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Erectile Dysfunction And Porn: How Over-stimulation Can Ruin Your Sex Life

Originally posted on 09/14/2012

“With a buffet including live sex chat, new naked chicks with every click, multiple windows, and escalating levels of hardcore, what actually happens inside the brain is a form of overdosing.”  Porn is so readily available now that it’s hard to say no.  though, there’s a very good reason to pull out: erectile dysfunction Research shows that being exposed to porn desensitizes men to the point where getting turned on by regular sex simply isn’t exciting enough.

Call it a new type of impotence, if you will, where men in this study — as young as in their 20s — found it normal to have erectile dysfunction during real sexual interactions yet still were excited for the smörgåsbord of internet porn.  We get a dopamine spike from something wild stroking our switch, but the more we’re exposed to it and the more intense the exposure, the harder of a time we have getting aroused for our normal sex scenes at home.

For many men, achieving an erection without the constant exposure that internet porn provides is becoming more challenging. Maybe it’s time for us to go porn-free, but who actually has the willpower?

My response to the writer’s question:

With abstinence from pornography, the “arousal template” shrinks back to normal where one can enjoy sexual intercourse without the extremes seen in pornography.  The only way I found to remain abstinent was through a proper sexual addiction recovery program.

3 thoughts on “Erectile Dysfunction And Porn: How Over-stimulation Can Ruin Your Sex Life”

  1. I found this to be so very true. When Mr. Baker was watching porn daily, I actually had conversations both with him alone and with him in our therapists office about this. He was able to maintain an erection during sex, however, he was unable to climax through sex. He needed visual stimulation from me in order to finish. I told him (even before I knew about all the nuances of how porn addiction affects the brain) that he was becoming desensitized to sex with me. It was so confusing and heartbreaking for me, but even then I was able to make some sort of connection to his SA. Now that I know more about it, I definitely understand why.

  2. This same thing is true for women too. While I can be aroused by “normal” and healthy sexually activity, it is really hard for me to climax without either watching or imagining extreme, and violent hardcore images.

  3. It is very true and very wretched. I fell into porn at age 12. It was all I knew for fifteen years. I have never been able to even “get it up” with a real woman. The “real thing” doesn’t feel “real” at all; it doesn’t feel like porn…

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