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“Why haven’t you healed me?” (The Chosen scene)
Even There
By KW
“O Come, O Come Emmanuel and ransom captive Israel.
Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel shall come to thee O Israel.”
Similar to the Israelites journey out of Egypt, I lived as a prisoner to the Pharaoh of addiction for the first quarter of my life. I’d always known I had serious issues, and that my world was totally unmanageable, but I felt powerless to change. If I’m honest, there was a big part of me that didn’t really want to leave behind the “pleasures of Egypt” and, while I would often beg God to free me from my captivity, my divided heart could never take my feet beyond the shore of the Red Sea. Looking back now, I can see how the Lord was with me all along, but I wanted Him to come as a magician, not a Great Physician (Luke 5:31). I wanted a microwaveable miracle rather than a painful process of collaborative-cleansing; comfort over change. But just as Moses was born during a horrible hour of enslavement, the birth of Christ was a prophetic promise of spiritual emancipation, which is why I love “O Come, O Come Emmanuel.”
This song is essentially the story of my life, and the age-old testimony of humanity. It reminds us that while we were slaves to sin, precious little baby Emmanuel descended from Heaven “to proclaim liberty to the captives…[and] to set at liberty those who are oppressed” (Luke 4:18). Perhaps you find yourself battling with some besetting sin this advent season. May the lyrics of this song encourage your weary heart. “Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel shall come to thee, O Israel.” Our freedom was the very reason that Christ was born; He loves you and will never forsake you. After all, Emmanuel means “God with us,” and so in our sin-struggles, addictions, and brokenness, Emmanuel is with us even there. Dear friends, open your hearts today and joyfully receive the gift of His sacred presence. No matter where you find yourself, Emmanuel is with you even there (Psalm 139:7-12).
Unraveling the Connection Between Anxiety and Codependency: A Path to Mental Wellness
Originally posted at: https://theonlinetherapist.blog/unraveling-the-connection-between-anxiety-and-codependency-a-path-to-mental-wellness/
Anxiety is a common mental health problem that affects a large number of people all over the world. Anxiety can manifest in a variety of different ways, such as generalised anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and social anxiety disorder. Codependency is an unhealthy relational pattern in which people overly depend on others for their sense of self-worth and validation. Codependency is a significant contributor to the development of anxiety and the worsening of anxiety symptoms. The article intends to delve into the complex relationship between anxiety and codependency, clarifying their negative impact on mental well-being and proposing solutions to break the cycle and nurture a healthy mindset. Specifically, the post will focus on illuminating the connection between anxiety and codependency as it relates to mental health.
Comprehending the concept of codependency
The roots of codependency can be traced back to dysfunctional family interactions, which are frequently characterised by emotional neglect, abuse, or addiction. Those who are brought up in such settings frequently acquire a great need for the validation and acceptance of others from the outside world, which often manifests in the form of codependent behaviours in their adult relationships. Codependents have a tendency to put the wants and feelings of others before of their own, which frequently comes at the expense of their own health and happiness. This continuous attention on other people generates an environment that is ideal for the development of worry.
The Relationship Between Anxiety and CodependencyCodependents have a profound and irrational dread of being abandoned or rejected, which stems from their insatiable desire to be validated and approved of at all times. Anxiety can be triggered in those who are always worried about losing the people on whom they rely, which can lead to excessive worrying, restlessness, and irritation.Codependents frequently suffer from low self-esteem and have the perception that they are unworthy of love and support from others. They are very dependent on the approval of others to determine their own value, which is a major contributor to their anxiety. Anxiety and self-doubt can be perpetuated when there is a constant need for reassurance and approval from others.Codependents have a difficult time setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, and they usually find themselves immersed in the relationships in which they are involved. Because of this lack of boundaries, individual identities get muddled, and it becomes difficult for codependents to distinguish their feelings from those of other people. As a result of this emotional entanglement, codependents internalise the stress and emotions of others around them, which increases their own level of worry.Codependents frequently have a feeling of compulsion to please other people in order to preserve their sense of self-worth. Because they fear confrontation and being rejected, they put the requirements of others ahead of their own requirements. Because of their unending need to make others happy, codependents live in a state of constant anxiety because they worry about upsetting or disappointing other people.
Strategies for a Healthier Mindset, with the Goal of Breaking the Cycle
Acquiring a healthy level of self-awareness is absolutely necessary in order to successfully break the cycle of codependency and anxiety. The first step in making a change is to become aware of and acknowledge patterns of codependence, as well as the impact these behaviours have on one’s mental health. Individuals may be able to obtain insights into their codependent behaviours and the underlying concerns that are motivating them by participating in therapy or engaging in exercises that encourage self-reflection.
It is essential to work on developing a healthy self-esteem in order to lessen feelings of worry and disrupt patterns of codependence. Participating in pursuits that foster self-care, self-compassion, and personal development might assist individuals in developing a more robust perception of their own value. Boosting one’s self-esteem and relieving anxiety can be accomplished by establishing and attaining personal goals and enjoying even the smallest of achievements.
Learning to set healthy boundaries is one of the most important skills you can acquire in order to stop the cycle of codependency. Codependents have a responsibility to put their own wants and feelings first, even if doing so causes them to let others down. A better boundary can be established and anxiety can be reduced by learning to communicate assertively and being skilled in the art of saying “no” when it is appropriate.
In order to effectively manage anxiety, it is vital to both participate in activities that reduce stress and cultivate good coping mechanisms. This involves engaging in activities such as mindfulness practise, maintaining a regular exercise regimen, obtaining support from relationships that are not dependent on one another, and investigating various methods of relaxing such as meditation or deep breathing.
Because breaking the cycle of codependency and anxiety may be so challenging, it is often necessary to seek the advice of a professional. Counsellors who specialise in codependency and anxiety can provide individuals with vital assistance and support, assisting them in navigating their feelings, cultivating healthy relationship patterns, and reducing the severity of their anxiety symptoms.
Anxiety and codependency commonly go hand in hand, which can result in a vicious cycle that has a substantial negative influence on a person’s mental health. The first step in freeing oneself from codependent habits and alleviating anxiety is to become aware of the connection between these two problems. Individuals can break the pattern and promote a healthier mentality by cultivating self-awareness, creating self-esteem, establishing boundaries, developing coping mechanisms, and getting professional advice when necessary. This can pave the way for a life that is more satisfying and free of anxiety.