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The Dreaded Check-in

Originally posted at: https://sexuallypuremen.beehiiv.com/p/the-dreaded-check-in

by Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC

I am not sure there is any other tool in the recovery process that generates more universal groaning than the recovery check-in. It is resented. It is avoided. It is complained about on both sides of the aisle. And yet, ironically, it is one of the most powerful instruments for healing when done correctly.

But let us not get ahead of ourselves. Let us start with the complaints.

What the Betrayed Partner Says

“I ask him how recovery is going, and he never has anything to share.”
“He rushes through it like he’s trying to beat a parking meter.”
“He never schedules the check-ins—I have to chase him down.”
“He doesn’t share what’s actually going on inside him.”
“And somehow, no matter what I ask, he always ends up defensive.”

Translation: “I’m trying to feel safe with someone who emotionally vanishes the moment I need him to show up.”

What the Betrayer Says

“I don’t know what to say because I’m not doing anything wrong.”
“I dread these because they always lead to an argument.”
“She uses the check-in to batter me.”
“No matter what I say, it’s wrong or not good enough.”

Translation: “I still think this is about legal compliance and consequences and not emotional transformation.”

My gosh—what a nightmare.

On one side, a partner is desperate for emotional safety. On the other, a man in a full defensive posture, crouched behind emotional sandbags, terrified to schedule a check-in because he is convinced he is going to get whacked like an unsuspected mafia member. (I can talk about the mafia because I am Italian.)

And here is the real tragedy: both are missing the true purpose of the check-in. The check-in is not an inquisition. It is not supposed to feel like:

  • A parole hearing
  • A cross-examination
  • A courtroom drama where one side brings evidence and the other pleads the Fifth

And it is most certainly not meant to be, “I didn’t act out. Are we done with this discussion?”

A check-in exists to create emotional safety through emotional presence. For the betrayed partner, the check-in is meant to answer one essential question: “Is the man in front of me today a little more emotionally developed than the one who showed up at our last check-in—or am I talking to the same version of him?”

Is he emotionally different?

· Can he feel?

· Can he regulate?

· Can he be honest without becoming defensive or lying?

· Can he sit with my pain without collapsing into shame or aggression?

That is what she is listening for. And she learns this when you share the following.

  • What emotions did you experience this week?
  • What triggered you emotionally?
  • What felt overwhelming?
  • Did you want to escape?
  • What did you do instead of running?
  • Which recovery tools did you use?
  • Are you still struggling?

She is inquiring: “Are you learning to sit and manage your emotions—or are you still running from them and calling it sobriety?”

Because make no mistake, unmanaged emotions are the on-ramp to relapse. Always has been. Always will be.

If You Say, “Nothing Happened”—She Hears, “He is Not Changing”

When a man shows up to a check-in with, “Nothing really happened. I’m good.” What his partner hears is:

  • “I’m still emotionally disconnected.”
  • “I’m still avoiding vulnerability.”
  • “I still don’t know how to reflect.”
  • “I’m still telling you what I think you want to hear.”

So, let us be direct. If a betrayer claims to have no emotional struggles, no internal conflict, no temptations, no irritations, no sadness, no stress, no anxiety—then one of two things is true:

  1. He has achieved emotional enlightenment that no one else with this disorder has obtained, including yours truly
    or
  2. He is still emotionally numb and highly unaware of the changes required of him

I will let you decide each of you decide for yourselves.

Why Betrayers Dread the Check-In

Men dread check-ins for three core reasons:

1. They think it is about passing a test. They approach the check-in like a quiz:

  • “What’s the right answer?”
  • “How much can I say without getting in trouble?”
  • “What version of the truth will hurt the least?”
  • “What does she want to hear?”

But a check-in is not a test. It is a status report. And the only passing grade is emotional honesty and transparency.

Not perfection. Not bravado. Not bragging. Just honesty and transparency.

2. They Are Terrified of Their Partner’s Pain

Most men in early recovery are still afraid of their partner’s emotions. They do not know how to manage their emotions, and therefore, they unknowingly shut them down. They do this by retreating, minimizing, lying, and being defensive.

Then they say, “She uses the check-in as an excuse to beat me up.” When in reality, what she is doing is bleeding in front of the person who caused her wound.

3. They Do not Yet Have the Emotional Language

Many men truly do not know what they feel or how to express their emotions. That is the truth. This is because they were never taught to be emotionally literate. So, their internal world sounds like this:

  • “I’m fine.”
  • “I’m stressed.”
  • “I’m annoyed.”
  • “I’m tired.”

That is not a check-in. That is a weather report.

What a Healthy Check-In Actually Looks Like

A real check-in includes the following:

1. Emotional Transparency

Not what you did, but what you felt.

  • “I felt lonely this week.”
  • “I felt rejected after work.”
  • “I felt ashamed after we argued.”
  • “I felt triggered when I felt criticized.”

2. Skill Application

Not what you promised to do. What you actually practiced.

  • “I grounded myself instead of dissociating.”
  • “I called my accountability partner.”
  • “I journaled instead of escaping.”
  • “I sat with the discomfort instead of medicating it.”

Check-In Is Also for Her

And let us not miss that a check-in is not a one-way dialogue. It is also the time when the betrayer listens to how his partner is doing with her betrayal trauma:

  • What memories surfaced this week?
  • What triggered fear?
  • What brought grief?
  • What sparked anger?

This is where the betrayer learns to stay present, regulated, and vulnerable. Instead of fleeing into defensiveness, shame, shutdown, or counterattack.

A check-in is about demonstrating that you are emotionally available, regulated, accountable, and connected. If you treat the check-in like a trap,
and a partner still experiences it as a battlefield, then the issue is not the check-in. The real issue is that emotional work is not yet leading the recovery.

And until it does, the dread will continue.

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New Castimonia Meeting in San Antonio – Starting January 15th

I am humbled to announce that we will officially be starting a new Castimonia meeting on Thursday nights at The Fellowship of San Antonio on January 15th.  This is exactly how God’s ministry should grow.  A member that attended at the Katy, TX meeting was brave enough to take it to his location answering, “Lord send me!”  I am very grateful for this man’s bravery and for his faithfulness to the Lord.

Thursday Nights
7:00pm – 8:30pm
The Fellowship of San Antonio – Room 304
23755 Canyon Golf Road
San Antonio, TX 78258
Starting on January 15, 2026

Praise be to God, the father of our Lord Jesus Christ, for all He has done to grow His ministry!

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Healing Without Direction Is Just Circling Pain

Originally posted at: https://sexuallypuremen.beehiiv.com/p/healing-without-direction-is-just-circling-pain-dfcc

If you are within the first couple of years of discovery, or your spouse has not committed to recovery work—this message is not for you. You need time, space, and safety before these words will even begin to resonate.

But for the rest of you—those who have walked the rocky road of recovery for several years, those whose husbands have worked hard and changed—I ask you to read this with an open heart. Not everything I share should be taken as black and white. There is a great deal of grey in what I am about to discuss. A great deal of pain. A great deal of fear. And many difficult questions.

Here is one I want to ask you. “What are you trying to accomplish in broken your relationship right now?”

The Pain That Does Not Go Away

I have worked with countless couples devastated by sexual betrayal—pornography, affairs, compulsive sexual behavior. I have seen the transformation that recovery can bring in a man: sobriety, integrity, emotional presence.

And yet, even three… five… fifteen years down the road, I see couples still marred in the same painful recovery-healing cycles.

The husband has changed. He is doing the work. He is not the man he used to be.
But the wife remains guarded. Distant. Angry. The marriage feels frozen in time—as if the betrayal happened last week, not years, or even decades ago.

So, what is going on?

The Deep Roots of Betrayal Trauma

Betrayal trauma is not only about what he did. It is about how his actions impacted your body, mind, and soul.

When betrayal happens, it ruptures the foundation of your safety, your trust, your sense of self. And trauma does not just live in your memory—it lives in your nervous system. It wires your body to brace for danger, even when none is present.

Even if your partner has changed, your body still remembers. And so, fear shows up.

· Fear that you will be blindsided again

· Fear that if you open your heart, it will be crushed

· Fear that despite his positive actions, you are still not safe

But here is what we do not talk about enough: he is afraid too.

· He fears you will never truly forgive him

· He fears nothing he does will ever be enough

· He fears living under a lifetime sentence for his past

This fear—on both sides—is what keeps couples stuck long after the acting out has ended.

What Betrayed Partners Really Seek

When I sit with women years past discovery, I ask them what they really want. The answers sound different, but underneath, four core longings always show up.

1. Authentic Emotional Connection

You want to feel your husband’s heart—not just his actions. You want him to empathize, not just problem-solve. You want to feel seen, heard, and cherished.
It has been said, “A wife cannot feel safe with a man who cannot feel.”

And the truth? Many men struggle here. Not because they do not care, but because they never learned how. Still, you need—and deserve—this kind of connection.

2. Consistent Safety

You want to know that putting your heart out there will not end in devastation. But fear screams in your ear, “Do not trust him. You know what happened last time.”
Meanwhile, his fear whispers, “If I reach out, she will reject me.”  And so, both of you pull away.

3. A Partner Who Leads in Healing

You are tired. Tired of carrying the emotional weight of the relationship. Tired of initiating the hard talks. You want him to step forward—to lead with empathy, to offer comfort without being asked. But his fear keeps him quiet. And his silence? It does not bring peace. It brings more pain.

4. Ownership of Mistakes

Let us be real: even in recovery, men mess up. Especially when it comes to emotional connection. But nothing frustrates a woman more than a man who defends or explains instead of owning it.

“That is not what I meant”
“I was not trying to hurt you”

Those words are rubbish. They are lines that need to disappear from your vocabulary. What matters is not your intention—it is her experience. Real growth sounds like this:

“You are right. I did not show up for you. I own that. I am sorry.”

Fear Will Always Be There—but It Cannot Lead

Here is the truth. Fear will never fully go away. But it cannot run your relationship.

· If her fear is louder than her longing to connect, intimacy dies

· If his fear keeps him silent, safety never comes

Healing does not come with time. It comes when you stop letting fear dictate your choices.

The Hard but Honest Question

Couples stuck in this place need to ask: What are we really trying to accomplish?

· Are we trying to punish each other forever?

· Are we trying to survive but never thrive?

· Or are we trying to co-create something new?

Because let me be clear: The old marriage is dead. It died the day betrayal entered your relationship. You cannot rebuild what was not solid in the first place. But you can create something entirely new—one rooted in truth, connection, and safety.

That kind of relationship takes risk. Courage. Vulnerability. It means choosing to feel again, even when every cell in your body says, “Protect yourself.”

Real-Life Example: When Fear Is in the Driver’s Seat

I recently saw a post from a woman whose husband had done his recovery work—he was sober, present, changed. But even four years later, she still could not move toward him.

Then she realized it was her fear running the show. Her body was still in trauma. So here is what she did.

1. She noticed when fear and trauma were active in her body

2. She learned emotional regulation tools to settle her nervous system

3. She decided she wanted to give the relationship another try

4. She took small risks

And she began to heal. She wrote, “When he said, ‘You are beautiful,’ I started to believe him instead of my fear.”

That is the shift. It does not occur overnight. It does not happen without effort. But it results in deep healing.

You Are Not Broken

If your relationship still feels stuck years after betrayal, hear me: fear can no longer be the one holding the reins. Ask yourself—and ask each other:

· Are we trying to just survive?

· What do we really want?

· Are we ready to risk vulnerability and build something new?

Because time does not heal betrayal. Fear does not protect you from pain. Only courage, connection, and co-creation can lead to true healing.

And that starts with a single question, “What are we really trying to accomplish?”

Let that question guide you into the next chapter of your healing.

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How Long Does It Take To Recover From Porn Addiction?

originally posted at: https://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/how-long-does-it-take-to-recover-from-porn-addiction

by Keith Rose

If you, a friend, spouse, or loved one is trying to overcome porn, you’ve probably wondered how long it takes to recover from porn addiction. Some people say two weeks; others say 30 days. Recovery programs suggest 60 days or 90 days as an expected timeline for recovery. Noted sex addiction expert Dr. Patrick Carnes suggests a timeline of two or more years.

So how long is it going to take to be absolutely positively free from porn? Here are some helpful guidelines based on expert research that will help you better understand the porn recovery process and accurately assess how much time recovery will take in different situations.

Can You Recover from Porn Addiction?

I was recently having lunch with some friends, and somebody asked me, “Given the huge problem of pornography, do you get discouraged with what you’re doing? Doesn’t the darkness seem overwhelming?”

The darkness of porn addiction can feel overwhelming. But I don’t get discouraged because I get the joy of hearing stories of victory every day. A Covenant Eyes member named David wrote to us:

“I would like to say thank you for Covenant Eyes. Since I put Covenant Eyes on my computer and phone and my tablets back in February 2020, I have not seen any porn. I have been struggling with porn for almost 40 years since the age of 16.”

So before we dive into the “how long” question, I want to affirm that you absolutely can recover from porn addiction. It doesn’t matter how long someone has been stuck, how deeply ingrained their habit is, or how out of control their life feels. Like David, you can break free.

2 Perspectives on How Long It Takes to Recover From Porn

There are two different ways of answering the question, “how long does it take to recover from porn addiction?” First, quitting porn takes a second. But also, porn recovery takes a lifetime. Both perspectives are equally true and equally important.

1. Quitting porn only takes a second.

“Quitting is easy; I’ve done it hundreds of times.” So goes the old joke. It might be painful more than funny for anyone trapped by an addiction like porn. But there’s a nugget of truth in it: quitting porn does only take a second.

Someone can quit porn as quickly as they can close the browser. Every time someone chooses not to look at porn, they’ve quit porn. It’s as simple as that. Quitting porn isn’t something that takes years, months, or even days—it’s a decision in a moment.

It may be obvious, but it’s nonetheless important to remember. Alcoholics Anonymous gives advice very pertinent for people recovering from porn:

“In most cases, we cannot anticipate every possible turn of events, and no matter how diligently we are prepared, we are eventually caught off guard. Meanwhile, we’ve expended so much time and energy trying to predict future events, soothe future hurts, and even prevent future consequences that we have missed out on today’s opportunities. And the magnitude of the task we have set for ourselves has left us drained, overwhelmed, and distraught.”

Don’t worry about never looking at porn again. Just quit for now.

2. Recovery from porn takes a lifetime.

If you’ve wondered how long it takes, your question is not about quitting as much as it’s about recovery. How much time does it take someone to fully recover from porn addiction? From this perspective, quitting takes a lifetime.

Sex addiction therapist Marnie Ferree says:

“Ultimately, recovery is about practicing a new way of living, not simply about avoiding the practice of an addiction. Recovery is a commitment to a different life, forever and ever. To stop recovery because you’ve been doing it a long time is like deciding to stop breathing—ludicrous. (And life-threatening.) Walking in recovery is a ‘forever’ journey.”¹

Understanding the journey is vital. Therapists Larry and Wendy Maltz agree, “…every former porn user will find him or herself having to make frequent choices to reaffirm the commitment to stay away from porn.” However, they contend that it’s worth the effort, “It’s a lifelong process, but the feeling of accomplishment you can get from being able to keep porn out of your life can be an amazingly powerful experience.”²

4 Questions to Help Determine How Long Porn Addiction Recovery Might Take

These two short answers are important to keep in mind, but we can get more precise than this.

Here are some more helpful questions you can ask to help answer, “How long will it take to recover from porn?”

1. What Circumstances Drive the Porn Addiction?

Ask ten different former porn users how long it took them to recover and you’ll likely get ten different answers. This is because the circumstances that shape someone’s porn habit can impact their recovery time.

If you understand the underlying circumstances of someone’s porn usage, you’ll have a better idea of how long it will take them to break free. Here are some of the common reasons why porn is addictive.

When did they get hooked? 

When you got hooked on porn says a lot about how long it will take to change these patterns. Author and recovery expert John Fort says, “The sad reality for nearly every adult who struggles with porn is that their compulsive porn use started in childhood. In the more than two decades I that have been working with hundreds of men and women trying to overcome pornography addiction, I have met only one who did not first start using pornography as a child.”

What does this mean for recovery time? The earlier the exposure, the longer you can expect before the urges to look at porn go away.

Don’t be discouraged if you’re dealing with a porn addiction that was formed in childhood. While it creates challenges, it can be overcome! We recently heard from one of our members who signed for Covenant Eyes to get control of his addiction, “I’m 68 years old, and for the first time in 58 years, I’ve been porn-free for 35 days, praise God!”

Are they dealing with trauma? 

Many addictions are shaped by traumatic events, such as abuse or the loss of a loved one. Counselor and researcher Jay Stringer writes, “The heaviest consumers of pornography in my research had 8% higher rates of past sexual abuse compared to those who did not watch porn or moderately consumed it.”

When porn use is connected to trauma, it can make recovery much more challenging. Recovery means doing the hard work of honestly examining the painful circumstances of the past and how porn is being used to soothe old wounds or fulfill unmet needs.

What are their withdrawal symptoms? 

Many people recovering from porn addiction report withdrawal symptoms such as fogginess, anxiousness, or decreased sex drive. Dr. Kevin Skinner says most withdrawal symptoms last only two to eight weeks (Treating Pornography Addiction, 41). However, this depends on the symptoms being experienced and their severity. For severe and long-term addictions, expect withdrawal symptoms to last anywhere from one to eight months.

For the fastest possible recovery, you need a realistic plan for dealing with symptoms. If you or someone you know is currently suffering from porn withdrawal symptoms, don’t worry! They don’t have to derail the recovery process. Learn more about symptoms of porn withdrawal.

2. What’s the Level of Involvement With Porn?

We’ve seen the circumstances that often drive porn addiction and are contributing factors to the severity of a person’s porn use. In addition to understanding the circumstances, it’s helpful to determine the level of involvement with porn.

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Dr. Kevin Skinner helpfully describes seven levels you can use for evaluation. In his book, Treating Pornography Addiction, Dr. Skinner explains, “I believe it is much easier to view pornography involvement and addiction on a continuum rather than proclaiming a person addicted or not addicted.”²

Here’s a summary of the seven levels:

  1. Indifference. At this level, someone is not actively seeking out porn. They may have seen porn accidentally, but it hasn’t made much of an impression yet. (People rarely stay at this stage for long.)
  2. Growing curiosity. Dr. Skinner says, “The desire to view pornography does not dominate day-in and day-out thinking. Generally speaking, those who score at this level have recently had an increase in exposure to pornography and are questioning the growing curiosity they feel.”
  3. Occasional viewing. The desire to view pornography has become habitual at this point. The individual isn’t viewing porn every day but nonetheless finds themself returning to it even if they intend not to. At this stage, they start fantasizing about porn while they’re not looking at it.
  4. Regular consumption. Here’s where we start to see more serious problems. At this level, porn may start to have an impact on the person’s other priorities. They may begin to escalate their viewing to more extreme forms of porn. They may have attempted to quit multiple times without success. They can experience withdrawal symptoms when going extended periods of time without porn.
  5.  Increased obsession. In the fifth level, porn is not just a regular habit but almost a daily routine. Even if they don’t look at porn, they’re thinking about looking at porn. Dr. Skinner says, “What initially may have been a hobby or something that was done for entertainment is now a big part of this person’s life.” At this level, they are aware that porn has an outsized influence on their life and have probably experienced negative effects. Quitting is extremely difficult and is starting to feel hopeless.
  6. Domination. Here, pornography has moved to a central place in a person’s life. A day without porn is not a normal day. They feel out of control and unable to quit. Dr. Skinner says, “They are likely to have lost something in their life due to their involvement with pornography. Some people lose a job, others their spouse, others lose their desire for other passions. Still others lose their belief in God.”
  7.  Out of control. Most people don’t reach the final level of involvement with porn—this is where you see extreme examples of irrational behavior. Unfortunately, it does happen. Porn is not only central to their life; porn controls every decision they make. A woman reached out to us recently and told the story of her husband, a retired military veteran. His 40-year porn addiction eventually landed him in prison. “Porn is no joke,” she said. “[He] lost his job, his kids, and his wife.”

Try to understand how serious their involvement is before setting expectations for recovery.

As a general rule, the higher someone is on the scale, the longer it takes to completely break free. An individual at level two or three will likely recover much more quickly than someone at five or six.

On the other hand, people at the lower levels are less likely to be serious about their recovery. Former porn addict Nate Larkin says, “I’m told that four out of five guys who seek help for a sexually compulsive behavior only do so after receiving an ultimatum from a wife or a girlfriend. I’m one of the four.”

3. What Are They Willing to Do to Recover?

The length of time for recovery will vary depending on the circumstances and severity of the addiction, but it also depends on the intensity of their commitment to recovery and what sacrifices they’re willing to make.

Sex addiction therapist Jim Cress has said, “Things that were formed in intensity in my life will be changed through intensity in my recovery.” In other words, how quickly you can break free from porn will depend on the lengths you’re willing to go.

Dr. Doug Weiss says, “You have to be willing to do things you haven’t done before. Seriously, if you keep trying to quit porn the same way, you’re likely to fail again. To stop watching porn for good, you have to give up what you’ve been doing and do what you have to do.” This could include getting counseling or trauma therapy.

4. Do They Have Supportive Allies?

Addictions thrive in isolation. Some medical experts have called addiction “a disease of isolation.”4 Porn, in particular, thrives on feelings of loneliness and shame. Because all people need secure relationships, someone without these relationships is especially vulnerable to a relationship with porn.

One of the most important factors in a person’s recovery is the allies they have to support them. Nobody overcomes porn without understanding friends and loved ones to encourage them on the journey. Porn addiction recovery groups can provide this vital support.

Speaking to allies, sex addiction therapist Dr. Peter Kleponis says, “You need to be totally committed to your friend by being a constant source of support and accountability.” Without people who love unconditionally and support them, recovery is just too difficult to continue.

A Realistic Timeline for Porn Addiction Recovery

As we’ve seen, there are all different levels of porn addiction. All these variables make absolute predictions about recovery time impossible. However, there is research that can help us see how long it takes someone to break free from a serious porn addiction when they’re committed to the process.

Sex addiction expert Patrick Carnes conducted a study that covered five years of addiction recovery. Carnes suggests a timeline for six stages of recovery.5

Porn recovery timeline showing the six stages of recovery: development, crisis, shock, grief, repair, and growth.

1. The Development Stage

This is the stage prior to acknowledging there’s a problem. Some are here only briefly. For others, it takes years. Some people never recognize there’s a problem with porn. The timeline won’t start until someone is past this stage.

2. The Crisis/Decision Stage (0-3 months)

This stage lasts anywhere from one day to three months. “At some point, the addict crosses a line where there is a fundamental commitment to change.” For many, it’s a life-shaking crisis, such as being caught looking at porn at work or a spouse threatening to leave. For others, it’s simply a decisive moment when they choose to no longer be controlled by porn.

3. The Shock Stage (1-8 months)

This stage may be the most difficult for individuals in recovery. Carnes advises, “Disbelief and numbness alternate with anger and feelings of separation. Addicts describe physical symptoms of withdrawal that are at times agonizing. They also report disorientation, confusion, numbness, and inability to focus or concentrate. Feelings of hopelessness and despair become more intense as their sense of reality grows.”

4. The Grief Stage (6 months)

This is where someone begins to deal with the pain caused by porn. They also dig into the underlying causes of their porn use, which can result in a period of deep grieving and emotional turmoil as these issues are unearthed and dealt with.

5. The Repair Stage (18-36 months)

Once the grief stage is complete, the person in recovery focuses on learning balance, self-care, and positive habits that can replace porn. This is an exciting and positive time for people in recovery. Based on Carnes’s timeline, this period can last up to three years.

6. The Growth Stage (2+ years)

This is the final stage of recovery. It marks a mature outlook on life and one’s relationship to porn. They can look back on the addiction to porn with gratitude for what they’ve learned. Dr. Carnes says, “Relationships with partners, friends, children, and family go through a period of renewal. Here, too, is where life-satisfaction measures showed improvement in the study.”

Dr. Carnes found that most slip-ups occur six to twelve months into recovery, but those who persisted experienced increasing success after this.

Celebrate Every Victory on the Journey!

Wherever your friend or loved one is in recovery, it’s important to celebrate each victory. Too many people feel daunted by the long-term aspects of recovery and fail to appreciate how much progress is happening.

Every moment someone chooses to quit porn is worth celebrating. That’s why in 2021, Covenant Eyes started Victory Week—to highlight the small successes in the bigger journey towards freedom. Here are some important milestones you should honor:

  • The decision to ask for help quitting porn. Admitting you have a problem is a big deal! If someone reaches out for help, honor and celebrate that decision.
  • Learning from slip-ups. A slip-up isn’t a reason to celebrate. However, there’s priceless wisdom to be gained from honestly examining mistakes. Learning your triggers and how to avoid them is a reason to celebrate!
  • Thirty porn-free days. Going a whole month without porn is an INCREDIBLE milestone.
  • Every 24 hours of porn-free life. Every day without porn is a day you’re choosing to live a better life. Don’t worry about tomorrow—enjoy the success you’ve had today.

These are just the beginning, but you get the idea. Recovery from porn can be a long journey, but it’s an exciting one!


Keith Rose

Keith Rose holds a Master of Divinity degree and BA in Sacred Music. Keith worked with the Covenant Eyes Member Care Team for 15 years. He has also served as a Bible teacher, pastoral assistant, and music director at his local church. He’s now the editor of the Covenant Eyes blog and the author of Allied: Fighting Porn With Accountability, Faith, and Friends. He lives in Hendersonville, North Carolina with his wife Ruby and daughter Winslow. Contact Keith with blog inquiries.