Sexual Purity Support & Recovery Group
Please register ASAP, only 17 spots remain open for the retreat. If you need financial assistance, we offer full and half scholarships so please e-mail info@castimonia.org for scholarship info.
Register at: castimonia.org/retreat
Led by Faithful & True Ministries, which was founded by Dr. Mark Laaser, this Conference for Men Intensive Workshop is one of the the most effective and affordable workshops in the country. The Workshop is a three-day event of teaching and small group interaction with Dr. Greg Miller who is a Christian leader in the field of sexual addiction.
Conference participation is given the utmost confidentiality. Our church building will be closed to all except the conference participants.
The focus of the workshop is to teach men practical steps to acquire sexual purity and also to help them understand the root causes of their sexual acting out. Our vision is that the workshop will support men to grow emotionally and spiritually. We believe it is only in a relationship with God that any of us can truly heal. The workshop format includes a mixture of lecture, group discussion, individual reflection time and assignments. Additional leaders also participate in our workshop sessions by leading our small group breakout sessions.
Participants will leave with the insight that is accomplished in 6-8 months of Christian Counseling. It is an amazing opportunity to have here in the Houston area to catapult one’s recovery from sexual struggle.
For more information, contact Weston Savell.
Register here: https://kbrevive.wufoo.com/forms/faithful-true-conference-for-men-s1jnqr5s1pz980f/
The Castimonia retreat this coming November is at 60% capacity. If you intend to register for the retreat, please do so ASAP.
If you need a scholarship, we have 50% and 100% scholarships available for those that cannot afford to attend. Please send an e-mail to info@castimonia.org to apply for a scholarship.
You can register for the retreat by following this link: http://castimonia.org/retreat
Retreat Details:
Dates: November 19 – 21
Cost: $160 early bird registration (Aug 1 to Sept 30)/$180 regular registration (Oct 1 to Nov 10)
Retreat registration includes room and board at the retreat center. Please bring twin size bedding or a sleeping bag and pillow for the beds.
Castimonia’s Paratus Retreat is a retreat for any man who struggles with any type of sexual purity. Paratus, Latin for “equipped”.
If you are wondering about whether to attend this retreat, ask yourself these questions:
Join us for a weekend dedicated to equipping adult men of all ages, all walks of life, and various levels of struggle with the tools necessary to wage this spiritual battle and emerge on the other side as the sexually pure men that God intended us to be.
At the Paratus Retreat, we will discuss strategies for equipping ourselves with tactics necessary for battling the enemy. We will discover the true meaning of brotherhood, fellowship, and intimacy. The leaders of the Paratus Retreat will set the example of vulnerability and accountability. We hope to pave the way for all men to be fully equipped to wage war against Satan’s tempting assaults and emerge VICTORIOUS.
The ultimate affirmation for all men is to hear at the end of days, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
A wise man is strong, And a man of knowledge increases power. For by wise guidance you will wage war, And in abundance of counselors there is victory. Proverbs 24:5-6
Start: November 19 – 04:30 pm End: November 21 – 12:00 pm Organizer: Castimonia Restoration Ministry, Inc.
Email: Retreat@Castimonia.org Website: http://castimonia.org/retreat Venue:
Cat Spring Retreat Center 14852 Hall Road Cat Spring, TX, US, 78933
Join in on Doug and Chris’s conversation on how to help equip families and parents to talk about sex, pornography, and addiction. Chris has a new book out on the topic, and learn some practical tips from him and his life experiences as well as his counseling expertise.
If you have questions or want to reach out, please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org, and remember that on this path of recovery, you are not walking alone.
Originally posted at: https://sexaddictionpartners.wordpress.com/2021/02/20/ask-us-common-questions-asked-by-partners-of-sex-addicts/
Below are some questions we’re often asked when spouses learn that their partner has a sex addiction – a very distressing and disorienting experience.
1. Is it possible to identify when the addiction began?
The majority of guys say they stumbled upon porn, or were actively shown porn, at around 10 years of age. They remember the adrenalin rush they experienced, and the powerful pull to view more images, or to watch more videos.
2. Why did my partner hide it from me?Why did he choose to lie and deceive me?
Although guys know lots of people look at porn all the time, they’re usually convinced that their partner will be shocked. And their greatest fear is that you’ll walk away.
So, coming clean with you feels incredibly threatening. They’re terrified they’ll lose you, and their life will fall apart. There is also shame and guilt around a sex addiction being negatively judged by society. All of this adds to the need for secrecy.
3. How much do I need to know about the past, and his level of involvement?
If you work with a counsellor on a formal disclosure, your partner will be asked to list everything he’s been involved in (pornography, webcams, dating sites and apps, sensual massages, escorts, prostitutes, emotional affairs, etc.). He’ll also be asked to put dates to these behaviours, and to be honest about the frequency.
It is important that you know the extent of the addiction, and to also be aware of what you might have been exposed to (STDs etc.). However, most counsellors discourage pushing too hard for specific details (What was she wearing? What was her figure like? What exactly did you do?) The reason? Once you have those pictures in your mind, it’s almost impossible to extricate them. Hence, they can intensify your suffering and become extremely powerful triggers.
4. What was going through his mind, as he became more and more addicted?
Feelings of guilt and shame intensify – because of what he’s doing and the double life he’s leading. One way to deal with this, and to cope with life in general, is to compartmentalize, and deny he has a problem. This is a very common coping strategy.
In reality, most addicts want to stop eventually. They want to gain control of their lives. They tell themselves repeatedly that: “This is the last time.” But because they are addicted, they get drawn in again.
5. What is the turning point; what makes the addict come clean?
Very few guys come clean on their own. Most of them are caught by their wife or their boss. Sometimes they are blackmailed, or an affair partner threatens to reveal their secret. This is usually a crisis for the addict.
Saying that, very few addicts reveal everything at first. They admit to the minimum they think they can get away with. Then they drip feed the truth over weeks, months, or years. This adds to the trauma for the partner or spouse.
6. What could I have done to stop this happening?
Nothing. In almost every case, we find the partner was a user, and was going down this road, before they met their spouse or partner. The most important thing to take away from all of this is: you didn’t play a part. It was not your fault AT ALL.
This site is intended for individuals who struggle with maintaining sexual purity. This information is posted for individuals at various stages in their recovery, year 1 to year 30+; what applies to some, may not apply others. Spouses are encouraged to read this blog with the caveat that they may not agree with, understand, or know the reason for some items posted. As always, take what you like and leave the rest.
