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March 12, 2021 By Castimonia

Searcy, AR Tuesday Meeting Relocated – In Person Only

We are moving our Tuesday meeting to another church so we can start meeting in person.

The Searcy, Arkansas Tuesday meeting will now be in person only, and it will be at a new location.

We will meet at the Downtown Church of Christ at 900 North Main. We will enter the side of the building from the north parking lot which is the side away from downtown Searcy. We will still meet from 7-8:30. This will be our new Tuesday location for the foreseeable future!

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March 9, 2021 By Castimonia

CASTIMONIA PURITY PODCAST EPISODE 89: Step 12 and Spiritual Awakenings

Step 12

Jorge and Doug discuss some ways to work Step 12 and for Jorge to let go of his resentments. Remember that you are not alone on thisroad of recovery…..for more information please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org.

Filed Under: podcast, Podcasts, Purity Podcast, Sex Addiction Podcast, Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: castimonia, Jesus Christ, Sex Addiction Podcast, spiritual awakening, step 12

March 9, 2021 By Castimonia

Recovery Minute – 7 Things to Never Tell An Addict – There’s Still Hope

https://www.theresstillhope.org/

July 11, 2020

You meant well. You sincerely thought you were saying the right thing. But somehow, your words did more damage than good.

If you know an addict or are even married to an addict, measure your words carefully. Adopt the mantra of a therapist – “Do no harm.”

Let me help. Here are seven things you should never say to an addict.

  1. “If you loved me, you’d stop.”
  2. “Your problem is a sign of weakness.”
  3. “You have to hit rock bottom.”
  4. “Your whole life is a lie.”
  5. “You will never change.”
  6. “If you loved God, you’d stop.”
  7. “You just need to try harder.”

Never pamper a sex addict. He is responsible for his recovery – period. But don’t create an even bigger problem by telling him or her the wrong thing.

Perhaps you can adopt the approach God took toward a wayward generation 2,700 years ago. “I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, ‘Do not fear; I will help you’” (Isaiah 41:13).

Recovery Step: Sex addicts need accountability and tough love. But they also need something else. In fact, we all do. It’s called grace.

Filed Under: Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: addict, porn, porn addiction, pornography, sex addiction, sexual

March 5, 2021 By Castimonia

Forgiveness: Doing what Christ does

SOURCE:  Adapted from an article in  Discipleship Journal/Jack & Carole Mayhall

She looked at me defiantly.  Hope, hurt, pain, and anger were mingled in her eyes and in her tone as she said, “I can’t do it, Carole. Could you?”

She had just told me her problem—and it was a giant one. Her in-laws had physically and verbally attacked her in front of her husband and children. And her husband had not only failed to come to her defense, but had sided with his parents. How could she forgive such a thing?

“No,” I replied, “I couldn’t forgive him. But God can—and will through and in you, if you’ll let him. There is no hope for your marriage if you don’t forgive.”

I could have added that there would be no hope for her, either. The lack of forgiveness produces a poison that will eat away one’s very existence, especially the existence of any joy or peace in our lives.

What heartache!

There is no easy answer. But this I know: God does have a solution. It is somehow tied in with the solemn warning in Hebrews 12:15—”See to it that no one misses the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” I would paraphrase that first part, “Make sure no one fails to receive enough of God’s grace.”

If we don’t have enough of his grace, it isn’t God’s fault. His grace is sufficient for our every need (2 Corinthians 12:9). The fault is ours, because we haven’t really asked for his grace with an accepting heart.

What is forgiveness? One dictionary defines the verb forgive as “to cease to feel resentment” against someone, “to pardon,” “to give up resentment,” or “to grant relief from payment.”

I was struck with two things about this definition. First was the feeling involved—”to cease to feel resentment.” This statement rules out attitudes such as “I forgive him, but I can’t forget it,” or, “I forgive him in my head, but not in my heart.” Our hearts are free only when we cease to feel resentment.

Many times we don’t really want to forgive, for if we do we become vulnerable to be hurt all over again. So we build our walls of resentment and unforgiveness in order not to feel pain again.

Logically this makes some sense. But emotionally it is deadly poison. And it poisons the person with the unforgiving heart first of all. When a person hardens his or her feelings against pain, all feeling can be deadened.

The second thing that struck me about the dictionary definition was the verbs that are used: “cease,” “give up,” and “grant.” An act of our will is involved in ceasing to feel resentful, in giving up a claim, in granting the offender relief from paying for his offense. But to do this is not easy.

David Augsburger, radio speaker for “The Mennonite Hour,” put it this way in Cherishable: Love and Marriage—

Forgiveness is hard.  Especially in a marriage tense with past troubles, tormented by fears of rejection and humiliation, and torn by suspicion and distrust.

Forgiveness hurts.  Especially when it must be extended to a husband or wife who doesn’t deserve it, who hasn’t earned it, who may misuse it. It hurts to forgive.

Forgiveness costs.  Especially in marriage when it means accepting instead of demanding repayment for the wrong done; where it means releasing the other instead of exacting revenge; where it means reaching out in love instead of relinquishing resentments. It costs to forgive.

Forgiveness, Augsburger says, is when the injured person chooses “to accept his angry feelings, bear the burden of them personally, find release through confession and prayer, and set the other person free.”

This is what Jesus Christ did for us.

He forgave us unconditionally, bearing the burden, setting us free. “In him, we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us” (Ephesians 1:7–8).

Many times it is the little, picky matters that stick in our throats and cause us to choke when the need arises to forgive. When we do not deal with the seemingly inconsequential things, we fail to “walk in the light.”

If we walk in the light as he is in the light we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from every sin. (1 John 1:7)

Are you walking in the light with your mate?

In Christ, there is “no darkness at all” (1 John 1:5), no hidden, secret resentment, no anger or self-pity, or criticism. If we are walking in the light as he is in the light, then we will have true fellowship with one another. We will be best friends in open, honest sharing.

We must forgive, and forgive immediately.

Listen again to David Augsburger:

Forgiveness is smiling silent love to your partner when the justifications for keeping an insult or injury alive are on the tip of your tongue, yet you swallow them. Not because you have to, to keep peace, but because you want to, to make peace.

Forgiveness is not acceptance given “on condition” that the other becomes acceptable. Forgiveness is given freely. . . .

Forgiveness is a relationship between equals who recognize their deep need of each other, share and share-alike. Each needs the other’s forgiveness. Each needs the other’s acceptance. Each needs the other.

Filed Under: Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: Christ, forgiveness, porn, porn addiction, pornography, sex addiction, sexual

March 4, 2021 By Castimonia

Castimonia Purity Podcast Episode 88B: Ian’s Testimony part B

Ian’s Testimony Part B

Join Ian and Doug as they discuss the hope and freedom possible in recovery. Listen to Ian’s testimonyof what worked for him to establish sobriety. Ian discusses the idea of recovery being more than just sexual sobriety, but it is about becoming betterevery day in small, meaningful ways.

If you have questions or want to reach out, please email us at puritypodcast@castimonia.org, and remember that on this path of recovery, you are not walking alone.

Filed Under: podcast, Podcasts, Purity Podcast, Sex Addiction Podcast Tagged With: castimonia, Christ, Purity Podcast, sex addiction

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