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What if the problem isn’t that men don’t know enough… but that they’re trying to recover alone?

In this episode of Purity Podcast, Chris sits down with Chandler from Relay (JoinRelay.app) to discuss the role of connection, vulnerability, and community in sexual addiction recovery.

Together they explore:

• Why isolation fuels addiction
• The difference between accountability and genuine connection
• Why many recovery models fail to produce lasting transformation
• The role shame plays in secrecy and relapse
• How healthy male community changes recovery
• Why recovery cannot depend solely on a spouse
• Whether technology can actually support meaningful healing

This conversation is honest, practical, and deeply encouraging for anyone who feels exhausted trying to fight alone.

Today on the Purity Podcast, Chris interviews Dana Hargus, licensed professional counselor and founder of Restore of Ada, about the deep connection between trauma, nervous-system dysregulation, sexual addiction, and betrayal trauma.

This episode explores:

• Why insight, willpower, and accountability alone often fail in sexual addiction recovery
• How porn and compulsive sexual behaviors function as nervous-system regulation tools
• The role of trauma and attachment wounds in relapse cycles
• What betrayed partners experience in their bodies—not just their emotions
• Why safety must be restored before intimacy or reconciliation is possible
• How biofeedback and whole-person healing can create lasting transformation

Learn more about Dana’s work:
Restore of Ada – https://restoreofada.com

This conversation is essential listening for addicts, spouses, and leaders who want recovery that goes deeper than behavior modification.

What does The Hunt for Red October have in common with helping your wife through her pain? 

In this episode, we explore what it actually means to sit with your wife’s pain after betrayal, and why most men struggle to do it well.

Using the framework of CVE: Compassion, Validation, and Empathy, we look at why pain isn’t a problem to solve, but a reality to enter. You’ll hear why explaining, defending, or minimizing often makes things worse, and how true empathy requires proximity, not emotional distance.

We also draw an unexpected parallel between cybersecurity incident response and marriage recovery, unpacking why ignored vulnerabilities create more damage over time—and how moving toward pain can neutralize its destructive power.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why compassion begins with seeing, not fixing
  
• How validation acknowledges reality without surrendering truth
  
• Why empathy is proximity, not detachment
  
• How distancing yourself from pain allows it to grow more destructive
  
• What Scripture teaches about presence, listening, and emotional safety
  

How to repair when you get CVE wrong (because you will)

In this powerful conversation, Chris sits down with Joe Madison, founder of Demand Disruption, an organization dedicated to ending human trafficking by addressing the demand side—the buyers. Joe exposes some of the hardest truths about exploitation, pornography, and the cultural attitudes that fuel the trafficking market.

This episode is a wake-up call for men pursuing purity, integrity, and Christ-centered recovery. Joe explains why fighting demand is essential, how pornography shapes buyer behavior, and what real change looks like inside our churches, communities, and personal lives.

If you’ve ever wondered how your pursuit of purity connects to the fight against human trafficking, this episode will connect the dots in ways you’ve likely never heard before.

Demand Disruption – Learn more about Joe’s work: www.demanddisruption.org

Disruption University – Training and education programs: disruptionu.demanddisruption.org