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Be Mentally Present

This is a tough one for some people, but don’t let your mind wander. Sometimes our minds wander because we’re multi-taskers, and we start creating shopping lists in our heads. But I’m not just talking about that. Other times we let our minds wander in order to get aroused. We fantasize. Personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with remembering something wonderful that you did together that was stupendous, or imaging being on a beach, or whatever it may be for you. But to fantasize about someone who isn’t your husband (wife/partner), or to bring up pornographic images to get aroused, isn’t right. And it hinders your ability to really bond with your spouse. Guys often struggle with this, too, especially guys who have used porn. Images often come into their heads. If either of you is short-cutting the arousal cycle by pulling up pornographic images, ask God (Higher Power) to help you stop, and then practice just being present. Think about your body. Think about your spouse. Trace your fingers along your spouse’s body. Think specifically about what is feeling good and what you love about your spouse, and say some of these things out loud. Keep your mind focused on the here and now, and you’ll find it a much more intimate, and intense, experience. http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2012/02/29-days-to-great-sex-day-27-experiencing-spiritual-intimacy-while-you-make-love/

The greatest loss of time is delay and expectation,
which depend upon the future.
We let go the present, which we have in our power,
and look forward to that which depends upon chance,
and so relinquish a certainty for an uncertainty.
Seneca

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Jacob – Defective Inheritor

by applyingmybeliefs

Gen 49:1-2 – Then Jacob called his sons and said, “Gather yourselves together, that I may tell you what shall happen to you in days to come.  Assemble and listen, O sons of Jacob, listen to Israel your father.”  ESV

There is so much material on Jacob in the Bible, that we can make a really good assessment of his character.  He was deceitful, shrewd in business, fearful, compulsively lustful, angry, self-centered, argumentative and more.  He was a very flawed individual and yet God chose him to bring forth the twelve tribes of Israel from whom sprang the beginning of the fulfillment of the Abrahamic Covenant (Gen 12:1-3) and ultimately the Messiah, Jesus.  It is easy to wonder why God would choose such an imperfect character to be the seed of the promise.

In our focus verses we see Jacob on his death bed about to bless every one of his sons.  (Gen 49:1-33)  Here we see a man that has changed.  He is no longer the disobedient trickster of his youth and early manhood.  He has matured to the point where God has trusted him with prophetic words for his sons.  He has ceased to walk in his own ways and is walking in God’s ways.

For us in Christian recovery Jacob personifies hope and the never ending pursuit that God has for our hearts.  Hope because he was like the worst of us, lying, thieving, murdering, sexually immoral, envious and highly dysfunctional, and yet he was able to overcome all of these things to become a godly man.  Pursuit because God took him and transformed him day by day into the man God designed and planned for.  What is true about Jacob is true for us.  God will work with us to develop godly character, and will pursue us until the day we die in His quest to fulfill His plans for us.

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Not Just Feeling Good

To experience spiritual intimacy, take time being naked. I don’t just mean taking your clothes off to make love. I mean actually be naked together. Hold each other. Take a bath together. Even pray naked together! Redo that exercise where you just take time touching each others’ bodies. Really feel as if you completely know the other person. It’s actually more vulnerable to be naked while someone touches you than just to be naked while you “have sex”. And so take that time to explore! Take time to be spiritually naked. This may sound weird, but trust me on it: pray before sex. When we unite together spiritually first, it’s as if our souls are drawn together. And when our souls are drawn together, we want to draw together in a deeper way. If you’re uncomfortable with free-form prayer, buy a book of prayers… The words don’t matter; the heart does. When you mean it, and you bow before God together, you really are drawn towards each other in a much more intense way. Look into each others’ eyes. The eyes are windows, and yet how often do we close our eyes, as if we’re trying to shut the other person out, and concentrate on ourselves? I know sometimes you have to close your eyes to feel everything, but sometimes open up and look into his eyes. To actually see him–and to let him see into you–is very intimate, especially at the height of passion. Say “I love you”. It’s such a little thing, but while you’re making love–or even when you orgasm, say “I love you”. Make sex about not just feeling good, but expressing love.
http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2012/02/29-days-to-great-sex-day-27-experiencing-spiritual-intimacy-while-you-make-love/

There are only two
guidelines in good sex.
Don’t do anything
you don’t really enjoy
and find out what
are your partner needs
and don’t balk them
if you can help it.
Alex Comfort

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Monday Night Meeting at The Fellowship Cancelled, 12/28

Due to The Fellowship being closed the week of December 28th, we are cancelling the Monday night meeting on 12/28.  The meeting will resume on January 4, 2016.  Please visit our other Monday meetings if you would like to keep a Monday meeting in your rotation.

 

Monday Mornings
Time: 6:00AM – 7:30AM
Location: First Baptist Church
1700 Milam Street
Columbus, TX  78934
979.732.6261
http://www.fbccolumbustx.org

Monday Nights
 Time: 7:00PM – 8:30PM
Location: Lifepath Church – Room 108
17703 W Little York Rd
Houston, TX 77084
281.855.0222
Other Meeting times and locations can be found by following the link below.

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Experiencing Spiritual Intimacy While You Make Love

Spiritual intimacy in marriage is a beautiful thing. When we have it, we can truly make love, not just have sex. I think that’s actually part of God’s plan for sex. Think about it: in sex we bare ourselves physically. But for sex to really work well, we also have to bare ourselves emotionally. We have to be able to be vulnerable. We have to be willing to “let go”. God created people with first and foremost a desperate longing for relationship. We long to know and be known, and in that knowing to be accepted. It’s our deepest need. When we focus only on the physical, sex too often can seem shallow. When we combine the physical with the emotional and the spiritual, sex is stupendous, because it encompasses all that we are. One of the reasons that our culture has become more pornographic–and why things that were once considered sexually taboo are now pretty much mainstream–is that our culture has made sex into something only physical because they don’t have anything else. And yet they know they’re missing something, so they try more and more extreme things. We have the ingredients for an amazing sexual relationship, because it’s real intimacy, not just orgasm. (And, by the way, that makes orgasm even greater!). Excerpts form an article found at http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2012/02/29-days-to-great-sex-day-27-experiencing-spiritual-intimacy-while-you-make-love/

Sex is always about emotions.
Good sex is about free emotions;
bad sex is about blocked emotions.
Deepak Chopra