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April 14, 2023 By Castimonia

Keys to Rewiring Porn Brain: Desensitization

by Sathiya Sam – https://www.sathiyasam.com/

We have been getting a lot of questions about how porn specifically affects the brain, and something tells me you may have some of the same questions.

In case you didn’t know – I was a university researcher for several years before becoming a local church pastor, so the whole neuroscience thing through a Biblical lens is kind of my jam đꤓ.

The male brain is changing in some pretty disturbing ways these days. To give you an idea…

  1. Men under the age of 40 experience erectile dysfunction at about 25-30% (!!!!!!!!). This is insane. Back in 2000, the rate was <5%.
  2. About 80% of pornographic content depicts violence, anger, or very intense sex scenes.
  3. Porn increases divorce rates by as much as 56% (and the divorce rate is already pretty dang high)…

These alarming trends can all be accounted for by a concept in neuroscience called desensitization.

Let me ask you something…

Have you ever walked into a room that had a funny smell? Like Uncle Rick let one rip real bad right before you walked in and now he’s trying to play it cool and pretend he didn’t do it when he’s the only other person in the room and it’s very obvious he did it?

(You know what I’m talking about…)

What happens about 30-45 seconds later? The smell starts to disappear (assuming Uncle Rick has no more gas left in the tank, so to speak).

You may tell yourself, “Oh the rancid fumes of Uncle Rick’s crop duster have finally blown away!”

Not so.

What actually took place was a process called desensitization.

In other words, your nerve cells got used to the stimulus (those poor nerve cells) to the point that the fart fumes no longer register. Our nerve cells are responsible for detecting CHANGES in stimulus, rather than stimulus itself.

This is also why when you squish in the backseat of a car with a bunch of people, at first it feels uncomfortable and you’re very aware that your legs are touching other people’s legs. But after a while, you don’t even notice.

The legs didn’t go anywhere. Your nervous system simply became desensitized because there were no changes in stimulus. The only way you’d become aware of the legs is if someone (or you) started to shuffle around.

When you watch porn regularly, your brain experiences arousal desensitization.

Remember the good ol’ days of puberty where the pretty blonde-hair, blue-eyed (or black-hair, brown-eyed for my fellow darker skinned readers) taking a glance in your direction was enough for you to pitch a tent?

Well if you continue to watch porn, those glances no longer do the trick. Porn provides abnormally high amounts of stimulus that nothing in real life can compete with.

And as you keep watching highly-stimulating content (aka. porn), your brain’s threshold to experience arousal starts to elevate.

Then after a while, you notice that the same kind of content you used to watch doesn’t cut it.

So you try some “new” stuff.

The kind of stuff you used to judge other people for watching (or doing).

It’s not because you’re so messed up and dark. It’s because your brain has become desensitized and is looking for a new way to experience arousal like it used to.

But in the process…

The threshold becomes SO high, that when you engage in normal sex, it’s not enough to register any kind of arousal. Hence why 1/3 men under the age of 40 are dealing with ED right now.

When the Bible says that we are transformed by the renewing of our mind (Rom 12:2), there is a hidden principle in there that we must grasp…

How we think determines how we function.

Which is why desensitizing your brain is a big deal. A desensitized brain leads a zombie of a man. Numb, disconnected, and fragmented.

Talk soon,
Sathiya

Filed Under: Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: porn, pornography, recovery, sex addiction, sexual, sexual purity

April 12, 2023 By Castimonia

Sugar Creek Meetings Cancelled 4/18/2023

Our host church will be holding an event and we need to cancel the meetings on that night. Meetings will resume the following week.

Please attend our 7pm Zoom meeting in lieu of the in-person meetings. Please contact info@castimonia.org for the Zoom link.

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April 10, 2023 By Castimonia

Ten Benefits of EMDR Therapy

Originally posted at: https://revelationcounselingblog.wordpress.com/2023/02/24/ten-benefits-of-emdr-therapy/

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a form of psychotherapy used to treat individuals with traumatic experiences, anxiety, depression, and other mental health concerns. The therapy is based on the concept that traumatic experiences can cause unprocessed memories to become stored in the brain, leading to symptoms such as anxiety and depression.

The EMDR therapy process begins with a thorough assessment of the client’s history and current symptoms. The therapist then helps the client identify specific traumatic events and related negative beliefs. During the therapy session, the client is instructed to recall the traumatic memory while following the therapist’s hand movements or other forms of bilateral stimulation (e.g. tapping or sound). This process is thought to activate the brain’s natural information processing system, allowing the client to reprocess and integrate the traumatic memories.

Throughout the therapy process, the client is encouraged to report any thoughts, feelings, and sensations that arise. The therapist may also work with the client to address and challenge negative beliefs related to the traumatic experience. After several EMDR therapy sessions, it is common for clients to experience a decrease in symptoms, improved mood, and increased overall functioning.

EMDR therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach that has been found to be highly effective for treating a wide range of mental health concerns. It can be a powerful tool for individuals looking to overcome traumatic experiences and improve their overall quality of life.

10 Benefits of EMDR Therapy

  1. Reduces symptoms of trauma (PTSD)
  2. Improves depression and anxiety
  3. Decreases negative beliefs and emotions
  4. Enhances positive self-esteem
  5. Increases resilience
  6. Improves relationship functioning
  7. Alleviates symptoms of phobias
  8. Enhances spiritual well-being
  9. Improves sleep
  10. Increases overall life satisfaction.

Filed Under: Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: addiction, castimonia, EMDR, recovery

April 6, 2023 By Castimonia

Christian 12 Step Sex Addiction Group

Revisiting the theme of having the AI ChatGPT write sex addiction articles, I asked it to “Write an article for a Christian, 12-step Sex Addiction Recovery Group” and below is the result:

As a Christian, finding oneself struggling with sex addiction can be a difficult and isolating experience. The guilt, shame, and sense of moral failure can lead to a vicious cycle of addictive behavior and self-destructive thoughts. However, there is hope for those who are willing to seek help and embark on a path of recovery.

The 12-step program is a widely recognized method for addiction recovery that has helped countless individuals find freedom from their addictive behaviors. These 12 steps were originally developed by Alcoholics Anonymous, but have since been adapted to address a wide range of addictions, including sex addiction.

The first step is perhaps the most difficult, but also the most important: admitting that we are powerless over our addiction and that our lives have become unmanageable. This requires a deep level of humility and surrender, recognizing that we cannot overcome our addiction on our own.

The second step involves recognizing that a higher power, in the form of God as we understand him, can restore us to sanity. For Christians, this involves placing our trust in Jesus Christ and recognizing that he alone has the power to transform us from the inside out.

The third step involves making a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand him. This requires a willingness to let go of our own desires and to trust in God’s plan for our lives.

The fourth step involves taking a fearless and searching moral inventory of ourselves. This involves honestly examining our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and acknowledging the ways in which we have harmed ourselves and others.

The fifth step involves admitting to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. This requires a willingness to be vulnerable and to seek the support and accountability of others.

The sixth step involves being entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. This requires a willingness to let go of our old ways of thinking and behaving, and to embrace a new way of life.

The seventh step involves humbly asking God to remove our shortcomings. This requires a recognition of our own limitations and a willingness to rely on God’s strength rather than our own.

The eighth step involves making a list of all persons we have harmed, and becoming willing to make amends to them all. This requires a willingness to take responsibility for our actions and to seek to make things right with those we have wronged.

The ninth step involves making direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. This requires a willingness to face our past mistakes and to make concrete steps towards making things right.

The tenth step involves continuing to take personal inventory and when we are wrong, promptly admitting it. This requires a commitment to ongoing self-reflection and accountability.

The eleventh step involves seeking through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out. This requires a commitment to cultivating a deep and meaningful relationship with God.

The twelfth step involves carrying this message to other sex addicts and practicing these principles in all our affairs. This requires a commitment to sharing our own experiences with others who may be struggling, and to living out these principles in all aspects of our lives.

As Christians, we believe that true freedom and transformation come through a relationship with Jesus Christ. The 12-step program can be a powerful tool for incorporating Christian principles into our recovery journey, and for finding the support and community we need to overcome our addiction. With God’s help and the support of fellow believers, we can find hope and healing in the midst of our struggles.

Filed Under: Sexual Purity Posts Tagged With: addiction, castimonia, christian, porn, pornography, recovery, Sex, sex addiction, sexual, sexual purity

April 4, 2023 By Castimonia

NEW STEP GROUP – Starting May 13th! (ALMOST FULL!)

Our founder, Jorge, will be leading a new step study group starting May 13th.  This is his 6th Step group.

The group lasts for about 2 years and you will go through all the steps including the pre-step and post-step work in the Castimonia book. 

They will meet every 2 weeks on Saturday mornings from 800am to 955am before the 10am Saturday Castimonia meeting in Katy. There is no cost to join the group but you must purchase a copy of the Castimonia book, 2nd edition.  Out of town guests will be able to use Zoom to join the group if they cannot attend in person. Houston-area members will need to attend in person.

This group takes a strong, long term commitment and is great for those ready to work the steps and have the Lord change their lives.

Spaces are limited to about 30 men and the group is almost full so please contact Jorge ASAP if you want to be a part of this next step group!

Please have any interested individuals contact Jorge at jorge@castimonia.org.

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