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February 23, 2015 By Castimonia

Castimonia Fellowship Cookout – 2/28

We will be meeting under the gazebo in the Grand Lakes subdivision this coming Saturday, February 28th instead of at The Fellowship.  This will be an informal meeting focused more on Food, Fun, and Fellowship which is a very big part of our recovery.  Please plan to join us for some hamburgers, hotdogs, and whatever else we decide to grill!  If you have something you would liked grilled, then please bring that as well.

Time: 10:15 am – 12:30 pm
Location: Gazebo at Grand Lakes subdivision – S. Lakebluff Cir, Katy, TX 77494
From The Fellowship, take Peek Road South to Fry Road and turn West (right).  Proceed past HWY 99 (Grand Parkway), past the Home Depot, Denny’s, and McDonald’s.  Turn Northeast (right) on Grand Trace Lane and proceed to South Lakebluff Circle.  The gazebo is at the center of the circle.

Please bring some sort of chair for you to sit on!  If you have any questions please inquire with ExecutiveCommittee@Castimonia.org.

 

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February 21, 2015 By Castimonia

Overcoming Lust In The Church & At Home: Are You The Gate Keeper Of Your Heart?

http://prevailingwordministries.wordpress.com/2013/11/18/overcoming-lust-in-the-church-at-home-are-you-the-gate-keeper-of-your-heart/

You’ve repented. Asked the Lord for forgiveness. However, you find yourself doing the same thing over again. You just can’t get past remorse to really mean that you no longer have a desire to lust in your heart and to live holy before God.

You’ve find yourself opening that door to lust again, and again.

Lusting after her or him, or both.

We all go through moments of temptation but what we do in the temptation determines our victory or defeat.

James said to “Count it all joy when you fall into various trials…”

It’s not joyful when you fail.

Lately, I’ve seen some things that were definite signs of the enemy attempting to lure me back into “habits, patterns, and cycles” of lusting after the flesh. To get the victory is one thing. To maintain the victory is another.

When you are watching TV, the commercials are more provocatively explicit than at any other time in history. Cute commercials are a thing of the past. Money and sex, sex and money are forever seamlessly connected.

Actually, men no longer watch commercials for the sake of the product. It’s the “window dressing” of the commercial that gets his attention.

Car commercials are full of these things. Ask the average semi honest man and he will tell you that he is not really interested in the car. He was interested in that hot babe in or walking around the car.

This is called, “Substitute porn.”

It’s the same with the news. No man really watches the news for the content. The ladies dress like they are going to pick up a man. So the man feels right at home in his own home, being seduced by the weather lady as she seductively walks to the green screen.

Wearing a hot dress in stilettos.

Every morning, on cue, the TV comes on because he is mesmerized by her seduction.

Even in the pulpit, we know of a few well known female TV preachers that would preach in their stilettos, strutting their stuff as they preach.

But that’s not all.

One well known female preacher would sexually and provocatively bend over and fall to her knees as if to pray. Brothers in the audience weren’t caught up in the moment of the worship or prayer. The house of worship, in some places, has become a showcase for the red carpet.

Reality shows are the same thing. The story plots are not all that interesting. The female that is wearing nothing is what a man is interested. All of these things are precursors to Internet porn, chat rooms, sexting, and other forms of “acting out” sexually.

As we all know, men are “visual effects” minded.

Women, at least some of them that are sexually provocative will wear anything that will get a man’s attention. It doesn’t matter if the man is married any more. A desperate for attention woman will go for it regardless of the man’s marital status.

The house of worship is no different. To a woman desperate for a man’s attention, she really don’t care if the presence of God is in the house. The same goes for a sexually crazed man. The presence of the Lord could be thick in the house but all it takes is for one sexually immoral woman to walk by, and the deal is done.

And because there is lust in the heart of a man, she doesn’t have to wear something sexually provocative. The lust in his heart is so strong that he can’t help but sin with his heart and eyes.

Proverbs 20:27 says, “Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

In the 21st Century, lust is everywhere. Inside the house of worship and outside the house of worship. When a man refuses to discipline his heart and mind, it is a matter of time before he will act out the lusts of his flesh and mind.

There has to be an effort to turn the eyes from these things. In more radical cases, shut off the TV or not watch TV at all because the traps of the enemy are deliberately set for every man.

Jesus said this in Matthew 5:29-30.

“If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

The writer of Hebrews 12:4 said…“You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

What are you willing to do to cut yourself from the habits, patterns, and cycles that are intended to keep you in the bondage of lust?

I am not advocating taking a knife and going for it.

I didn’t say this.

What the Lord Jesus is demanding is…..what are we willing to do that is completely radical to avoid sin?

To what lengths are we willing to go to keep from sinning? If you find yourself falling into the trap of lust over and over again like a revolving door, then you haven’t done enough.

You didn’t take it to a level of a complete cut off.

Like on Sunday’s after service. We go home to watch the sports.

You know that they will have the cheerleaders in the background. Commercial breaks, nothing but sexually immoral women. Sunday night, you watch some R rated movie with soft porn.

According to XXXChurch, Sunday is the busiest day of the week to watch porn.

We really do not understand how we are being set up, but like sheep to the slaughter, we are suckered into these things every week and we wonder why we are spiritually dull. We also wonder why the Lord seems far from us. We vainly attempt to make up for it in emotionalism and euphoric hype.

As long as we feel good, God must be alright with me.

We go for the quick remorse kind of false repentance, hoping that the Lord would “understand.”

Far from the case.

God never endorse sin and the false way we repent. Because our hearts condemn us, we feel guilty and we want to either suppress that conviction or gloss it over with some type of appeasement so that we won’t feel as bad.

When lust is allowed to have a home in our hearts, it is an impediment to His presence.

1 John 3:20-22 says…

“For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”

How do we know that our hearts condemn us?

Paul said in Romans 8:1….

“There is therefore now no condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus who walk not after the flesh but after the Spirit.”

If you are walking in the flesh, to fulfill the lusts of the flesh and the mind, your heart will condemn you. So the rest of the verse in 1 John 3 tells us….“if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God…”

How do you know that you have confidence toward God?

Paul said, “…men everywhere, lifting up hands without wrath or doubting.”

When you lift your hands in praise to God, do you doubt your right standing and right relationship with God? Is there a question about your moral walk before God? Do you have confidence that God will not tell you that you are a hypocrite?

Confidence towards God tells us that there is no question about your current relationship with the Lord. That darkness doesn’t have a foothold, nor stronghold within you.

Jesus said this in Matthew 6:22-23…..

“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness.”

Are you the gatekeeper of your heart?

Proverbs 4:23 says…

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

Your eyes is the gate but your spirit man or heart is the gatekeeper.

What you watch will get into your spirit man. Once it gets inside your spirit man, evidently, it fills your entire body. What we watch, we meditate. What we meditate on, we eventually will make, according to Romans 13:14 “…provision to fulfill its lusts.”

So we have to defend the gate.

Psalm 101:3-4 says,

“I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; It shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall depart from me; I will not know wickedness.”

Who is the “I will?”

That’s your heart. You must take a knife, spiritually speaking, and cut off anything that will take you down the path to sin against God.

Psalm 141:4-5 says….

“Do not incline my heart to any evil thing, to practice wicked works with men who work iniquity; and do not let me eat of their delicacies. Let the righteous strike me; it shall be a kindness. And let him rebuke me; it shall be as excellent oil; let my head not refuse it. For still my prayer is against the deeds of the wicked.”

Do not bend your ear to wicked things. Commercials have certain songs that are very seductive. When that sound comes, it is an attention grabber. It serves as a signal that your favorite seducer is coming on. You have to do the right thing. Gatekeepers never let the enemy walk through the front gate.

But first, there has to be a clearing out of the heart.

The Lord has placed in His Word things that we need to apply in order for lust to never overcome us.

Psalm 119:9-11 says….

“How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh, let me not wander from Your commandments! Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.”

Sadly, the translation from Hebrew to English gives the impression that “might not” sounds like the Word and the person that is supposed to walk int he Word might not be successful. No one is perfect, do not misunderstand me. However, when we’ve developed a strong walk in the Word of God, the “might not” has the potential to turn into a “will not.”

“Your Word have I hidden in my heart that I will not sin against you.”

How you hide the Word and what you do with that Word determines your victory.

James 1:21-25 says….

“Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was.

But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does.”

The Lord gave you a good head start in your initial deliverance. Now it is time to see it through by doing the Word.

It’s called.

Obedience!!!

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February 18, 2015 By Castimonia

It is the truth of God’s word that sanctifies and sets us free

http://davidcampbelljr.wordpress.com/2013/11/18/it-is-the-truth-of-gods-word-that-sanctifies-and-sets-us-free/

16 They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. 17 Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth. 18 As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world. 19 And for their sakes I sanctify Myself, that they also may be sanctified by the truth.   John 17:16-19

The world that we live in is full of lies and deceptions.  Satan has blinded the hearts and minds of those who live on this earth.  Without the truth of God’s word we are not able to discern the lies of the enemy from truth.  But as we spend time in God’s word and we not only read it, but we meditate on it we come to see things through the eyes of the Lord.

We come to understand why certain things are happening in the world and why the Lord allows certain things.  There is a separation that is taking place right now between those who truly love the Lord and desire His truth and those who desire to only seek after the flesh.  Those whose hearts are turned to the Lord will seek Him early in the morning and late into the evening.

The importance of God’s word cannot be overstated.  In the times we live in it is a light in greater darkness that is filling the earth.  But we must not focus on the darkness or fear the times that are ahead.  The Lord’s grace is sufficient for all things and our minds and our hearts must be focused on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith.  This things are meant to happen to separate the sheep from the goats.

If we are willing to seek the Lord with our whole heart, He will in turn reveal the depths of His heart unto us.  He will reveal to us the reason we were created and will reveal unto us our place in His kingdom.  All of us have been created for specific reason and purpose and we must fill our hearts and minds with the word of the Lord.  Every day we move closer to the return of Jesus and we must use every day to prepare our hearts for the things He has called us to.

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February 15, 2015 By Castimonia

Who’s More Jealous: Men or Women?

“It is not love that is blind, but jealousy,” according to the writer Lawrence Durrell. Jealousy is defined as a fear and rage response that preserves romantic bonds between sexual partners. Its function, it is believed, is to curb infidelity between parents, which advances the survival of their children and their subsequent reproductive success. Romantic jealously is widely understood to be different for men and women because each gender has a different level of investment in reproduction. For a man to provide for genetically distant children decreases his reproductive success — and because men are uncertain whether they really are the father of said children, they are most susceptible to sexual infidelity. By contrast, women can rest assured that they are the mother of their own children; however, they are more dependent on men for resources, making them more sensitive to emotional infidelity, since it could threaten the supply of resources for herself and her child. While many subscribe to this view, the research has been admittedly inconclusive. Now, a team led by Hasse Walum of the Karolinska Institute in Sweden has broken new ground. Participants were presented with two hypothetical infidelity scenarios: “Sexual jealousy: ‘You suspect that while your boyfriend/ girlfriend was on vacation s/he had a one nightstand. You realize that even if s/he did have sex with this other person, they will probably never see each other again. How upset do you think you would feel if this happened?’” “Emotional jealousy: ‘You suspect that while your boyfriend/girlfriend was on a trip s/he fell in love with someone else. You realize that even if s/he did develop these feelings, s/he will probably never see this other person again. How upset do you think you would feel if this happened?’” They were then asked to answer these questions along a 10-point scale, ranging from 1 (not at all) to 10 (extremely). What did they find? Consistent with prior research, women reported higher levels of jealousy on both measures, and both men and women scored higher on sexual jealousy than on emotional jealousy. However, men reported greater jealousy in response to sexual infidelity by comparison to emotional infidelity. These findings square with the theory that men and women differ when it comes to the types of jealousy, that is, sexual vs. emotional. From an article by Vinita Mehta, Ph.D., Ed.M.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/head-games/201308/whos-more-jealous-men-or-women

“In jealousy there is more self-love than love.” – François, Duc de La Rochefoucauld

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February 12, 2015 By Castimonia

Teens: 10 Stats You Need to Know (Infographic)

http://purelifepodcast.wordpress.com/2013/11/14/teens-an-porn-10-stats-you-need-to-know-infographic/

Teens

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