solution.  As if this weren’t enough, you good intentions amount to sticking your nose into someone else’s business–the business of the daughter/son you are trying to rescue.  Even smoothing the rough spots for your child can provide only a temporary fix.  Like applying a Band-Aid to a boil, treating the surface problem cannot reach what is going on underneath.  The core of the problem continues to fester and grow.”  – Barbara Victoria in It’s not about you, except when it is

Parent’s paradox is when helping the child is actually hurting them.  They want to help but helping in the wrong way can be detrimental to their child.