Such a common argument from porn viewers, but it’s not true. Pornography actually deteriorates one’s ability to have empathy, while at the same time it sexualizes pain, domination and humiliation. While at first using porn may seem fun or beneficial, it inevitably leads to a drastic disconnect between partners. Porn is addictive, and leaves the viewer with a cache of images to pluck from memory. These images become your sexual partner…not the person you are with. Sexual interactions become about playing out a scene and not about enjoying your partner. What pornography really does is, place a very large wedge between couples. It’s skews expectations, desires, and boundaries. The sad truth is that most relationships suffer because of porn. Sexual intimacy is difficult to participate in when you have already masturbated a few times in one day. People think porn will teach you how to please your partner, but really it just teaches you to please yourself.
“Porn sex is not about making love, as the feelings and emotions we normally associate with such an act — connection, empathy, tenderness, caring, affection — are replaced by those more often connected with hate — fear, disgust, anger, loathing, and contempt.” – Gail Dines, Pornland